Interracial Dating

[Lancaster of Wessex]

Now, I'm not going to make a generalization here, but why are some white women very arrogant or hostile to Asian men? I really wish to know. It seems they aren't arrogant to most other groups from my experiences, but why must they be that way towards me?

Hasn't the world seen past prejudice and stereotyping? Or am I on NSG too much?

That's the individual women's problem for being arrogant or hostile to you; it's not just Asian men they could be hostile to, it could be any group, or any person. Their reasons may be irrational or inconsiderate, or just plain racist, but there's no explaining it. Don't take it personally, because frankly you don't know them or their thinking process (or lack thereof; or if you do know how/why they think, well, maybe you have some more insight).

It could also just be that they aren't interested in Asian men. I'm a Caucasian, I love Asian women, and married one. Some Asian women don't like Caucasian men, same as some Caucasian men might not like Black women, etc.

There's no rhyme or reason to it, it's just taste and preference, and as long as it's not just an ignorant racial hatred (which mine isn't), then their taste is their own.

[Dyakovo]

As someone who fits that description, I can at least provide a partial answer...

I am extremely unlikely to date a black woman because I just do not find most of them attractive, primarily I think due to their facial features, specifically the nose... If the woman has a stereotypical wide nose, I just do not find her attractive...

Preferences for certain physical attributes and appearances is NOT "racism." It's time to end the misuse of that particular word, which is rapidly becoming nothing but a leftie term of abuse.

PS: D, since I agree with your post, you may want to reconsider your position.

Ah, so this is what NNLDI was referring to about us agreeing twice in one day...

*Goes out and dates a black woman*

[Pepe Dominguez]

It seems to me that a large proportion (it seems like a majority, honestly, but I know that's statistically unlikely) of couples I see in stores are interracial. Not that we're all perfectly tolerant here (So. California), but it's rare to see a homogenous couple where I am, unless it's homogenous Hispanic/Hispanic.

[Port Arcana]

United Anacreon, I think a lot of the issue is that you're seeing people as "races", when in actuality (from an anthropological or biological point of view), there's no such thing as race. A more correct term might be ethnicity, where as any and all differences (actual or perceived) are products of CULTURE, not GENETICS.

A factually preposterous assertion on its face (so to speak), and tendentious political correctness at its worst. Genetics and only genetics are responsible for actual features such as melanin production, hair texture, nose configuration, tooth structure, skeletal structure, eye color, etc. The fact that forensic anthropologists can reliably determine the race of homicide victims from skeletal evidence is sufficient to refute that statement. And the fact that blacks who have grown up in "white" American suburbs, adopted white American culture and speak perfect unaccented American English remain black rather than magically transforming into whites demonstrates that "culture" does not override "genetics."

I'm not debating that there's no phenotype variations on things such as pigmentation, hair colour, eye colour, etc. But no anthropologists today acknowledge the concept of "racial traits". The idea that specific features are unconditionally assigned to members of certain "races" is completely ridiculous. Within any two populations, there's more genetic variation within groups than between groups. For instance if you compare a population of Inuit Eskimos with a population of Hutus, you would see that there are members of various height, weight, facial structures, skeletal structures, etc within both groups. The idea of "race" is an outdated idea because it is largely focused on the one phenotype of skin colour (white people, black people, brown people etc) where as it completely ignores other phenotypes that are expressed in a much greater variety (body shape, height, weight). Separating humans into groups by skin colour makes as much sense as making "races" out of hair colour, eye colour, etc.

is pigmentation a result of culture? how about nose width? And hair color (Irish red, Swedish blond, Asian black)?

Also, you're making a lot of assumptions because that statement implies that red hair is a trait specifically assigned to people of Irish ethnicity (when in actuality the genetic occurrence of red hair can be found in populations of Russia, central Asia, Northern India, etc) and/or all Irish people have red hair (which isn't true if you've ever been anywhere near Ireland or met Irish people).

