Waspocalypse wrote:Ifreann wrote:Bit weird to compare someone telling you their pronouns to a lady asking you for help. However politely or rudely it might be phrased, being told someone's pronouns isn't a request that you do them a favour.
You missed part of the analogy:
The Karen in the supermarket was shouting at me for not seeing her need for assistance from another section.
She was rude to me for not being staff, not prioritising her needs over mine, not minding my own business - whatvever. She did not ask, she DEMANDED my assistance.
Respect for pronouns is - see my first answer - readily given if the pronoun is politely told: "I prefer", "Please", "Thank you".
Respect for pronouns is a lot less readily given when is it expected that I somehow divine the correct pronoun from ten different options, and have to take verbal abuse for explaining common courtesy. If pronouns become atithetical to courtesy, I will opt for courtesy.
If your respect for calling someone what they want to be called is conditional then you fundamentally don't respect them. It's not courtesy is condescending.