Funny that you mention that.
I concocted a
pretty radical F-4 upgrade for my alt a while back, and as radical as it is, it stopped short of AESA radar. The most notable improvements were a more capable (especially on the air-to-ground front) radar, data linking, more powerful engines, integration with newer munitions, and more comprehensive countermeasures.
And if you expect an upgraded F-4 to come anywhere close to being competitive with modern multiroles, you'll probably want an AESA radar. Which, in my opinion, is going too far for an upgrade of old airframes dating from the 60s.