Galloism wrote:And you should, but let's face it - not everyone is going to find someone, and saying "you're a sucky person if you can't 'get' a woman" isn't helping. It's part of that feedback loop that i briefly referenced.
Person is unlucky or has a disability, and has trouble finding love.
Society says "You suck."
You isolate yourself from society because no one likes being told they suck.
The are even more unlucky.
Society says "you suck so bad it's not even funny."
You isolate yourself from society even more, but because all humans need some kind of interaction, you look for someone who will actually not tell you you suck.
You find an incel forum.
Society says "You suck and you're DANGEROUS!"
Incel forum says "it's not all you, society just sucks"
You find an ally against society telling you you suck all the time.
This is actually how extremism happens, and doubling down on "you suck" doesn't break the cycle of extremism - it reinforces it.
I'm not saying "you suck" I'm saying "you're doing something terrible." The problem isn't your height, it's not your hairline, or the size of your penis. It's something you're doing. It's the way your meeting people, it's the way you're approaching people, or it's the way you're talking to people. You are not meeting enough people, you are not interacting with people enough, or some aspect of your interaction is terrible. The problem isn't that all women want the same thing it's that nobody wants what you're doing. The solution is to do something different, go new places, try new things.
If it's caused by a disability fine but the only thing you can do is seek treatment but wallowing in the idea that all the stacys just want chads isn't going to do shit for you.