Ispravlennaja Tsekovija wrote:Vassenor wrote:
So you're forcing your views onto cultures that support consenual polyamory and destroying marriage and families for them.
which cultures support "consensual polyamory"? queer communes in 3-bedroom portland apartments don't count as cultures for the purposes of this question
polyamory is essentially an alternative name for polygamy, a system in which one person has multiple spouses, some or all of whom know about some or all of the others. historically, this has usually been men having multiple wives (polygyny), but there have been cases of women having many husbands (polyandry) as well, and more modern lgbtq+ interpretations may conceptualize the relationship as one where each spouse has all of the other spouses and so essentially it forms an entire non-hierarchical community. polyamory may include the latter, polygamy typically doesn't. here, consensual means that the relationship is formed without coercion or secrecy.
basically, i'm asking - do foreign or historical cultures (rather than subcultures) exist which practice anything that can be called "consensual polyamory"? we can also talk about the broader point of whether consensual polyamory/polygamy is even possible, and how we define polyamory vs. polygamy.
personally, as i sort of made clear there, i don't believe such cultures exist or have ever existed, but i'm open to new evidence if some exists that i've never heard. i'm also skeptical of the idea that consensual polygamy can ever exist because it is almost always associated with power imbalances, and i do not believe genuinely ethical polygamy can ever be possible.
thoughts?