What do you look for in a "romantic" relationship

[Totenborg]

I have an experiment which I would like to conduct.

Please tell us what you are looking for in a future partner.
Or if you already have a partner, what are their most attractive traits?

BUT, please leave out anything that might reveal your gender/ the gender of the partner you are looking for.

So I'll start:
I want someone who has a dark sense of humour, likes art, music, books, cooking, who is dependable, intelligent, caring and likes to experiment with "in the bedroom" activities.

I can't add to this.

[The New California Republic]

Tell the truth. Is 'must read OP's' on your list?

[The Land of the Moths]

Intelligence, honesty, and a good ass.

[Dangine]

Someone who is shy, sweet, nice, and small. All these things are traits of the person I have the biggest crush on. I also forgot to mention that I find Asians to be the most attractive, especially Japanese. If you could not tell the person I have the biggest crush on is Japanese.

[Andsed]

Well for me I guess just someone who I just feel great around and who actually cares about me and is willing to put up with my faults.

[Rojava Free State]

I want someone who's as freespirited and wild as I am. I have a preference for Mediterranean women but I'll date any race

[The Black Forrest]

Intelligence, a temper, and a dark sense of humor. Found that and we have been together for a very long time.

There really isn’t a pattern to my likes. Well being female is the only pattern. Each girl was different.

I was fascinating with the idea of an Irish red head; never found one.

[Alenberg]

Honesty, and being able to put up with my...intresting sense of humor.
Decent looks are a plus but not required.

[Arkhane]

Rugged, stocky, around their mid-fifties, I don't mind the 30 year age gap since I know they won't take advantage of me, essentially someone who experienced a lot in life. Someone a bit cynical and grumpy to balance out my optimism and naivete. Doesn't necessarily have to be attractive, I'm handsome enough for the both of us. They can protect me and I can clean up after their messes.

[Heloin]

Funny, cute, likes board games, good taste in music, and doesn't mind me drinking.

[Cekoviu]

I'll start with the slightly non-standard stuff:
- Doesn't irreconcilably hate invertebrates, especially cockroaches, or really any animal that isn't parasitic or actually dangerous
- Not devoutly religious; somewhat religious is fine as long as we avoid discussing it too much
- Likes or tolerates puns; I make them too frequently to have a relationship with someone who hates them

Now the cookie-cutter answers:
- Similar interests, at least outside the academic realm
- Similar opinions on important issues to me (and not a political dick; whining about SJWs or non-fascist fascists more frequently than once a fortnight is a deal-breaker)
- Willing to experiment with the relationship
- Willing to listen to me ramble on about my interests
- Willing to ramble on about their interests in turn
- Likes folk rock (not a requirement, but a bonus)
- Not terrible looking
- Intelligent, honest, kind, proactive, etc.

[Barboneia]

Intelligence, honesty, and a good ass.

God, based. This guy gets it.

[Cappuccina]

Hmmm... let's see.

- Loves animals, especially dogs and cats....and snakes...I love snakes
- Someone who's religious, no atheism plz.
- Likes sci-fi and horror
- Must have an appreciation for dark and politically incorrect humor
- Has views somewhere in the same ballpark as mine, no social liberals plz
- Likes to experiment with cooking different stuff, preferably as a couple.
- Isn't a sexual deviant, no weirdo fetishes plz

[Valehart]

I feel like I just want someone who's understanding and self-aware. Someone who's also a best friend, and cares for most of the same interests/tastes as I do.
...and someone who has a great body. That's relatively important too.

[Alien Overlord]

Someone with strong family values and not a lot of emotional baggage.

[Heloin]

- Likes or tolerates puns; I make them too frequently to have a relationship with someone who hates them

I have ended relationships because the other person didn't like my endless cheese puns. She tried to tell me they weren't Gouda.

[Bombadil]

In the end, after much experimentation, it really just boils down to humour, given they land on the right side of the hot-crazy matrix.

[Neanderthaland]

She either has to have a little Neanderthal in her, or be willing to.

[Kowani]

So…somebody people will know that I currently have a partner. But the OP says to avoid using gender, so here we go: They are quick witted, and determined. They want to develop themselves into a better person, to grow. Intelligent, yet humble. They’re absolutely marvelous to talk to, and even those silences in between bursts of speech are fun. (Facial communication is more enjoyable when you have someone you like to try it with.) They don’t put up with my bullshit, and they’re honest. They’re passionate about their interests, and they have personality. There’s more, but…well, putting all this down is kinda embarrassing.

[Nakena]

So…somebody people will know that I currently have a partner. But the OP says to avoid using gender, so here we go: They are quick witted, and determined. They want to develop themselves into a better person, to grow. Intelligent, yet humble. They’re absolutely marvelous to talk to, and even those silences in between bursts of speech are fun. (Facial communication is more enjoyable when you have someone you like to try it with.) They don’t put up with my bullshit, and they’re honest. They’re passionate about their interests, and they have personality. There’s more, but…well, putting all this down is kinda embarrassing.

It was definetively kinda interesting so far.

[The Blaatschapen]

Their craziness being compatible with my craziness.

[Costa Fierro]

Nothing. Relationships are too much work and quite frankly it would be an overload for me that I would not be able to handle. So 'tis the "single" life for me.

[Risottia]

Or if you already have a partner, what are their most attractive traits?

Lots of red hair.
Vast culture, cold sarcasm and fiery left-wing political affiliation.
Sexy body and luminous smile.
Ability to prove the spectral theorem for self-adjoint operators in infinite-dimensional Hilbert spaces.
Love for alcoholic beverages.

[Epic Heck]

I'm still not over my ex, but they're already thriving in a new relationship so I've spent a lot of time thinking about this. I guess what I love/d so much about them is their ability to make me feel happy by being there for me and no judging the things I said. when we spoke we had no filter so we could say the most disturbing things to each other and we'd enjoy it. I relied on them for everything and that's pretty much what I look for in a partner, by everything I mean just being there for me everyday so I never feel alone and be able to have a laugh over anything no matter how dark.. damn

[Greater Loegria]

In my relationship I enjoy regular and diverse sexual activity, someone who I know loves me by their being affectionate and since we’d have quite a few shared interests like food we can enjoy life together fairly well. It’s also nice to come home from a long day and lie with each other on the sofa.