True, I was trying to generalise when I shouldn't have. Again, I also don't spend a lot of time talking about the patriarchy, because I think it's too narrow of a concept. Just my opinion, other's have different takes on it. Anyway thanks for pointing that out. Correct me if I'm wrong, but the patriarchy only rewards those who follow the rules, so to speak, so if a man were to step out of his narrowly defined role, he is subject to consequences, thus the patriarchy also negatively affects men.