Does saying "I love you" matters?

[Pope Joan]

I was looking out my window at the ferocious traffic zipping by on Lakeshore Drive in Chicago, watching some poor soul try to dart and weave through it...and he was at a crosswalk, going with the proper light!

I wondered if I would be willing to risk my life to save somebody in danger like that and the only person I could think of was the one I proposed to two months later and eventually married.

So I think love is damn serious and words usually aren't.

[Neu Leonstein]

I'm an emotional wreck. Maybe an emotional wrecking ball too. So I find it hard to say "I love you", because I don't know whether I actually mean it and it's not something I want to say lightly.

That's not a problem in itself, I think, so much as a symptom of actual problems.

[Nanatsu no Tsuki]

I'm an emotional wreck. Maybe an emotional wrecking ball too. So I find it hard to say "I love you", because I don't know whether I actually mean it and it's not something I want to say lightly.

I think you're just cautious. Nothing bad in being cautious. And if you were hurt by a past relation, in any way, the caution doubles.

That's not a problem in itself, I think, so much as a symptom of actual problems.

If your emotional state isn't in the best shape, yes, I can see how this could be a symptom of actual problems. Fragility can prompt people to withhold saying something or saying too much.

[Voltairian Prospects]

But I feel no love and wish to enslave everyone to my will.

Oooo... I like that

[NERVUN]

a) Why do we feel/do not feel love?

For various reasons, biological, cultural, social, etc. Like a lot of human emoutions and behavores, there seems to be a large mix of things that is hard to define and pin down as to why.

b) How would you define love?

*Starts humming 'The Rose'*

Love seems to be a feeling that changes from minute to minute, in strength and ends. I mean, I think of my love for my wife and it changes over time, there's the love I have for her right now, when she is at home and I am at work, there's the love I have for her when we're alone in our bed, there's the love I have for her when we're taking care of our son. The same goes for my family and my son, it changes. In other words, I don't know what exactly it is, I just knows I has it.

c) And, finally... does saying "I love you" matters to you and why?

Yes, it does. You need deeds to show love, of course, but the problem I have found is that when I thought that I didn't need to tell my wife because actions alone should show it, is that it didn't satisfy her. Sometimes it's just nice to hear it, and sometimes it's just nice to say it.

NOTE: Try to be serious, please.

On NSG? Nanatsu... are you feeling ok?

[Hairless Kitten II]

Love is a verb, a drug, an addiction. Love can be cruel and dangerous. It can kill people, direct and indirectly.
But still, I want love. I want to receive love and give love to the right people.

Poor is the man whose love depends on the goodwill of a woman.

[Nanatsu no Tsuki]

For various reasons, biological, cultural, social, etc. Like a lot of human emoutions and behavores, there seems to be a large mix of things that is hard to define and pin down as to why.

Yes, I think I was overreaching there. It's definitions, like those of ''art'', can be many and varied.

*Starts humming 'The Rose'*

Love seems to be a feeling that changes from minute to minute, in strength and ends. I mean, I think of my love for my wife and it changes over time, there's the love I have for her right now, when she is at home and I am at work, there's the love I have for her when we're alone in our bed, there's the love I have for her when we're taking care of our son. The same goes for my family and my son, it changes. In other words, I don't know what exactly it is, I just knows I has it.

A changing emotion. I rather like that. It also denotes a belief in different kinds of love, something Treznor spoke of a few posts ago. You have the love of the husband, the love of the father, the love of the brother, the love of the son. Different kinds, all felt the same.

Yes, it does. You need deeds to show love, of course, but the problem I have found is that when I thought that I didn't need to tell my wife because actions alone should show it, is that it didn't satisfy her. Sometimes it's just nice to hear it, and sometimes it's just nice to say it.

Actions and words combined, yes.

On NSG? Nanatsu... are you feeling ok?

I think I'm not.

[Buffett and Colbert]

a) To be as unphilosophical as possible, love stems from physical attraction, which the human body is wired to desire. We just happen to have detailed enough brains that are able to appreciate characteristics of a person such as intelligence, humor, sensitivity, etc.

b) Attraction to another based on physical attraction, or mental characteristics.

c) Of course. It let's your spouse/boy/girlfriend know that you actually care about and are thinking of him/her.

[JarVik]

NSG: CORNINES ALERT!!

Yes, I will go there. This stems from Saint Ivanna's thread: Can you love two people at the same time?. Yes, that greatest of feelings: love. That horrendous feeling (sometimes): love. Love! Poets/musicians/common folk, we all feel it or have felt it. Some, in more than one occasion. It has made us laugh, or cry like miserable cows. It has elated us, or dashed us against the rocks.

But I want to get to heart of the matter and ask, NSG, you craddle of erudition, comedy and innanity:

a) Why do we feel/do not feel love?
b) How would you define love?
c) And, finally... does saying "I love you" matters to you and why?

Finally final (honest this time):

d) Or why it doesn't matter?

NOTE: Try to be serious, please.

a) I could say brain chemistry to aid pair bonding and reproductive success but thats a cop out. I don't know.
b) You know it when you have it. Willing to go through hell for the sake of another.
c) Yes, important affirmation that is cherished by those who wish to be loved by you and vice-versa.
d) See a), also it probably makes society more civil. Perhaps society and civilization would be imposible without it.

[Megaloria]

Love is giving a damn when you don't have a damn left in you.

[Nanatsu no Tsuki]

Love is giving a damn when you don't have a damn left in you.

If I had space, I would sig this...