by Four-sided Triangles » Mon Sep 12, 2011 11:08 pm
by The Murtunian Tribes » Mon Sep 12, 2011 11:11 pm
Four-sided Triangles wrote:I've recently come to the conclusion that I'm not asexual. I'm just erotophobic. I'm actually quite terrified about feelings of love and sexuality. I've never pursued a relationship, and I've never fallen in love. If I did ever fall in love, I would avoid the person like the plague due to fear. Hell, I'm nervous around women in general anyway, even if I have no feelings for them to begin with. I'm terrified of most women, and I don't even know why. I'm a freak.
Does anybody else have a fear of love and sexuality? Is anyone else afraid around members of the opposite sex, or the same sex?
by 1000 Cats » Mon Sep 12, 2011 11:13 pm
Norstal wrote:You are a hatiater: one who radiates hate.
Meryuma wrote:No one is more of a cat person than 1000 Cats!
FST wrote:Any sexual desires which can be satiated within a healthy and consensual way should be freed from shame. Bizarre kinks and fetishes are acceptable and nothing to be ashamed of as long as they are acted out in a context where everyone consents and no one is hurt.
by 1000 Cats » Mon Sep 12, 2011 11:14 pm
The Murtunian Tribes wrote:Four-sided Triangles wrote:I've recently come to the conclusion that I'm not asexual. I'm just erotophobic. I'm actually quite terrified about feelings of love and sexuality. I've never pursued a relationship, and I've never fallen in love. If I did ever fall in love, I would avoid the person like the plague due to fear. Hell, I'm nervous around women in general anyway, even if I have no feelings for them to begin with. I'm terrified of most women, and I don't even know why. I'm a freak.
Does anybody else have a fear of love and sexuality? Is anyone else afraid around members of the opposite sex, or the same sex?
Is being asexual even a thing? Unless you're a eunuch or something.
Norstal wrote:You are a hatiater: one who radiates hate.
Meryuma wrote:No one is more of a cat person than 1000 Cats!
FST wrote:Any sexual desires which can be satiated within a healthy and consensual way should be freed from shame. Bizarre kinks and fetishes are acceptable and nothing to be ashamed of as long as they are acted out in a context where everyone consents and no one is hurt.
by The Parkus Empire » Mon Sep 12, 2011 11:17 pm
by Four-sided Triangles » Mon Sep 12, 2011 11:17 pm
The Murtunian Tribes wrote:Typically most people are afraid of the opposite sex due to fear of rejection. I'm also not buying that you have no feelings for women to begin with otherwise you wouldn't have enough of a basis to fear them.
by Zebbstar » Mon Sep 12, 2011 11:19 pm
Thalam wrote:Also, you gotta love a thread full of non-atheists telling atheists what atheists believe.
by The Floridian Coast » Mon Sep 12, 2011 11:20 pm
by The Murtunian Tribes » Mon Sep 12, 2011 11:22 pm
Four-sided Triangles wrote:The Murtunian Tribes wrote:Typically most people are afraid of the opposite sex due to fear of rejection. I'm also not buying that you have no feelings for women to begin with otherwise you wouldn't have enough of a basis to fear them.
The idea of having sex scares me, and I've never pursued a relationship even slightly. I tell everyone that I'm asexual if they ask. Why would I be afraid around women that I'm not even trying to form a bond with?
If you must know, I'm terrified of having sex because I always picture it as me being weak and vulnerable. I also find the idea of being in a sexual relationship embarrassing. I'm embarrassed by sexuality, but only when it's me or someone I know that's involved. I feel weird when I hear about people I know having sex.
by Zebbstar » Mon Sep 12, 2011 11:23 pm
Four-sided Triangles wrote:The Murtunian Tribes wrote:Typically most people are afraid of the opposite sex due to fear of rejection. I'm also not buying that you have no feelings for women to begin with otherwise you wouldn't have enough of a basis to fear them.
The idea of having sex scares me, and I've never pursued a relationship even slightly. I tell everyone that I'm asexual if they ask. Why would I be afraid around women that I'm not even trying to form a bond with?
If you must know, I'm terrified of having sex because I always picture it as me being weak and vulnerable. I also find the idea of being in a sexual relationship embarrassing. I'm embarrassed by sexuality, but only when it's me or someone I know that's involved. I feel weird when I hear about people I know having sex.
Thalam wrote:Also, you gotta love a thread full of non-atheists telling atheists what atheists believe.
by Idealismania » Mon Sep 12, 2011 11:38 pm
Four-sided Triangles wrote:I've recently come to the conclusion that I'm not asexual. I'm just erotophobic. I'm actually quite terrified about feelings of love and sexuality. I've never pursued a relationship, and I've never fallen in love. If I did ever fall in love, I would avoid the person like the plague due to fear. Hell, I'm nervous around women in general anyway, even if I have no feelings for them to begin with. I'm terrified of most women, and I don't even know why. I'm a freak.
