You busted your partner while having sex with another

[Snafturi]

[citation needed]

80% is a bit high according to wiki, but it's still at 40-60% world wide. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Infidelity
This puts it at 70%: http://divorcesupport.about.com/b/2008/ ... istics.htm
And this says why the discrepancies exist: http://www.examiner.com/x-1782-Philadel ... statistics

Okie dokie.

It seemed high to me, that's why I asked for a source.

It is a number that's been thrown out, and I think it's an estimation based on the 70% statistic because the common theory is the reported numbers are lower than the actual number of incidences. Either way, it's safe to say that you have at leat a 50/50 chance of being cheated on and the odds are actually quite a bit worse.

What you also have to realize is those numbers are the numbers of physical indescretions that happen, not the emotional ones which can be just as damaging if not more.

[Treznor]

So you were working late, you come home and hear some noise in the bedroom and there it is:

Your partner is cheating you with someone else.

What would you do?

The last time I said "hi" and apologized for interrupting. Afterward, we all sat down and watched a movie together.

[No Names Left Damn It]

Depends. If it was just a one night stand or whatever, no feelings, just sex, I wouldn't have a problem other than that they hadn't told me they were planning on it. If it was another relationship going on behind my back, I'd leave the relationship.

[GetBert]

Offer some constructive criticism....maybe give them a score out of ten.

You should keep some of those cards with big numbers on them in your bedroom, like figure skating judges have.

'Oh and that's a 5 from the French judge, they aren't going to be happy with that.'

[Saint Clair Island]

I would watch. And make snarky comments on their performance, either during the act or afterwards.

If it went on for awhile I'd probably head for the kitchen and make popcorn or something. Occasionally I would wonder whether it really looked like that when I was the one having sex with my partner (assuming I ever do -- which is rather unlikely).

After it was all over, if we were interested in continuing the relationship nevertheless, I would ask that in future when cheating on me she (it would probably be a she) would use some kind of protection. If she gets an STD from cheating on me, she's paying her own hospital bills. If not, well, bye bye.

[Dyakovo]

So you were working late, you come home and hear some noise in the bedroom and there it is:

Your partner is cheating you with someone else.

What would you do?

I would probably physically eject them from my property.

[Galloism]

So you were working late, you come home and hear some noise in the bedroom and there it is:

Your partner is cheating you with someone else.

What would you do?

I would probably physically eject them from my property.

You have an ejector button on your bed?

I want!

[Ifreann]

So you were working late, you come home and hear some noise in the bedroom and there it is:

Your partner is cheating you with someone else.

What would you do?

I would probably physically eject them from my property.

You have an ejector button on your bed?

I want!

If it were wired to my alarm clock it would be useful as hell.


I'd hate the thing with a passion that could vaporise steel, but it'd be useful.

[Kyronea]

I honestly don't know. At the moment, I think I would be so emotionally vulnerable that I could potentially lose my temper completely and go apeshit on both of them.

How I would react when I have more emotional control, I can't say. Probably much more reasonably, and I would still be extremely upset, and would likely end the relationship unless there was a damned good reason for what was done, and it would have to be A. Damned. Good. One.

[Dyakovo]

So you were working late, you come home and hear some noise in the bedroom and there it is:

Your partner is cheating you with someone else.

What would you do?

I would probably physically eject them from my property.

You have an ejector button on your bed?

I want!

LOL, no I meant I would probably throw the guy out the window...

[Galloism]

I would probably physically eject them from my property.

You have an ejector button on your bed?

I want!

LOL, no I meant I would probably throw the guy out the window...

Oh.

[Megaloria]

It depends on my mindset at the time, but I think I would feign ignorance and set them both up for some serious http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-sbqIyeed4g.

[Minnas]

When someone cheats, they will do it regardless of wether the partner is good or not. That's how I see it.

I have a dim view of cheats. My feeling is if they did it once they're quite likely to do it again.

True. That's why, if I catch my partners cheating, I don't get worked up. I simply end the relationship, no drama.

So, if you catch your SO cheating on you, you won't give him another chance? You're a harsh one.

[Bottle]

So you were working late, you come home and hear some noise in the bedroom and there it is:

Your partner is cheating you with someone else.

What would you do?

Break up.

And don't think I say that casually. I've been with my partner for 7 years. We live together. We plan to build a life together.

