This thread is about is about watching someone completely fail at life by making all the wrong decisions, rejecting good advice, and ultimately causing their own little apocalypse.
I have a cousin who has basically been doing this for the past several years. From what I understand, he was a decent student in his freshman and sophomore years of high school, but by his junior year he started hanging out with some questionable classmates of his. These were the type that parents usually try to stop their kids from associating with (they skipped class, smoked, did drugs, etc.). As he starting hanging out with these people and participating in their activities, his grades naturally took a dive and he ultimately graduated high school at almost the bottom of his class. Around this time, he became addicted to cannabis and began smoking weed everyday. He went to college, but dropped out after the first semester, passing one of the 3 classes he took that for semester. His parents were very disappointed and held an intervention for him. It seemingly worked at first, but it later became evident that he was still smoking weed and associating with people of questionable character.
He is now 24 years old. He has never gone back to school and is unemployed. His only work experience is two seasonal part-time jobs (one in 2017 and one in 2018), but he was fired from both of them because of his poor work ethic and lack of punctuality. Despite the insistence of his parents, he refuses to put any serious effort into looking for work or even trying to go back to school. They have held several interventions at this point, all failed. They even tried to get him professional help about his cannabis addiction, but he refused. While his parents stopped giving him an allowance years ago, he still gets his cannabis from his friends. Last year, he totaled his car when he rear-ended someone while he was driving while high. He was arrested and now has a criminal record for it. Yet, even a weekend in jail didn't seem to phase him. To this day he continues to just spend his time playing video games, smoking cannabis, gaining weight (he now weighs almost 300 pounds), and basically just leeching off his parents who are now seriously thinking of just kicking him out. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to know that his story is probably going to end badly. With his refusal to change and his strong cannabis addiction, he seems to have long passed the point of no return.
Needless to say that he has been causing my family a lot of stress. I remember he used to be a very cool guy, now he has become this. It's sad.
Have any of you ever been unfortunate enough to witness a friend or family member totally ruin their life and pass the point of no return? How did you deal with the stress it caused? Is it wrong to still care even when you know that person not only doesn't care about his/her family or friends, but doesn't even care about themselves anymore?
