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by Right-Wing Anarchy of Egoism » Tue Sep 30, 2014 4:46 pm
by The Flood » Tue Sep 30, 2014 4:47 pm
No, this 'none of your business' attittude people have nowadays is a product of our selfish individualistic culture. You SHOULD be concerned with the well being of others, rather then shrugging it off as 'none of your business'.The Orson Empire wrote:The Flood wrote:The answer is yes, unless one is a selfish prick with no concern for the well being of other people.
It's really none of your business, dude. You can't tell people how they should live their lives. After all, it is very arrogant and narcissist to assume your way of living is the best and that everyone should follow it.
by Ethel mermania » Tue Sep 30, 2014 4:48 pm
Naretion wrote:Ethel mermania wrote:
most families have kids, so i would think i am the one being more general, and you are the one addressing the smaller subset..
geting out of a relationship is an inherently selfish act. your not doing it for the other people, your doing it for yourself.
Perhaps you could look at it that way across the board but for example, would leaving a relationship were you are subject to physical abuse and rape really be selfish? If that is really how you view it then I guess I'd prefer to be selfish than at-risk.
Also to respond to the first half, a relationship is a choice. Just because two people get divorced doesn't mean that they can't both provide equally to their kids. If one person doesnt allow the other into the children's lives then that is selfish. Choosing to have a divorce, not so much since that is not what directly affects those relationships, that is an indirect result of the divorcee's selfishness.
by Ikania » Tue Sep 30, 2014 4:49 pm
by Giovenith » Tue Sep 30, 2014 4:49 pm
The Flood wrote:No, this 'none of your business' attittude people have nowadays is a product of our selfish individualistic culture. You SHOULD be concerned with the well being of others, rather then shrugging it off as 'none of your business'.The Orson Empire wrote:It's really none of your business, dude. You can't tell people how they should live their lives. After all, it is very arrogant and narcissist to assume your way of living is the best and that everyone should follow it.
by Right-Wing Anarchy of Egoism » Tue Sep 30, 2014 4:51 pm
The Flood wrote:No, this 'none of your business' attittude people have nowadays is a product of our selfish individualistic culture. You SHOULD be concerned with the well being of others, rather then shrugging it off as 'none of your business'.The Orson Empire wrote:It's really none of your business, dude. You can't tell people how they should live their lives. After all, it is very arrogant and narcissist to assume your way of living is the best and that everyone should follow it.
by The imperial canadian dutchy » Tue Sep 30, 2014 4:52 pm
by Ethel mermania » Tue Sep 30, 2014 4:52 pm
Ikania wrote:No people with a mutual dislike for each other should be forced to live in the same home. My parents divorced when I was 8, and it's had little to no negative effects on my growing up.
by Ikania » Tue Sep 30, 2014 4:55 pm
Ethel mermania wrote:Ikania wrote:No people with a mutual dislike for each other should be forced to live in the same home. My parents divorced when I was 8, and it's had little to no negative effects on my growing up.
it had no affect on household expenditures? your dad and mom were both able to pay for two households at the same cost as one?
by Naretion » Tue Sep 30, 2014 4:57 pm
Ethel mermania wrote:Naretion wrote:Perhaps you could look at it that way across the board but for example, would leaving a relationship were you are subject to physical abuse and rape really be selfish? If that is really how you view it then I guess I'd prefer to be selfish than at-risk.
Also to respond to the first half, a relationship is a choice. Just because two people get divorced doesn't mean that they can't both provide equally to their kids. If one person doesnt allow the other into the children's lives then that is selfish. Choosing to have a divorce, not so much since that is not what directly affects those relationships, that is an indirect result of the divorcee's selfishness.
your getting closer, being selfish isnt always a bad thing. getting out of a bad relationship is a smart decision, but its a selfish one.
whether divorce is good or bad for kids is a differnt topic, but the numbers are fairly clear, kids from broken homes do worse than kids from intact ones. however since i think the parents happiness is more important than the kids. i dont have an issue with people getting a divorce, and how divorce is handled.
by The Flood » Tue Sep 30, 2014 4:59 pm
Why the hell do you think the parents' happiness is more important then the kids?Ethel mermania wrote:Naretion wrote:Perhaps you could look at it that way across the board but for example, would leaving a relationship were you are subject to physical abuse and rape really be selfish? If that is really how you view it then I guess I'd prefer to be selfish than at-risk.