But my partner knows that if he wants to have sex with somebody else, all he needs to do is tell me about it, and be honest with the other woman as well. If he wasn't capable of abiding by that rule, then there would be no point in trying to build a future with him. I cannot be partnered with someone I do not trust.

[Nanatsu no Tsuki]

So, if you catch your SO cheating on you, you won't give him another chance? You're a harsh one.

Cheating is a huge breach of trust. Trust, to me, is of the utmost importance. If there's no trust, there cannot be a healthy relationship. So yes, I wouldn't give him another chance.

[Epicnopolis]

Because this happened to me with my ex, I just saw it, sighed, went back to the apartment, took a shower, waited for him, and when he came back, told him it was over and he had to leave my place that night. No tears, no screaming, no drama. He had to go and that was it.

God so many times I have wished their was a more serious clapping sign. But it will have to do.

[Smunkeeville]

I walked in on something similar once with an ex......just said "let me know when you're done, I'll be in the living room"......

He asked if I was "mad".

WTF?!

No, I'm not mad. Fuck my best friend behind my back, it's fine! [/passive aggressive]



Whoa.......still bitter.

I was more mad at her than him, I mean, I didn't really care if my relationship with him failed, but she was my friend I had to go find a new one. So annoying.

[German Nightmare]

I would probably physically eject them from my property.

I honestly don't know. At the moment, I think I would be so emotionally vulnerable that I could potentially lose my temper completely and go apeshit on both of them.

How I would react when I have more emotional control, I can't say. Probably much more reasonably, and I would still be extremely upset, and would likely end the relationship unless there was a damned good reason for what was done, and it would have to be A. Damned. Good. One.

I'm honestly glad I'm not the only one who would feel like this!

No reason whatsoever could be good enough for that.

So, if you catch your SO cheating on you, you won't give him another chance?

No.

No chance in hell. Go burn there.

God so many times I have wished their was a more serious clapping sign. But it will have to do.

It's "THERE". There!

[FreeSatania]

I've never caught any of my exs cheating. I suspected one once and that ended rather abruptly with me feeling like a total asshole and her hooked up with some other dude like the next day. Another one just came out and admitted it but it was with a girl so I wasn't all that mad (though I still was somewhat), that relationship ended well.

[Saint Clair Island]

I would probably physically eject them from my property.

I honestly don't know. At the moment, I think I would be so emotionally vulnerable that I could potentially lose my temper completely and go apeshit on both of them.

How I would react when I have more emotional control, I can't say. Probably much more reasonably, and I would still be extremely upset, and would likely end the relationship unless there was a damned good reason for what was done, and it would have to be A. Damned. Good. One.

I'm honestly glad I'm not the only one who would feel like this!

No reason whatsoever could be good enough for that.

Eh, if it was a one-time thing I don't really see the issue. Mind you, that's probably because I think of sex in approximately the same terms that I think of people gouging their own eyes out with a spoon.

[German Nightmare]

Eh, if it was a one-time thing I don't really see the issue. Mind you, that's probably because I think of sex in approximately the same terms that I think of people gouging their own eyes out with a spoon.

All I can say that absolutely loathe being cheated on. As for the gouging out one's own eyes - I know that I felt like gouging out someone else's eyes with a rusty spoon...

[DiscountSatania]

I just realized I did not actually answer the OP's question

I think that If I walked in on my partner having sex with someone else that I'd get really pissed of and just sit there and watch. I think that such a thing happening is a rather unlikely thing with my current GF since she's a pretty honest person.

I might get into a fight with the dude on the other hand I might not - that would pretty much depend on a) my mood b) how the other dude reacts.

As for breaking up ... yeah probably. At the very least I'd stop seeing her for the time being until she got whatever she needs to figure out figured out.

[Inarui]

If I bust my partner having sex with another woman, it means we got ourselves a new member to the trio so... I am in a polyamorous relation. I don't think it applies too much. My partner has a relationship with another woman that I know and we bunk all together seasonally.

[Tmutarakhan]

Of course, I would have to go out and purchase the expensive vases and then break them but know this - vases would be broke.

Of course, first I'd have to save up for several months to get enough money to buy some vases... oh the hell with it.

[SaintB]

I have a dim view of cheats. My feeling is if they did it once they're quite likely to do it again.

True. That's why, if I catch my partners cheating, I don't get worked up. I simply end the relationship, no drama.

So, if you catch your SO cheating on you, you won't give him another chance? You're a harsh one.

Its not harsh, how can you trust someone who lies to you? How can you live with someone you don't trust?