Saiwania wrote:Existential Cats wrote:If they actually did approach girls, they'd have a better understanding of how relationships work, and they'd realize appearance isn't always the be-all-end-all of relationships.
Physical appearance in general, is secondary to social skills. You also usually want to be of like language and culture to someone else as a baseline to start from. If you're a smooth enough talker, even being ugly probably isn't going to stop you from getting towards what you want from or with other people. However, it is nonsense that the men should be expected to always have to be the ones to first approach or initiate.
If you're too introverted or risk adverse, it is often better from their perspective to not bother trying at all and just become happy with isolation to the most extent possible. Especially when approaching can be an unacceptably risky gamble where you might get sexual harassment accusations and more.
Too many people out there are now too high strung, on edge, or assume the worst in others. There is little to no reason to particularly even like the company of most other people out there by default that you come across, if that is just not your element and you disapprove of what you see more often than find anything good about real life.
Given my life experiences approaching was scary due to fed up shit that happened to me years ago. I can still say the social hesitancy sticks. Once you hammer a nail into a board you can pull it out but the hole remains