Also to respond to the first half, a relationship is a choice. Just because two people get divorced doesn't mean that they can't both provide equally to their kids. If one person doesnt allow the other into the children's lives then that is selfish. Choosing to have a divorce, not so much since that is not what directly affects those relationships, that is an indirect result of the divorcee's selfishness.
your getting closer, being selfish isnt always a bad thing. getting out of a bad relationship is a smart decision, but its a selfish one.
whether divorce is good or bad for kids is a differnt topic, but the numbers are fairly clear, kids from broken homes do worse than kids from intact ones. however since i think the parents happiness is more important than the kids. i dont have an issue with people getting a divorce, and how divorce is handled.
by The Flood » Tue Sep 30, 2014 5:01 pm
No, divorce is not for the well being of the children. If no one is being abused, divorce is immoral and should not be allowed. The couple should work through their problems (which is always possible), instead of quitting and ruining their children's lives.Giovenith wrote:You know getting a divorce is often for the well-being of the people in the former relationship, yes? It's not healthy to be around someone you've grown to despise. Maybe I think it's selfish of you to expect them to suffer each other for the illusion of perfection.The Flood wrote:No, this 'none of your business' attittude people have nowadays is a product of our selfish individualistic culture. You SHOULD be concerned with the well being of others, rather then shrugging it off as 'none of your business'.
by Ethel mermania » Tue Sep 30, 2014 5:03 pm
Naretion wrote:Ethel mermania wrote:
your getting closer, being selfish isnt always a bad thing. getting out of a bad relationship is a smart decision, but its a selfish one.
whether divorce is good or bad for kids is a differnt topic, but the numbers are fairly clear, kids from broken homes do worse than kids from intact ones. however since i think the parents happiness is more important than the kids. i dont have an issue with people getting a divorce, and how divorce is handled.
True. I suppose when I hear "selfish" i consider it more of an insult to the person and it being a way of calling the person "bad". So I suppose yes in that case it would be selfish, but by no means bad, which is how I interpreted the question of this thread.
by Giovenith » Tue Sep 30, 2014 5:06 pm
The Flood wrote:Why the hell do you think the parents' happiness is more important then the kids?Ethel mermania wrote:your getting closer, being selfish isnt always a bad thing. getting out of a bad relationship is a smart decision, but its a selfish one.
whether divorce is good or bad for kids is a differnt topic, but the numbers are fairly clear, kids from broken homes do worse than kids from intact ones. however since i think the parents happiness is more important than the kids. i dont have an issue with people getting a divorce, and how divorce is handled.
Geez, I hope you don't have kids. Not if you honestly think it's right to put yourself before them.
by Ethel mermania » Tue Sep 30, 2014 5:06 pm
The Flood wrote:Why the hell do you think the parents' happiness is more important then the kids?Ethel mermania wrote:your getting closer, being selfish isnt always a bad thing. getting out of a bad relationship is a smart decision, but its a selfish one.
whether divorce is good or bad for kids is a differnt topic, but the numbers are fairly clear, kids from broken homes do worse than kids from intact ones. however since i think the parents happiness is more important than the kids. i dont have an issue with people getting a divorce, and how divorce is handled.
Geez, I hope you don't have kids. Not if you honestly think it's right to put yourself before them.
by Vamtrl » Tue Sep 30, 2014 5:09 pm
Jumalariik wrote:Is it a right for parents to get divorced and is it selfish?
This is not a complicated question. Simply put, when parents get divorced, children suffer. Be it through feeling that they are the cause, custody battles, weird boyfriend/girlfriends of parents, confusion, getting trapped in the middle of conflicts, etc. Is it selfish of parents to be divorced knowing this is true?
My parents were divorced when I was young, and still today, I get caught up in the conflicts that they have between each other over who has me when. I don't really care so long as I have a roof over my head, however, I'm a lucky one, many kids/teenagers do not have the luck of having two good parents in this case, I think that it is inherently selfish for parents to get divorced, however, it is often the better solution, what about you NSG?
by Right-Wing Anarchy of Egoism » Tue Sep 30, 2014 5:09 pm
The Flood wrote:Why the hell do you think the parents' happiness is more important then the kids?Ethel mermania wrote:your getting closer, being selfish isnt always a bad thing. getting out of a bad relationship is a smart decision, but its a selfish one.
whether divorce is good or bad for kids is a differnt topic, but the numbers are fairly clear, kids from broken homes do worse than kids from intact ones. however since i think the parents happiness is more important than the kids. i dont have an issue with people getting a divorce, and how divorce is handled.
Geez, I hope you don't have kids. Not if you honestly think it's right to put yourself before them.
