I hear statements like these, "You will never experience true love". When people say to this me I reply with my own question, "What is true love"? For somebody telling anther, “You will never experience true love”, I expect a simple explanation to what this is which they say I will be unable to experience. I never get much of a simple explanation, most people seem to get confused and uncomfortable when I present them with this question, they have trouble explaining to me what true love is. Some sit there and stare into my eyes and say nothing and end conversation or change the topic, others will say it is “unconditional love”, others will go into long rant about this romantic view they have on what they call true love.
My observations of others show me that love is never unconditional, never everlasting, and based on lies. People put up images of themselves, that are either part or entirely made up of lies. They do this to make that person happy, in return so they can be happy. Is this love, true love, than everyone can experience this as long as they can lie. I think love is more cold than what most people try to picture love as, to protect themselves from a truth they may not like.
Even family love, possibility the closet thing to true love, society often seems to imply this love is suppose to be unconditional, isn’t unconditional but conditioned. Look around you, you will see so many broken families, I thought you are suppose to love your family members no matter what they do, say, act, families can’t be broken if unconditional was real and experienced by all normal people.
Maybe even a better question is unconditional something people should engage in or seek out? It is healthy and possible to love somebody with no conditions? From my observation these people set themselves up to suffer the most, their lives are much more likely to be far more tragic for themselves. I think most people also in a way lie to themselves and try to force themselves to love their family unconditionally, because of society and because they will feel awful about themselves, how can you not love a family remember, they will ask is there something wrong with me? Society sets them up to look at themselves and think there is something wrong with them, thus allowing them easily taken advantage of.
The way I see there is no such thing as true love that can be imply on all. Isn’t love about pleasure, a means to make yourself happy? It’s based on selfishness, its based on making yourself happy. People need to make the other happy in order to attain what they want, happiness for themselves. It’s a relationship of mutual benefit, body chemical reactions,and lies, nothing romantic special about it.
What do you think true love is by your own definition? Do you belief there is a such thing as unconditional love and is that true love? Can love even be universally defined?
