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Dating is at a Record Low: Another Dating Thread

Postby New haven america » Tue Aug 06, 2019 7:33 pm

Inspired by this post right here as well as this one. I bring to you another dating thread! Fun fun, joy joy.

It's no secret. Dating, relationships, and even sex are at an all time low in the developed world. Some people are putting their careers or schooling first before relationships, some areas just don't have a good work/life balance, some of it's cultural, and some economical. Any way you explain it, relationships and birthrates have been dropping in the developed world, and it doesn't seem like there's going to be a bounce-back anytime soon. The reasons however, do vary by area. In Asia it's usually because of a terrible work/life balance, in North America it's usually because of economic problems, etc...

So, that bring us to the topic(s) of the thread: How is dating culture where you're from? What do you think is the cause of this drastic drop in relationships? Do you even want to date, and why and why not?

Personally, I'm not dating anyone ATM, nor have I ever. I'm too focused on school and finding a job, don't have enough money, and quite frankly, no one's shown interest. It doesn't bother me much though, as I have more important things to be working on right now.

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Postby Nakena » Tue Aug 06, 2019 7:40 pm

I blame social media and smartphones. It has a huge impact on how we spending our days, now glued to our microscreens. I tried to dodge this trend but I am afraid its catching up with me too.
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Postby Greed and Death » Tue Aug 06, 2019 7:50 pm

Smart phones and the net have made dating complicated. Approaching a stranger in a public space is typically viewed with suspicion and heaven forbid you ask for someone's number.

On the converse getting a feeling on if a person is safe over the internet can be difficult making meeting in person difficult.
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Postby Scomagia » Tue Aug 06, 2019 7:51 pm

I haven't really noticed a lack of dating. When I was a teen, I dated. So did most of my friends and most of them still do. Maybe we're outliers. I know I am in one respect, I got married much younger than most people do now.
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Postby Washington Resistance Army » Tue Aug 06, 2019 7:52 pm

Not shocking. Everyone today is anti-social and glued to their phones.

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Postby Jean-Paul Sartre » Tue Aug 06, 2019 7:54 pm

I don’t seek out dates because I have too little time on my hands. If a guy wants to ask, I probably would give him a chance, assuming I don’t get creep vibes, but I get how that’s difficult for people, as a socially anxious person myself.
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Postby Greed and Death » Tue Aug 06, 2019 7:57 pm

Scomagia wrote:I haven't really noticed a lack of dating. When I was a teen, I dated. So did most of my friends and most of them still do. Maybe we're outliers. I know I am in one respect, I got married much younger than most people do now.

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Postby The Greater Ohio Valley » Tue Aug 06, 2019 7:58 pm

Tbh, I wouldn’t really know what the dating scene is in my area since I’ve since removed myself from the dating scene for the past 7 and a half years or so, but not for the listed economic, cultural, work related reasons, primarily because (likely due to my mental illnesses) I have an exceedingly difficult time trusting anyone to the point of opening myself to them to allow dating to happen.
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Postby Ayytaly » Tue Aug 06, 2019 7:58 pm

Tinder (hedonism in general) made dating obsolete. Add in the rise of Meninism and reports of women only dating for free food, and you got the answer to your question.

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Postby Eternal Lotharia » Tue Aug 06, 2019 8:01 pm

Women and men are growing very picky. As in, people have preconceived notions and stick to them. Which makes them picky about partners.

I've witnessed it myself. It's not the women's fault-never let anyone tell you that-it's how society is becoming very picky in what they accept.

We need to teach more tolerance and acceptance, in my view.
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Postby Rojava Free State » Tue Aug 06, 2019 8:01 pm

Jean-Paul Sartre wrote:I don’t seek out dates because I have too little time on my hands. If a guy wants to ask, I probably would give him a chance, assuming I don’t get creep vibes, but I get how that’s difficult for people, as a socially anxious person myself.


So are you a girl because if you are, that would be kinda weird considering we all called you John Paul.

Not an issue, just kinda ironic
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Postby New haven america » Tue Aug 06, 2019 8:02 pm

Scomagia wrote:I haven't really noticed a lack of dating. When I was a teen, I dated. So did most of my friends and most of them still do. Maybe we're outliers. I know I am in one respect, I got married much younger than most people do now.

I only knew 2 people in my HS friend group who dated, and they were dating each other...
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Postby Eternal Lotharia » Tue Aug 06, 2019 8:03 pm

The Greater Ohio Valley wrote:Tbh, I wouldn’t really know what the dating scene since I’ve since removed myself from the dating scene for the past 7 and a half years or so, but not for the listed economic, cultural, work related reasons, primarily because (likely due to my mental illnesses) I have an exceedingly difficult time trusting anyone to the point of opening myself to them to allow dating to happen.

I'm now a (probably) permanent bachelor. Only focusing on my career and friends now.

No sex either.