[Surote]

Interracial dating is kinda wierd but I'm not againist it competely

[BrightonBurg]

I dont care about race when it comes to dating,as long as she says " yes " If she provides beer,that is a plus..

[Katganistan]

For the same reason some Asians seem to be hostile to non-Asians or half-Asians.
People hate/fear what is not like themselves. It's irrational and stupid, but there you go.

[Voltairian Prospects]

I honestly don't see any problem with interracial dating and I don't see why some people see it as wrong.
I mean most of the girls I have dated have not been the same race as me, considering we ARE all people regardless of the "colour" of our skin.

[Rhodmhire]

We live in a modern society, the majority of NSGers are beyond Race, Creed, and Economic Backgrounds.

I hope all NSGers are beyond race, creed, and economic backgrounds. Putting race especially as a main concern, to me anyways, is primative and idiotic.

Now, this extends to the idea of Interracial Dating, I'm pretty sure that the majority of NSGers are in support of it.

I don't see a valid reason not to support it, or at least have no opinion on in general, since it's not really a major concern due to racial differences being concerning isn't a valid reason to not date someone if they'd be dateable otherwise.

Alas, the world is not NSG. And as an asian american, I am subjected to the worst of stereotypes, people tend to be extremely hostile to me...especially women.

Try being a modest Republican Catholic Theistic Evolutionist in a post-Bush America. But I see your point, although I haven't seen any instances of this happening in person, I can assume it happens, but since I'm a person who doesn't give one about race--at all--I can't see any reasons why.

Now, I'm not going to make a generalization here, but why are some white women very arrogant or hostile to Asian men? I really wish to know. It seems they aren't arrogant to most other groups from my experiences, but why must they be that way towards me?

Hasn't the world seen past prejudice and stereotyping? Or am I on NSG too much?

The bolded--we're talking about humans here...so no, the world hasn't seen past it. Although not seeing past it is ignorant and, in my opinion, one of the causes of the downfall of our civilization, as it has always been. Personally I think putting race as a main concern--in a good or bad sense--is foolish and should never be done.

Sadly, I'm not a woman dating or considering to date an Asian-American man, so I can't really answer that.

Wait...Asian-American? We're still not on board with the whole we're all "Americans" instead of "African-Americans" or "Asian-Americans" or "Hispanic-Americans." I don't want to get off subject, but I don't see why we can't just consider ourselves all "Americans" and just put race behind us in that sense. I thought America was the melting pot of the world.

[The Scandinvans]

To point out I have never had a serious relation with a woman of another race because of the fact I have never had a serious relationship.

[Hayteria]

A deeper question to ask would be "Why do prejudice and stereotypes exist?" I don't actually have an answer to this question, but it seems to me that to explore this subject, this would probably be the best first direction to go in.

--The Democratic States of Cogitation

Because of human nature? o.o

Or some specifically, that our hostility to perceived "outsiders" tends to be a product of our evolution? Maybe the scientific community, psychologists in particular, should investigate it further, but it doesn't seem like much of a mystery to me.

[The Cat-Tribe]

United Anacreon, I think a lot of the issue is that you're seeing people as "races", when in actuality (from an anthropological or biological point of view), there's no such thing as race. A more correct term might be ethnicity, where as any and all differences (actual or perceived) are products of CULTURE, not GENETICS.

A factually preposterous assertion on its face (so to speak), and tendentious political correctness at its worst. Genetics and only genetics are responsible for actual features such as melanin production, hair texture, nose configuration, tooth structure, skeletal structure, eye color, etc. The fact that forensic anthropologists can reliably determine the race of homicide victims from skeletal evidence is sufficient to refute that statement. And the fact that blacks who have grown up in "white" American suburbs, adopted white American culture and speak perfect unaccented American English remain black rather than magically transforming into whites demonstrates that "culture" does not override "genetics."

