The Dating thread

[Rebellious Fishermen]

I've got a serious question for you guys...

Would you ever date a physically disabled person? You know, like, a person without an eye, leg or arm... I've been thinking a lot about this lately, and I want to know your thoughts on the matter. And if you would, what do you think would be some of the complications of doing so? How different do you think it'll be, and how would you manage it?

She better have a rocking rest of her body and a great personality.

[Torisakia]

>Be me, oblivious high school freshman
>Go to the Anime Club
>President is hot, wears renaissance type stuff often just for fun
>She's totally out of my league and almost 3 years older than I am
>Give up
>Three years later she invites me to the mall
>Great time, I'm her 'boyfriend for the day'
>Week later, definitely together as a couple
>Hanging out
>Find out she's been planning to jump my bones since freshman year
>Happiness
>Successful relationship so far

>Rock hard
>But it wasn't a rock
>It was a rock lobster!

Wait, wait, your school has an Anime Club?

I want ALSDE fired and dismantled for this. Or just petition for my school to start an Anime Club.

I've got a serious question for you guys...

Would you ever date a physically disabled person? You know, like, a person without an eye, leg or arm... I've been thinking a lot about this lately, and I want to know your thoughts on the matter. And if you would, what do you think would be some of the complications of doing so? How different do you think it'll be, and how would you manage it?

Depends. What're her favorite positions?

[Captiotia]

I've got a serious question for you guys...

Would you ever date a physically disabled person? You know, like, a person without an eye, leg or arm... I've been thinking a lot about this lately, and I want to know your thoughts on the matter. And if you would, what do you think would be some of the complications of doing so? How different do you think it'll be, and how would you manage it?

Yeah. Of course. How would I manage? That obviously has a lot to do with the exact situation. I'd do whatever I needed to for them.

[Antarticaria]

I've got a serious question for you guys...

Would you ever date a physically disabled person? You know, like, a person without an eye, leg or arm... I've been thinking a lot about this lately, and I want to know your thoughts on the matter. And if you would, what do you think would be some of the complications of doing so? How different
do you think it'll be, and how would you manage it?

I wish I could say I would definitely 100% date a physically disabled person however I cannot say for certain and to do so would be to lie and create a character that is not me...
If I was dating her before she became physically disabled then I think I would keep going because at that point I obviously have feelings for the person.

[Gingeska]

Reading a lot of this stuff makes me glad that, although I've dated some crazy bitches, they've never viewed my opinion on TV shows or music as if it were an actually relationship problem.

Most of the girls I've dated like the same stuff as me anyway.

[The Greater Aryan Race]

Not really, why would it?

Well apparently where I come from, it is considered bad taste and outlandish if a teenager has a deep fondness for classical music. Something to do with being "nerdy" and "uncool".

Maybe some people just aren't attracted to you and are more interested in you as a friend. Why do you always assume it has to do with your interests? If they were annoyed/judgmental because of your interests they wouldn't want to be friends with you.

Which probably explains why I have very little friends.

But no, people are not attracted to me because apparently, I'm "too nice and caring".

[The Predator Federation]

never ever been in a relationship never asked someone out, flirted however I do lead a good social life

[Springedge]

I feel like I have to make something more clear.

The disabled person I was talking about was a he, which makes it significantly worse. And, his disability is sadly very visible- it's on his face, actually.

I know a lot of people don't approach him at all, mainly because of his disability. He isn't really a bad person, though. He's not very sociable because of his disability, and, well, he says he probably won't ever be in a relationship. I mean, you have to talk to somebody in order to develop feelings for him/her, and when you don't, well, I suppose it's not really possible to fall for his appearance, either, given his disability. He's pretty sensitive when it comes to this subject. He says he's grown used to 'seeing people choose not to sit next to him' because of his disability. Part of me wants to believe that a person like him can also be happy, preferably with a significant other, but... Well, when I think about his life, I don't really think he can be like everyone else.

