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by Freaneet » Wed Aug 28, 2019 5:58 am
by Chestaan » Wed Aug 28, 2019 5:58 am
Kaltovar wrote:I personally feel like some restrictions can even be toxic if they're agreed in advance. There are some pretty desperate people out there who are dating a person way outta their league which is GOOD but ... A lot of times they don't have the power to reject the demands the other is making of them. Like they can, but they're so desperate for a relationship that they become easily controlled.
A friend of mine now lives with a girl (Sorry I used a woman as an example, as apparently that means I'm bashing women ... Except no, I've seen just as many men being controlling nublets) who insists on joining EVERY SKYPE CALL and EVERY GAME we play together. She's always asking him what he's doing, needs to know every moment of his life, and when the dude came and visited me OUT OF STATE and we were smoking weed he felt the need to let her know what was happening and text her every 10 minutes.
From the perspective of men, I have a neighbor (Single, wonder why) who insists that it would be unacceptable for his partner to
1: Fail to shave her legs at any point for any reason
2: Wear revealing clothing
3: Have a "Leadership role" in "society"
4: "Get too talk-backity"
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The issue here is that I know people of both genders who seriously are desperate enough for attention that they'd put up with that crap and get sucked into it like a black hole. I think there's a genuine power dynamic there which is being abused by the one making demands.
The ideal relationship would relax restrictions over time as you gain more trust in each other, and should be open to discussion - A good partner both has respect for the freedom of their spouse, but should also be granted respect with things that make them really uncomfortable.
Example? At first my partner was not comfortable with my gun collection and wanted it gone. Did I do that? Fuuuck no. What I did was agree to keep it locked up and out of their sight ... A few years later they're pro Second Amendment and want me to buy MORE guns. Healthy relationships involve granting concessions like that, and change of both parties over time.
by Kaltovar » Wed Aug 28, 2019 6:01 am
Chestaan wrote:snip.
by Kaltovar » Wed Aug 28, 2019 6:01 am
Freaneet wrote:Porn is cheating, and not only that it is destructive.
by Chestaan » Wed Aug 28, 2019 6:02 am
Freaneet wrote:Porn is cheating, and not only that it is destructive.
by Chestaan » Wed Aug 28, 2019 6:03 am
by Saiwania » Wed Aug 28, 2019 6:05 am
by Freaneet » Wed Aug 28, 2019 6:05 am
by Kaltovar » Wed Aug 28, 2019 6:06 am
Saiwania wrote:Relationships are a two way street, in that you have to bring value to the table to qualify for someone of quality. Nothing wrong with having some standards, but you can't aim out of your league either.
Ladies, forget anything about being treated like a princess. That is unrealistic. If you can't cook, clean, etc. you aren't going to keep any man for the long term. Same as how a man isn't going to keep any woman if he doesn't stay in physical shape, has his hygiene and game down, and earns decent money and can take care of himself to a minimum.
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Capital: Kota Batu | Sultan: Haji Farid Bolkiah | Religion: Islam | Government: Sultanate | Location: Oceania and Southeast Asia
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by Kaltovar » Wed Aug 28, 2019 6:42 am
Bruneian Malaya wrote:Demanding that their partner not need to follow religious priorities around them.
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