Meh. Geneticists and anthropologists both tend to agree that race is a socio-political construct with little or no basis in biology or genetics AND that phenotypes do not correlate to significant differences between alleged racial groups.

http://www.aaanet.org/stmts/racepp.htm
http://www.nature.com/ng/journal/v36/n1 ... g1454.html
http://www.genome.org/cgi/content/full/12/6/844
http://www.nature.com/ng/journal/v36/n1 ... g1435.html
http://personal.uncc.edu/jmarks/interes ... imore.html
http://www.pdkintl.org/kappan/k0305muk.htm
http://www.mnh.si.edu/anthro/humanorigins/faq/race.htm
http://www.cartage.org.lb/en/themes/Sci ... gyRace.htm
http://www.sciencemag.org/cgi/content/f ... 5GkJnA&key

As for your statement about a "black" remaining "black," WTF?

[EvilDarkMagicians]

Interracial dating is kinda wierd but I'm not againist it competely

Why do you find it weird?

[Rhodmhire]

Interracial dating is kinda wierd but I'm not againist it competely

What on Earth is weird about it?

[Buffett and Colbert]

Interracial dating is kinda wierd but I'm not againist it competely

Then it's not your business.

[Surote]

Interracial dating is kinda wierd but I'm not againist it competely

What on Earth is weird about it?

Cause you usually think people would be more attracted to there own race and not another that's why i think it's wierd

[Katganistan]

I honestly don't see any problem with interracial dating and I don't see why some people see it as wrong.
I mean most of the girls I have dated have not been the same race as me, considering we ARE all people regardless of the "colour" of our skin.

Precisely.

[Katganistan]

Interracial dating is kinda wierd but I'm not againist it competely

What on Earth is weird about it?

Cause you usually think people would be more attracted to there own race and not another that's why i think it's wierd

We're all humans.

[Colonic Immigration]

I have no problem with it. I'm attracted to Asian women. There's nothing odd about interracial dating.

EDIT: Some people are scared or dislike of what's different to themselves.

[Hayteria]

Anyone else here notice the targeted ads for this thread?

[Surote]

I was raised to be encouraged to date in my race

[The Cat-Tribe]

Vanilla Ice Cream - Stephen Lynch
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5rKETOKA ... re=related

Have a seat and listen, please don't say a thing
The matters of the heart sometimes, the truth will ever sting
Just don't take it personally, this is no attack
But we will never last because I am white and you are.........also white

I only like black girls the brown girls, the café au lait
Caramel girls, and mocca girls just blow me away
If your a nubian, I want you to-be in every fantasy
But if you're a whitey, say nighty-nighty, your just not the girl for me

Oh I hate vanilla ice cream, I like chocolate instead
I hope she likes her soul food with a little Wonder Bread
Don't call it Jungle Fever cause that just isn't right
I am not a racist, some of my best friends are white

I just prefer black girls, the brown girls, the café au lait
A caramel girls and mocca girls just blow me away. If you're a cracker, you better get blacker or else you best get out
It is no mystery, I like a sister see that's what I'm talkin about

Our wedding song will be "Ebony and Ivory", and we'll sing Christmas carols round the old Kwanzaa tree
But color is not the issue here, it's dignity, it's class
It's all about her heart, okay it's partly about that ass
I want me some black girl, the brown girl, the café au lait
A caramel girls, and mocca girls, just blow me away
If you're a honky, you're singin the wrong key, it's the honest truth
The skin that she's dwellin in, must contain melanin, that is the Fountain of Youth.

Thomas Jefferson.

Robert DeNiro.

David Bowie.

To a certain extent...Ted Dansen.

Strom Thurmond!!! Strom Thurmond!!! yeeeahh...

[The Cat-Tribe]

I was raised to be encouraged to date in my race

That is unfortunate. Apparently you were raised by bigots. Need a hug?

[Buffett and Colbert]

I was raised to be encouraged to date in my race

Good to know that you were raised to be intolerrable to people of other ethnicities.

[Voltairian Prospects]

Anyone else here notice the targeted ads for this thread?

Yes... yes I did... it made me chuckle a little bit