The Alma Mater wrote:Ethel mermania wrote:People are not monolithic creatures, we change as we age. Who we are when we die is not who we are as we grow. We choose the memories we hold on to. If your kid dies at 26 from drug overdose, is that the memory your going to keep of him/her? No, your going to remember and grieve overy the smiling high school graduate, with a bright future ahead of them.
Actually, I would remember both. Because that simply is who the person was.
That's fair, and that's your choice.