Ardchoille wrote:SL, it's not victim-blaming to say that those mods who reversed the decision accepted the deleting mod's explanation pointing out to us the issues they saw with the text.
*Sigh.* I don't have a) the stomach for arguments about personal conduct (as opposed to philosophical principles, historical interpretations, or science fiction); b) knowledge of the histories or personalities involved in the convoluted ins and outs of this thread generally; or c) the wine connoiseurial knowledge of, and taste for, soap opera dramatics that would (seem to) be necessary for me to dive in here wholehearted. However.
What you're saying is that Alice did something illegitimate to Bob; Cliff came in and helped Bob towel himself off, and told him that Alice shouldn't have done what she did; but then tried to tell Bob how to avoid the type of his own, Bob's, behavior, that led to Alice doing what she did.
Yeah man, Alice shouldn't have poured her drink on your shirt, but if you wear a different-colored shirt, she probably won't do it again.
Oh, sure, I poured my soda on him - but it was because his pocket square gave me the finger; if he didn't insist on wearing a pocket square, I wouldn't have done it, so tell him I'm sorry I did it, and if he stops with the pocket square, I won't do it again.
That is the definition of blaming the victim. I mean, OK, my line about brass balls might have been over the top, and I'm sorry I didn't show greater restraint in talking about this. But please let's try not to pretend that making out like Bananaistan provoked the deletion of his/her proposal is anything but what it is. If the deletion should not have happened, then that's it. Anything coming after that full stop is by definition an attempt to shift blame onto the victim. Again, sure, it's a game, not a situation where "victim" means victim of a crime, thank heavens. But this kind of attempt to mitigate circumstances a posteriori is illegitimate in any context.