Not for any dumb philosophy but for emotional reasons. Sure maybe it's flawed but it's my choice.
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Postby Eternal Lotharia » Tue Aug 06, 2019 8:05 pm

New haven america wrote:
Scomagia wrote:I haven't really noticed a lack of dating. When I was a teen, I dated. So did most of my friends and most of them still do. Maybe we're outliers. I know I am in one respect, I got married much younger than most people do now.

I only knew 2 people in my HS friend group who dated, and they were dating each other...

I know multiple people who dated. Functioned as a peacemaker occasionally. Succeeded 90% the time.

It is a hassle. They all acted so dumb, imo.

The problems were easily workable.


But they were stubborn as mules.

Ah well, I still love them.
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Postby Totally Not OEP » Tue Aug 06, 2019 8:06 pm

The decline of social values and expectations, part of a wider trend in our degenerating culture mixed with recent technological innovations are at the root of the problem. Bad economics and an uncaring elite or, perhaps, a deliberately evil one aid and abet this process.

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Postby Totally Not OEP » Tue Aug 06, 2019 8:09 pm

Jean-Paul Sartre wrote:I don’t seek out dates because I have too little time on my hands. If a guy wants to ask, I probably would give him a chance, assuming I don’t get creep vibes, but I get how that’s difficult for people, as a socially anxious person myself.


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Postby Rojava Free State » Tue Aug 06, 2019 8:10 pm

I had a fiancee up till about two months ago in June when she randomly called off our engagement and separated from me, proceeding to go out with a guy who looks like a damn mall mannequin. My friend Tyler told me the news about the "new guy" and it did more of a number on me than anyone could imagine.

I think I'm just gonna go back to how I was in highschool. Screw monogamy, marriage, or any social norms. I'm done with that garbage. There's no way at this point im ever getting married because I can only imagine if I had actually married my last girlfriend and then everything fell through. I'm currently single and don't know when I'm gonna have a girlfriend or even random friend with benefits again. I really don't know what the future holds for me
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Postby Grinning Dragon » Tue Aug 06, 2019 8:11 pm

I find myself agreeing with Nakena, G&D, and WRA. I'd also throw in the mine field of the issue of being falsely accused of rape or other things when the relationship goes south and one seeks revenge on the other, for the most part young men don't want the possibility of that being foisted upon them.
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Postby Bluelight-R006 » Tue Aug 06, 2019 8:11 pm

That’s shocking. I’ve always thought people were eager to find love trough dating, or at least a one-night stand. That seemed to be the norm, but going by this report, that’s not happening much.

Like everyone else on this thread, I’d blame it on the growing use of handphones and non-romantically related social mixups. They seem to be excluding out love now.

In my area, I’ve noticed that some boys spend time with a girl a lot, but never do anything more than that. They just talk when they see each other. And any meetups outside of school are mixed with friends, so it’s not a date. Shocking now I see it.

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Postby Flaxxony » Tue Aug 06, 2019 8:13 pm

Everyone has stated it before but it really is the tech.

Everyone sits at a chair, craned over their computer screen, withering away thinking all day. Then they get off work and either spend time on their phone, computer or idiot box the rest of the time.

A very learned but inexperienced generation. Tech anymore is seeming to create as many pathologies as it helps. Especially now with bioengineering, endocrine disrupting compounds in the environment, etc.

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Postby Bombadil » Tue Aug 06, 2019 8:13 pm

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Postby The Supreme Magnificent High Swaglord » Tue Aug 06, 2019 8:13 pm

Rojava Free State wrote:
Jean-Paul Sartre wrote:I don’t seek out dates because I have too little time on my hands. If a guy wants to ask, I probably would give him a chance, assuming I don’t get creep vibes, but I get how that’s difficult for people, as a socially anxious person myself.


So are you a girl because if you are, that would be kinda weird considering we all called you John Paul.

Not an issue, just kinda ironic


I mean, I tend to assume that my fellow NSers are "ageless, faceless, gender-neutral, culturally ambiguous NationStates people" unless otherwise stated. :p

As to the thread topic, I refuse to date because philosophically speaking I view the desire of eros as fundamentally and thoroughly wack, to say the least.
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Postby Balican » Tue Aug 06, 2019 8:15 pm

There's next to no incentive to date these days. Marriage is dead, and hook-up culture is here to stay. Combine that with anti-social behaviors, paranoia, disdain for the opposite sex, and general anger and no one can wonder people don't want to mingle anymore.
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Postby New haven america » Tue Aug 06, 2019 8:15 pm

Flaxxony wrote:Everyone has stated it before but it really is the tech.

Everyone sits at a chair, craned over their computer screen, withering away thinking all day. Then they get off work and either spend time on their phone, computer or idiot box the rest of the time.

A very learned but inexperienced generation. Tech anymore is seeming to create as many pathologies as it helps. Especially now with bioengineering, endocrine disrupting compounds in the environment, etc.

What about areas like East Asia? Who have these falling rates due to work/life balance.

Economically, it's just not feasible in areas like that, and that's starting to leak out in places like the US and Canada, where you're expected to be on call at all times for your company.
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