Blaming single motherhood on welfare? Why?
Posted: Thu Jul 15, 2021 7:19 pm
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I felt compelled to make this as a spinoff from the other thread, as I feel this topic, while somewhat related, is still meaningfully distinct.
So I noticed a few people in that other thread started to blame welfare for single motherhood, as if the $250000 it costs to raise a child weren't just as intimidating to the average couple as the average individual woman. This past year has shown that you can't rely on a steady stream of income to keep up with that cost. If anything, I would expect a society where raising children is more affordable to make people MORE inclined toward pair bonding, as now they have something to lose by breaking up. Even childless couples might have less trouble making their relationship work without the stress of poverty hanging over their heads. Conversely, even without welfare programs, single mothers can still afford their children if they take turns getting pregnant off the richest guy in town instead of the most attractive one.
I would hope that if a woman stays with a man she has sex with, it's out of love for him, rather than love for his money. Making her financially dependent on him would, at best, leave behind the question of whether it's for love or for money. At worst, it would embolden the worst kinds of abusers to exploit the fact that she has nowhere to escape to.
And for what? To avoid an increase in casual sex; and/or in keeping the resulting baby; that we cannot prove is any more prevalent in, let's say, welfare-state Scandinavia than in the welfare-restricting USA? How would you even prove that either way? It's possible that marital vows are being faked and that both participants in the marriage are having a bunch of casual sex with strangers. It's also possible that singlehood is being faked and people find who they're dating to be even more embarrassing than the assumption that they're not dating at all.
You want monogamy, subsidizing monogamous couples by taxing the rich might be a justified means (if a bit of a grey area) but forcing it on people through fear of poverty is not an acceptable method. Partly because it sounds too disproportionately cruel a response to acts of mutual pleasure, but it'd also be a joke if you were rich anyway. Just ask Donald Trump.
I felt compelled to make this as a spinoff from the other thread, as I feel this topic, while somewhat related, is still meaningfully distinct.
So I noticed a few people in that other thread started to blame welfare for single motherhood, as if the $250000 it costs to raise a child weren't just as intimidating to the average couple as the average individual woman. This past year has shown that you can't rely on a steady stream of income to keep up with that cost. If anything, I would expect a society where raising children is more affordable to make people MORE inclined toward pair bonding, as now they have something to lose by breaking up. Even childless couples might have less trouble making their relationship work without the stress of poverty hanging over their heads. Conversely, even without welfare programs, single mothers can still afford their children if they take turns getting pregnant off the richest guy in town instead of the most attractive one.
I would hope that if a woman stays with a man she has sex with, it's out of love for him, rather than love for his money. Making her financially dependent on him would, at best, leave behind the question of whether it's for love or for money. At worst, it would embolden the worst kinds of abusers to exploit the fact that she has nowhere to escape to.
And for what? To avoid an increase in casual sex; and/or in keeping the resulting baby; that we cannot prove is any more prevalent in, let's say, welfare-state Scandinavia than in the welfare-restricting USA? How would you even prove that either way? It's possible that marital vows are being faked and that both participants in the marriage are having a bunch of casual sex with strangers. It's also possible that singlehood is being faked and people find who they're dating to be even more embarrassing than the assumption that they're not dating at all.
You want monogamy, subsidizing monogamous couples by taxing the rich might be a justified means (if a bit of a grey area) but forcing it on people through fear of poverty is not an acceptable method. Partly because it sounds too disproportionately cruel a response to acts of mutual pleasure, but it'd also be a joke if you were rich anyway. Just ask Donald Trump.