The Flood wrote:No, divorce is not for the well being of the children. If no one is being abused, divorce is immoral and should not be allowed. The couple should work through their problems (which is always possible), instead of quitting and ruining their children's lives.Giovenith wrote:You know getting a divorce is often for the well-being of the people in the former relationship, yes? It's not healthy to be around someone you've grown to despise. Maybe I think it's selfish of you to expect them to suffer each other for the illusion of perfection.
by Giovenith » Tue Sep 30, 2014 5:17 pm
The Flood wrote:No, divorce is not for the well being of the children. If no one is being abused, divorce is immoral and should not be allowed. The couple should work through their problems (which is always possible), instead of quitting and ruining their children's lives.Giovenith wrote:You know getting a divorce is often for the well-being of the people in the former relationship, yes? It's not healthy to be around someone you've grown to despise. Maybe I think it's selfish of you to expect them to suffer each other for the illusion of perfection.
by Naretion » Tue Sep 30, 2014 5:22 pm
The Flood wrote:If no one is being abused, divorce is immoral and should not be allowed.
by Ethel mermania » Tue Sep 30, 2014 5:30 pm
Giovenith wrote:The Flood wrote:No, divorce is not for the well being of the children. If no one is being abused, divorce is immoral and should not be allowed. The couple should work through their problems (which is always possible), instead of quitting and ruining their children's lives.
One of the key components of raising healthy children is for the parents to be able to cooperate and collaborate with each other. If they can't do that, they can't help their children, because they're too busy being angry with seeing each other every day. There are plenty of divorced couples who, when no longer burdened with the misery of living together, are able to better communicate and assist their kids. Some couples remain friends, even if they're not in love. They are not required to be in love or live together to raise a child, all that is required is that they both love the child and are able to peacefully make decisions to better that child's future. Some people can do that under one roof, others can only do it under separate. If they're mature and smart about it, it is not going to ruin the child's life. It will be difficult, but the child can move on, kids are lot stronger than you think. Divorce does not destroy everyone.
by The Flood » Tue Sep 30, 2014 5:30 pm
No, selfishness is by definition, bad. Selfishness is not simply doing something for one's self, it is doing something for one's self without regard for others.Naretion wrote:Ethel mermania wrote:your getting closer, being selfish isnt always a bad thing. getting out of a bad relationship is a smart decision, but its a selfish one.
whether divorce is good or bad for kids is a differnt topic, but the numbers are fairly clear, kids from broken homes do worse than kids from intact ones. however since i think the parents happiness is more important than the kids. i dont have an issue with people getting a divorce, and how divorce is handled.
True. I suppose when I hear "selfish" i consider it more of an insult to the person and it being a way of calling the person "bad". So I suppose yes in that case it would be selfish, but by no means bad, which is how I interpreted the question of this thread.
by Right-Wing Anarchy of Egoism » Tue Sep 30, 2014 5:33 pm
The Flood wrote:No, selfishness is by definition, bad. Selfishness is not simply doing something for one's self, it is doing something for one's self without regard for others.Naretion wrote:True. I suppose when I hear "selfish" i consider it more of an insult to the person and it being a way of calling the person "bad". So I suppose yes in that case it would be selfish, but by no means bad, which is how I interpreted the question of this thread.
Wikipedia wrote:Selfishness is being concerned, sometimes excessively or exclusively, with concern for oneself or one's own advantage, pleasure, or welfare, regardless of others.
by Naretion » Tue Sep 30, 2014 5:33 pm
The Flood wrote:No, selfishness is by definition, bad. Selfishness is not simply doing something for one's self, it is doing something for one's self without regard for others.Naretion wrote:True. I suppose when I hear "selfish" i consider it more of an insult to the person and it being a way of calling the person "bad". So I suppose yes in that case it would be selfish, but by no means bad, which is how I interpreted the question of this thread.
by The Flood » Tue Sep 30, 2014 5:35 pm
Yeah? Why's that?Right-Wing Anarchy of Egoism wrote:The Flood wrote:Why the hell do you think the parents' happiness is more important then the kids?
Geez, I hope you don't have kids. Not if you honestly think it's right to put yourself before them.The Flood wrote:No, divorce is not for the well being of the children. If no one is being abused, divorce is immoral and should not be allowed. The couple should work through their problems (which is always possible), instead of quitting and ruining their children's lives.
To be quite honest, after reading your views, I would be more concerned about my own kids if I were you.
by The Flood » Tue Sep 30, 2014 5:37 pm
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