Nanatsu no Tsuki wrote:Ostroeuropa wrote:
As i've said before, I don't read Elams shit. I've read two articles and decided he isn't worth my time.
Which is a common opinion among the MRM, as i've also pointed out before.
It's also worth pointing out that elam explicitly says he's doing it to get attention and thinks he's the malcolm x of the movement.
Most MRAs i talk to think he's a prat.
I'm allowed to distance myself from him and denounce him and such, and so is the movement, because guess what.
We didn't up and install him into a place where he has power over peoples lives, then um and ah about how we made a mistake but it certainly isn't reflective of our movement. (Despite us constantly pulling this shit.)
We can denounce him and such because, at the end of it, he's just some asshole with a blog.
Bindel isn't.
That's a big difference. I've never claimed the MRM is without hateful idiots. What i've claimed is it isn't a hate movement, and feminism is.
There is a clear difference between hateful people in the MRM, and hateful people in feminism.
The latter get supported by the movement into positions of authority.
The former get "Ehh, they kinda suck."
Again, those in glass houses... Claiming that feminism is a hateful movement, all of it, like you often do, is, really, childish. Some elements of the movement are shit, but you condemning the entirety of it smacks me of pettiness and sounds like you're being rabid.
Until you recognize that feminism, as a movement, has a history of oppressing men and that its' relationship on the whole has been oppressive to them, you are a part of the problem because you're erasing male victimization.
It's, again, like arguing that because not all cops are racist that things are fine.
"Why don't you be more appreciative of the fact our movement sometimes treats you like a human being? It's not like it's ALWAYS treating you like dirt or oppressing you, sometimes it's in our interests to treat you better than that because doing so gets us something we want, so see? We can agree on things and be decent to eachother! And sometimes we're feeling benevolent instead of masochistic, but it's not like it's, you know, all the time that this movement is awful to you, so Why do you keep insisting the feminist movements relationship with men is that it oppresses them? You must just not understand feminism. I mean, we've got a black president and everything. I just don't get what these people want from us. Why can't they just admit we're not a bigoted organization. It's them though, not us. I'm sure of that. All those instances of discrimination, those are akin to isolated incidents or something. If you aren't comfortable talking about your experience here, that's your fault. You just don't get feminism. It's not that we don't get your experience of it and refuse to understand that we are privileged in it, that's not possible, because some men tell us they don't agree with you... oh well yeh, but... Yeh, but your women supporters have internalized knees, so that's different."
Until you recognize that feminisms rhetoric, frame of reference, focus, history, terminology, etc, is all steeped in shit that causes the movement to oppress men, you're a part of the problem.
I'd really like to know why you call yourself a feminist. Seriously. What about identifying with them appeals to you. What have they done to make you identify with them.