And that makes me sad. I wish society were more acceptive of the disabled.
Anyways, thanks for answering me, guys!

[Captiotia]

I feel like I have to make something more clear.

The disabled person I was talking about was a he, which makes it significantly worse. And, his disability is sadly very visible- it's on his face, actually.

I know a lot of people don't approach him at all, mainly because of his disability. He isn't really a bad person, though. He's not very sociable because of his disability, and, well, he says he probably won't ever be in a relationship. I mean, you have to talk to somebody in order to develop feelings for him/her, and when you don't, well, I suppose it's not really possible to fall for his appearance, either, given his disability. He's pretty sensitive when it comes to this subject. He says he's grown used to 'seeing people choose not to sit next to him' because of his disability. Part of me wants to believe that a person like him can also be happy, preferably with a significant other, but... Well, when I think about his life, I don't really think he can be like everyone else.

And that makes me sad. I wish society were more acceptive of the disabled.
Anyways, thanks for answering me, guys!

I would date him. I mean, I don't know him, but as long as he isn't an asshole or anything... his disability wouldn't effect anything personally.

[Soldati Senza Confini]

Not really, why would it?

Well apparently where I come from, it is considered bad taste and outlandish if a teenager has a deep fondness for classical music. Something to do with being "nerdy" and "uncool".

Maybe some people just aren't attracted to you and are more interested in you as a friend. Why do you always assume it has to do with your interests? If they were annoyed/judgmental because of your interests they wouldn't want to be friends with you.

Which probably explains why I have very little friends.

But no, people are not attracted to me because apparently, I'm "too nice and caring".

It's not that.

It's good you're nice and caring. Problem being that, perhaps, you do ti to the point of smothering someone.

[Distruzio]

I've got a serious question for you guys...

Would you ever date a physically disabled person? You know, like, a person without an eye, leg or arm... I've been thinking a lot about this lately, and I want to know your thoughts on the matter. And if you would, what do you think would be some of the complications of doing so? How different do you think it'll be, and how would you manage it?

I would not date a physically or mentally disabled person, no. I also will not date the fat, the stupid, or the obnoxious. I'm, quite clearly, a bigot in that regard.

[Gaiserin]

I've got a serious question for you guys...

Would you ever date a physically disabled person? You know, like, a person without an eye, leg or arm... I've been thinking a lot about this lately, and I want to know your thoughts on the matter. And if you would, what do you think would be some of the complications of doing so? How different do you think it'll be, and how would you manage it?

Frankly, no, I wouldn't. However, "smaller" disabilities would be bearable.

[Springedge]

Frankly, no, I wouldn't. However, "smaller" disabilities would be bearable.

I would not date a physically or mentally disabled person, no. I also will not date the fat, the stupid, or the obnoxious. I'm, quite clearly, a bigot in that regard.

What if, due to an accident, for instance, your lover/wife/significant other became disabled? Would you break up with them simply because of that?

[Lies and Ignorance]

I'm really, really bad at dating. Like, seriously bad. I've never had a relationship that lasted more than three months - either due to the immaturity of both parties, my fear of commitment, or other events. Eventually I got tired of all the heartbreakin' and fights, and just quit dating wholesale to focus on my personal growth. I think that's been beneficial. I don't think anyone wants to date an asshole, so I should be ready if I ever go out looking for love and dowry again.

[Sun Wukong]

I've got a serious question for you guys...

Would you ever date a physically disabled person? You know, like, a person without an eye, leg or arm... I've been thinking a lot about this lately, and I want to know your thoughts on the matter. And if you would, what do you think would be some of the complications of doing so? How different do you think it'll be, and how would you manage it?

I don't know if being short one eye counts as a serious physical disability. An arm or a leg more so, but even then...

Anyway, two words: Pirate Roleplay.

[Gaiserin]

What if, due to an accident, for instance, your lover/wife/significant other became disabled? Would you break up with them simply because of that?

