you need to do something noteworthy, something exceptional, something people will sit up and go "yes, that was an impressive thing to do." before you can think of a commendation. even better, do something so noteworthy someone else will write a commendation, so it isn't a self commendation at all. make a change, do something, actually help make Nationstates better - crazy idea, i know, but stick with me - for everyone. help some people, not go out of your way to insult someone trying to make a Condemning of you. they think you're in the criteria for that, ok. move on, it's not the end of the world. perhaps you'll be able to do something to change the opinion of the public to your favor, unlikely once again, but possible. i cannot stress this enough, but you need proof, things people all across NS can back you up on. publicity is not always a good thing, sometimes it pays to stay out of the spotlight - although, i guess the final piece of advice is negated thanks to all that's happened.
remember, Evidence of Something Noteworthy. that's the most required thing.