Lower Nubia wrote:Sordhau wrote:So I've sort of lost track of how long it's been since I last watched porn but I think it's been around 4-5 months now? Either way this is tremendous progress for me. I still get urges and deal with them appropriately, which is y'know not great, but at least I'm not watching porn while doing it. I have had marginal success at suppressing said urges in general. That's much harder, though. Doesn't always work out.
I still think having a girlfriend might make this easier. Like, Paul talks about people who can't be celibate because they can't control their urges and says it's better for them to be married if that's the case. I identify with that a bit; I think I'm just one of those people, but I'm too socially awkward to be an adulterer (which I'm pretty sure is what he was trying to prevent) so I just sit here with nothing but my hand to keep me company which is just... pathetic.
Lust is the worst sin. It's the hardest to fight and the easiest to fall victim to.
A wife. A girlfriend would just transfer the sin from masturbation to fornication.
I’d also be cautious that simply having a wife is an easy fix for masturbation and pornography, it’s absolutely normal for masturbation to still accompany married life which makes it a constant issue to deal with if it’s an issue now.
Tbh I don't believe it should be considered fornication to have sex with someone you're dating. Dating today isn't really the same as the courting of old. In many respects the barriers between having an SO and a spouse have been blurred to the point that functionally speaking the only real differences are ceremonial. Marriage doesn't carry the economic or political connotations it had in the Apostolic Era. At least not within the confines of Christendom.
And I'm aware that having a wife/girlfriend doesn't automatically mean an end to masturbation. I just think it'd be easier to avoid when I could just have sex instead.
Duvniask wrote:I will never understand people who are ashamed at their own sexuality.
That's cool, yo. No one asked tho.