Does anybody else have a fear of love and sexuality? Is anyone else afraid around members of the opposite sex, or the same sex?
by Idealismania » Mon Sep 12, 2011 11:42 pm
by The Murtunian Tribes » Mon Sep 12, 2011 11:44 pm
Idealismania wrote:I do notice I am most comfortable around females that I don't have desire to be in a deep relationship with. I'm somewhat socially awkard and definately not a stud so I'm not so great when it comes to getting ladies and I experience a lot of rejection. But I'm not scared of them or anything, but I'm definately more confident around people when I don't care what they think about me.
by Four-sided Triangles » Mon Sep 12, 2011 11:45 pm
Idealismania wrote:Is this an epic case of the fear of rejection or failure?
by Timurid Empire » Mon Sep 12, 2011 11:46 pm
by Natty Narwhal » Mon Sep 12, 2011 11:49 pm
by Idealismania » Mon Sep 12, 2011 11:49 pm
The Murtunian Tribes wrote:Idealismania wrote:I do notice I am most comfortable around females that I don't have desire to be in a deep relationship with. I'm somewhat socially awkard and definately not a stud so I'm not so great when it comes to getting ladies and I experience a lot of rejection. But I'm not scared of them or anything, but I'm definately more confident around people when I don't care what they think about me.
Probably why you use the internet, huh?
by The Murtunian Tribes » Mon Sep 12, 2011 11:49 pm
Four-sided Triangles wrote:Idealismania wrote:Is this an epic case of the fear of rejection or failure?
Well I am so afraid of failure that I used to get pissed at myself when I got a 99% on tests in college, but that's not the issue.
The real issue is that I'm embarrassed by love and sexuality, especially sexuality. Admitting to sexuality is admitting to being vulnerable and having weaknesses. I'm afraid of people seeing my weakness. You don't know how hard it was for me to even start this OP, and I don't even know you people. You're the first ones I've ever admitted this to. Even my entire family thinks I'm completely asexual.
by Slaytesics » Mon Sep 12, 2011 11:49 pm
Timurid Empire wrote:I do not understand people like this. How can you fear any human being or interaction with them? We are all Human, and we all bleed the same. Unless their a Hemophiliac.
Timurid Empire wrote:I do not understand people like this. How can you fear any human being or interaction with them? We are all Human, and we all bleed the same. Unless their a Hemophiliac.
Ranbo wrote:Heey! I'm not perv!
You name it, you claim it. You were the one that thought of it in the first place. :p
by Idealismania » Mon Sep 12, 2011 11:53 pm
Four-sided Triangles wrote:Idealismania wrote:Is this an epic case of the fear of rejection or failure?
Well I am so afraid of failure that I used to get pissed at myself when I got a 99% on tests in college, but that's not the issue.
The real issue is that I'm embarrassed by love and sexuality, especially sexuality. Admitting to sexuality is admitting to being vulnerable and having weaknesses. I'm afraid of people seeing my weakness. You don't know how hard it was for me to even start this OP, and I don't even know you people. You're the first ones I've ever admitted this to. Even my entire family thinks I'm completely asexual.
by Four-sided Triangles » Mon Sep 12, 2011 11:56 pm
The Murtunian Tribes wrote:This reads as both masochistic AND narcissistic at the same time, and that's not easy to do.
by Four-sided Triangles » Tue Sep 13, 2011 12:00 am
Idealismania wrote:I think you might have had some serious oppressive views being forced on you in regards to sex during your upbringing. Being sexual is a human characteristic. It's not a weakness to want to have that deep connection with another human. And it's not just the physical connection, but an even deeper one that forms with the person as well. In fact I'm pretty sure the bible (I'm ONLY bringing religion into this because I remember you from another topic and I think I remember you as being on the side of there is a God. I don't want this to become about religious morals) only describes one person ever has having no interest as far as sex goes and that's the antichrist (in the book of Daniel near the end).
Props for putting yourself out there It's tough to open up about some stuff, even on the internet.
BTW how old are you?
by The Murtunian Tribes » Tue Sep 13, 2011 12:01 am
Four-sided Triangles wrote:The Murtunian Tribes wrote:This reads as both masochistic AND narcissistic at the same time, and that's not easy to do.
I feel like everyone is always silently judging me and keeping a mental note of every single one of my failures. I feel that nearly all of them secretly hate me.
Yeah, I'm probably fucked in the head.
No, my parents never abused me at all. In fact, I was quite spoiled when I was growing up. My mother doted on me and bought me everything I wanted. My father bailed me out of my fuck-ups, but he also found fault with everything I did. But aren't all fathers extremely critical of their sons?
Nah, I think it's genetic. My whole mother's family consists of people with clinically diagnosed anxiety disorders and schizotypal personalities. I'm just naturally a head case.
by Idealismania » Tue Sep 13, 2011 12:04 am
Four-sided Triangles wrote:The Murtunian Tribes wrote:This reads as both masochistic AND narcissistic at the same time, and that's not easy to do.
I feel like everyone is always silently judging me and keeping a mental note of every single one of my failures. I feel that nearly all of them secretly hate me.
Yeah, I'm probably fucked in the head.
No, my parents never abused me at all. In fact, I was quite spoiled when I was growing up. My mother doted on me and bought me everything I wanted. My father bailed me out of my fuck-ups, but he also found fault with everything I did. But aren't all fathers extremely critical of their sons?
Nah, I think it's genetic. My whole mother's family consists of people with clinically diagnosed anxiety disorders and schizotypal personalities. I'm just naturally a head case.
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