Good question actually, and to that I do not happen to have a clear answer.. I might lean to no because I frankly don't consider it that grave of an issue that could be used to justify a divorce / breaking up a relationship... But like I said, it is bit of a so-so.

[Distruzio]

Frankly, no, I wouldn't. However, "smaller" disabilities would be bearable.

I would not date a physically or mentally disabled person, no. I also will not date the fat, the stupid, or the obnoxious. I'm, quite clearly, a bigot in that regard.

What if, due to an accident, for instance, your lover/wife/significant other became disabled? Would you break up with them simply because of that?

If my fiance, then my wife, became disabled then I'd honor my vows. Pre-proposal? It's likely I would cease to find her attractive.

[New haven america]

>Be me, oblivious high school freshman
>Go to the Anime Club
>President is hot, wears renaissance type stuff often just for fun
>She's totally out of my league and almost 3 years older than I am
>Give up
>Three years later she invites me to the mall
>Great time, I'm her 'boyfriend for the day'
>Week later, definitely together as a couple
>Hanging out
>Find out she's been planning to jump my bones since freshman year
>Happiness
>Successful relationship so far

>Rock hard
>But it wasn't a rock
>It was a rock lobster!

You have girls at your schools anime club...?

[Solaray]

Carbon dating is the only kind of dating I have experience with.

UCWATIDIDTHAR

[Springedge]

I don't know if being short one eye counts as a serious physical disability. An arm or a leg more so, but even then...

Anyway, two words: Pirate Roleplay.

It's actually much worse than you might think...

And, well, judging from how some people react, even pirates may not be enough for his (my friend's) case!

Good question actually, and to that I do not happen to have a clear answer.. I might lean to no because I frankly don't consider it that grave of an issue that could be used to justify a divorce / breaking up a relationship... But like I said, it is bit of a so-so.

If you're leaning towards 'no', it means that there is something that prevents you from breaking up the relationship you and your significant other have forged. Now, by not dating a disabled person at all, you're not really letting anything form between you and that specific person. Who knows? Maybe you and that person got along really well, and, well, maybe you'd have actually started liking that person. So the two questions I've asked you are actually the same, and you seem to have two different answers to them...

I just want to understand why a person's disability means so much to you that you'd choose not to be with that person. I hope this didn't offend you...

I would not date a physically or mentally disabled person, no. I also will not date the fat, the stupid, or the obnoxious. I'm, quite clearly, a bigot in that regard.

What if, due to an accident, for instance, your lover/wife/significant other became disabled? Would you break up with them simply because of that?[/quote]

If my fiance, then my wife, became disabled then I'd honor my vows. Pre-proposal? It's likely I would cease to find her attractive.

So, you only found her attractive because of her looks? What if she's a great person inside, one that you'd actually want to spend your life with?

[The Blaatschapen]

Carbon dating is the only kind of dating I have experience with.

UCWATIDIDTHAR

That joke is 40 to 60 thousand years old.

[Solaray]

Carbon dating is the only kind of dating I have experience with.

UCWATIDIDTHAR

That joke is 40 to 60 thousand years old.

Give or take

[Alto Mantovano]

I have nothing to say about all this. I'm just that type of guy who falls in love at first sight and well... Be a bit cliché about all the friendzone thing. Granted I don't complain or anything but well I've ran kinda out of fucks, now I'm going to live life as it is without actively searching a partner. Granted, I'm still young, only sixteen but, meh, perhaps when I'm moving away I will have more luck.

There, my "discussion" is over and a +1 to my posts, huzzah.

[Sun Wukong]

I don't know if being short one eye counts as a serious physical disability. An arm or a leg more so, but even then...

Anyway, two words: Pirate Roleplay.

It's actually much worse than you might think...

Which part? Because I know people in either camp, and - while frequently inconvenienced - I wouldn't call any of them disabled. Paraplegics, now they're disabled.

[The United Remnants of America]

Is this the NationStates Lonely Hearts Club?

Where do I sign up?