Choosing lesbianism.

[Femnipotent]

As someone who was raised to believe that heterosexuality was the only acceptable expression of romantic interest, I nonetheless experimented a few times with homosexual relationships. I found them ultimately unsatisfying, but in great part I felt that was because the negative reactions towards what I was doing created a hostile atmosphere that made it impossible for me to really know if it was what I wanted or not.

I was not raised to find women attractive. There was never any hidden feeling that I would prefer to be romantically involved with women. So I assumed that I was heterosexual and there was little I could do about it.

I have been discovering just in the past year or so that this is not a fait accompli. I have become more and more repulsed by men in general because of current patriarchal social structures and because of the evidence of violence I see inflicted upon women all the time by men. Although I was trained to find men attractive, I have been able to slowly deprogram myself.

For a variety of reasons, I have chosen to become a lesbian. This does not mean I have always been oriented to homosexuality, but rather, is a conscious decision to engage only in homosexual romantic relationships. I know that somehow, the concept of this is alien and unthinkable to many so-called liberals, but it is not impossible. Have any other women here made a similar decision, or thought about trying this?

[New Embossia]

It's and ism now?

[Femnipotent]

It's and ism now?

Since it is primarily an ideological choice on my part so far, until I can reprogram myself better, I think the 'ism' makes sense.

[Seibertron]

Good for you?

[Seibertron]

It's and ism now?

Since it is primarily an ideological choice on my part so far, until I can reprogram myself better, I think the 'ism' makes sense.

Reprogram , while I have a materialistic view and my fondness for robots. Humans cannot simply be reprogrammed if you were does that mean you were programmed to be straight originally?

[Blazedtown]

Who let you out of the kitchen?

Kidding. Do what you want. But be warned. Being a horrible person has nothing to do with sex or sexual preference. You are probably just as likely to find a woman who will treat you like shit as you would a man. Just be careful about who you get involved with.

[Oterro]

Interesting. Have fun. I hope you eventually find a relationship that you're satisfied with and enjoy despite the judgement of others around you.

[JustinusCaesar]

um, ok?

You know that, for people who want it, there is the ability to choose both. It is called being bi.

[BBQ Republic]

Congratulations. May we watch?

[Free Pangea]

Interesting. Have fun. I hope you eventually find a relationship that you're satisfied with and enjoy despite the judgement of others around you.

This.

[Femnipotent]

Who let you out of the kitchen?

Kidding. Do what you want. But be warned. Being a horrible person has nothing to do with sex or sexual preference. You are probably just as likely to find a woman who will treat you like shit as you would a man. Just be careful about who you get involved with.

I am certainly less likely to be beaten or murdered by a female partner than a male one, and I am of course going to be careful about who I get involved with.

By choosing to only form romantic relationships with women, I can more effectively remove male influences from my life.

[Mourro]

I'm not a woman, but I don't think that sexuality is a choice. I think, especially for gay/lesbian/bisexual individuals, it's rather a denial of one's instincts and a fear of potential consequences that force us to make conscious choices in retaliation to our sexuality. But I feel the fact remains that sexuality is natural and no matter how many processes or denials one goes through, the nature of one's sexuality cannot be changed.

[Vellosia]

You can't choose to be a lesbian - you either are you aren't.

[New Heliopolis]

Who let you out of the kitchen?

Kidding. Do what you want. But be warned. Being a horrible person has nothing to do with sex or sexual preference. You are probably just as likely to find a woman who will treat you like shit as you would a man. Just be careful about who you get involved with.

I am certainly less likely to be beaten or murdered by a female partner than a male one, and I am of course going to be careful about who I get involved with.

By choosing to only form romantic relationships with women, I can more effectively remove male influences from my life.

Why do you need to remove all male influences...?

Why not simply remove sexist influences?

[Lowtovia]

theres a philosophical theory that two opposites in the world or the mind are fighting it out to find a equilibrium. You have probably always been a lesbian, but your upbringing taught you it was wrong so you subconsiously pushed it down, but are now accepting it due to the equilibrium being found.

[Mourro]

It's and ism now?

Since it is primarily an ideological choice on my part so far, until I can reprogram myself better, I think the 'ism' makes sense.

Oh, why do you think sexuality is an ideology? You may want to take care not to over-complicate your natural feelings. You might end up more confused in the end..

[Bitchkitten]

I've found that almost all male homosexual men I've met knew they prefered men early in life. But about half the lesbians I've known switched to women after bad experiences with men.

So my personal view is that female homosexuality is less biological than male homosexuality. A good book on this is Sexual Fluidity. Unfortunately I forget the author.

[Blazedtown]

Who let you out of the kitchen?

Kidding. Do what you want. But be warned. Being a horrible person has nothing to do with sex or sexual preference. You are probably just as likely to find a woman who will treat you like shit as you would a man. Just be careful about who you get involved with.

I am certainly less likely to be beaten or murdered by a female partner than a male one, and I am of course going to be careful about who I get involved with.

By choosing to only form romantic relationships with women, I can more effectively remove male influences from my life.

If you've had a tendency to attract the absolute worst men you can, what makes you think that it will be any different with women?

[The Yremia Corporate]

Who let you out of the kitchen?

Kidding. Do what you want. But be warned. Being a horrible person has nothing to do with sex or sexual preference. You are probably just as likely to find a woman who will treat you like shit as you would a man. Just be careful about who you get involved with.

I am certainly less likely to be beaten or murdered by a female partner than a male one, and I am of course going to be careful about who I get involved with.

By choosing to only form romantic relationships with women, I can more effectively remove male influences from my life.

Actually Lesbians have the highest rate of domestic violence, so there goes your bullshit.

[Femnipotent]

I'm not a woman, but I don't think that sexuality is a choice. I think, especially for gay/lesbian/bisexual individuals, it's rather a denial of one's instincts and a fear of potential consequences that force us to make conscious choices in retaliation to our sexuality. But I feel the fact remains that sexuality is natural and no matter how many processes or denials one goes through, the nature of one's sexuality cannot be changed.

Even if is true that the 'nature of one's sexuality cannot be changed', certainly your expression of it can. I do not want to be involved with men even though I was trained to want that. I choose now to only form romantic relationships with women. Somehow that is portrayed as being some sort of awful choice. There are plenty of very unhappy people in relationships with people they are sexually oriented towards, so it is not as though your sexuality guarantees you anything except a propensity to find certain things attractive.

[Esternial]

You should direct your attention to your partner rather than to the prejudice of others, or at least try to do so.

[Blazedtown]

I am certainly less likely to be beaten or murdered by a female partner than a male one, and I am of course going to be careful about who I get involved with.

By choosing to only form romantic relationships with women, I can more effectively remove male influences from my life.

Why do you need to remove all male influences...?

Why not simply remove sexist influences?

Because all men are evil and members of the arsonist jaywalker patriarchy.

[Femnipotent]

You can't choose to be a lesbian - you either are you aren't.

Oh is this one of those nonsensical arguments that goes, "sure you can form romantic relationships only with women for the rest of your life and engage only in lesbian sex, but you're still actually heterosexual?"

Ok sure, if people want to claim that doing this doesn't matter and I'm still a heterosexual, I suppose the claims are ultimately meaningless as it would change nothing.

[Femnipotent]

um, ok?

You know that, for people who want it, there is the ability to choose both. It is called being bi.

I choose not to choose men.

[New Embossia]

It's and ism now?

Since it is primarily an ideological choice on my part so far, until I can reprogram myself better, I think the 'ism' makes sense.

It's not a choice. It's something people are born with.