Dumb Ideologies wrote:To repost what I said on RWDT about this; I know from personal experience that people can be tricked into such relationships at a time of emotional vulnerability - people make out that they're interested in a relationship and then once you've gone far enough to get invested they drop in that lol you have to share. Similarly if normalised you have cheaters trying the "muh identity, stop oppressing me!" line to gaslight people. I have seen several such relationships where the people involved plainly shouldn't have been in them. They also tend to destruct very explosively, and because of the "web" loads of people get dragged into it.
It should not get formal recognition. Normalising it would facilitate too much exploitation and abuse. The existing situation where it is marginal and not widely recognised is sufficient - there are social costs to adopting such forms so those who stick to it nevertheless will generally only be those very invested in it. Society needs to accept that there are exceptions to the normal ways of doing things, but they need to remain exceptions.
That's reasonable.