by Rhodmhire » Thu Jul 16, 2009 9:57 pm
by South Lorenya » Thu Jul 16, 2009 10:00 pm
by Bryn Shander » Thu Jul 16, 2009 10:03 pm
by Rhodmhire » Thu Jul 16, 2009 10:04 pm
South Lorenya wrote:Unfortunately, I don't really know how to help; all I can tell you is that quoting religious statements will NOT help.
by Triniteras2 » Thu Jul 16, 2009 10:05 pm
by SaintB » Thu Jul 16, 2009 10:05 pm
by Lapse » Thu Jul 16, 2009 10:06 pm
by Rhodmhire » Thu Jul 16, 2009 10:06 pm
Bryn Shander wrote:Next time he brings it up, kick his ass. Then get him good and drunk and take him to a strip club in a questionable part of town.
He'll be just fine afterward.
Trust me. I'm a doctor.
by Bryn Shander » Thu Jul 16, 2009 10:08 pm
Rhodmhire wrote:Bryn Shander wrote:Next time he brings it up, kick his ass. Then get him good and drunk and take him to a strip club in a questionable part of town.
He'll be just fine afterward.
Trust me. I'm a doctor.
He's younger than me, he's 15 going on 16 in September. If you want both of us to get arrested, I'll say it was doctor's orders.
Sorry, I know it was probably a joke, it's just been making me uneasy lately, a lot of my bickering and stress on NS is partially due to this whole thing.
by South Lorenya » Thu Jul 16, 2009 10:09 pm
Rhodmhire wrote:South Lorenya wrote:Unfortunately, I don't really know how to help; all I can tell you is that quoting religious statements will NOT help.
All I told him was that if he wanted my opinion, whether you believe there's a God or not out there, that you have a purpose in life. To that I added that I believe there's something greater than I am out there, something out there that I may not understand all too well, but I understand enough to know that it installs a sense of purpose in me.
I wasn't trying to convert him...and I didn't quote any "religious statements..."
by Rhodmhire » Thu Jul 16, 2009 10:09 pm
Lapse wrote:There are experienced profesionals that deal with this. Encourage him to see one of them. Feeling depressed nothing to be embarrassed about, and can be treated (not just by doping, but by alternative therapies).
Honestly, you sound like a good friend, but you should not be put in this postition by someone that regards you as a friend. It does seem to me a bit that he may be trying to manipulate you to get attention. I understand your predicament and have been in it myself. It is tricky because on one hand you can be 95% sure they are just manipulating you, but there is the 5% doubt of what if they are serious?
by Dread Lady Nathicana » Thu Jul 16, 2009 10:09 pm
by Rhodmhire » Thu Jul 16, 2009 10:11 pm
South Lorenya wrote:I've had times when I was quite depressed before. Trust me, you don't want to tempt him into trying to prove your religious beliefs wrong.
by Saige Dragon » Thu Jul 16, 2009 10:12 pm
Rhodmhire wrote:He's younger than me, he's 15 going on 16 in September.
by Thethunderdome » Thu Jul 16, 2009 10:12 pm
by Rhodmhire » Thu Jul 16, 2009 10:13 pm
Dread Lady Nathicana wrote:What words you use depends entirely on what he believes is helpful. If he's of a religious bent, then religious assistance isn't amiss. Assure him you're there for him, assure him there are loads of others who care and want to help, all those supportive sorts of things.
Bottom line is, you need to impress on him the importance of getting some real help, real soon. The very fact he's talking to you about it indicates he wants help. If he didn't, he'd have likely gone through with it already.
Professional help, soon. If not now. And if you're worried enough, call someone yourself and ask what can be done.
And ignore BS there. His comment above is decidedly unhelpful - as you've no doubt figured out for yourself.
by Sanctus-Terra » Thu Jul 16, 2009 10:14 pm
by SaintB » Thu Jul 16, 2009 10:14 pm
Bryn Shander wrote:Just remember one important thing, and make sure he remembers it too. Bros before hoes.
by The Requiem of Shadow » Thu Jul 16, 2009 10:15 pm
by Rhodmhire » Thu Jul 16, 2009 10:15 pm
Thethunderdome wrote:I'm going to go out on a limb and say there are people more qualified to talk to about this than NSG
maybe I'm just batshit insane
by Lapse » Thu Jul 16, 2009 10:15 pm
Rhodmhire wrote:Lapse wrote:There are experienced profesionals that deal with this. Encourage him to see one of them. Feeling depressed nothing to be embarrassed about, and can be treated (not just by doping, but by alternative therapies).
Honestly, you sound like a good friend, but you should not be put in this postition by someone that regards you as a friend. It does seem to me a bit that he may be trying to manipulate you to get attention. I understand your predicament and have been in it myself. It is tricky because on one hand you can be 95% sure they are just manipulating you, but there is the 5% doubt of what if they are serious?
I wanted to bring up therapy, but I didn't know, nor do I currently know of his history with therapists, or past depressions.
I kind of strayed away from it, and encouraged him to talk to his parents. I didn't want to be the one to make him sound insane or more depressed than he thought, or currently thinks.
If it gets to a point though, I'll probably recommend therapy.
by Rhodmhire » Thu Jul 16, 2009 10:19 pm
The Requiem of Shadow wrote:He's lacking emotion is what... You can convince him to think about who's doing it, and tell him to get angry at her for making him think this or himself for being so weak.
This way, though, has its... repercussions...
by Surote » Thu Jul 16, 2009 10:21 pm
by Rhodmhire » Thu Jul 16, 2009 10:21 pm
Lapse wrote:This depends on his relationship with his parents, but the other option that could work would be talk to his parents. Let them know what he has said to you and they will talk to him. Parents are good at talking to their kids, regardless to what teenagers might think. And he of course, as a 15 year old boy, is going to be far to embarrased to actually initiate this conversation his own parents about it. As Dread Lady Nathicana mentioned, he is telling you because he wants help.
Ultimatly I think there is very little you are going to be able to do yourself. He is either going to get over it or he is going to keep on whinging about it. You have tried everything you can to help him get over it, so now it is someone elses turn.
by Pax Ordo » Thu Jul 16, 2009 10:22 pm
Rhodmhire wrote:For about a month or so now, my good friend Gregory has been talking about suicide.
I've been talking to him online for quite some time, and he'll even mention it sometimes in person. It's over a girl he knows, he's really believing she's the central cause of his life being in seemingly shattered ruins.
At first I talked to him and he seemed like he'd be okay, but it's getting progressively worse.
Personally, at the end of every talk, I'll remind him that I am no person to choose how he handles his situation, I've brought up my experiences, my religious views, my alternative solutions. Nothing I do does anything more than give him a sense of friendship, comfort, and understanding from me, and the next time we talk, he brings suicide up again.
I don't know what to do and I'm very worried.
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