Posted: Thu Mar 04, 2021 10:54 am
I get it, a paramour of a paramour. This word construction pleases me.
Because sometimes even national leaders just want to hang out
https://forum.nationstates.net/
Auzkhia wrote:San Lumen wrote:
Im more of a city person. Don;t care for suburbs.
I like the cities near me but like I don't wanna be too cramped or crowded. I don't like the house I am in now though it is quiet and nobody bothers you, it's almost rural tbh.
Still, small city or suburban town seems to be a best both worlds, and not a McMansion farm. My partners would need the public transportation too. I like driving but hate city parking.
I feel like i have a particular living space taste, especially as a polyamorous person who wants to live with at least my fiancée and girlfriend, maybe have other girlfriends and metamours.
Insaanistan wrote:Auzkhia wrote:I like the cities near me but like I don't wanna be too cramped or crowded. I don't like the house I am in now though it is quiet and nobody bothers you, it's almost rural tbh.
Still, small city or suburban town seems to be a best both worlds, and not a McMansion farm. My partners would need the public transportation too. I like driving but hate city parking.
I feel like i have a particular living space taste, especially as a polyamorous person who wants to live with at least my fiancée and girlfriend, maybe have other girlfriends and metamours.
This disturbs me.
Insaanistan wrote:Auzkhia wrote:I like the cities near me but like I don't wanna be too cramped or crowded. I don't like the house I am in now though it is quiet and nobody bothers you, it's almost rural tbh.
Still, small city or suburban town seems to be a best both worlds, and not a McMansion farm. My partners would need the public transportation too. I like driving but hate city parking.
I feel like i have a particular living space taste, especially as a polyamorous person who wants to live with at least my fiancée and girlfriend, maybe have other girlfriends and metamours.
This disturbs me.
Insaanistan wrote:Auzkhia wrote:I like the cities near me but like I don't wanna be too cramped or crowded. I don't like the house I am in now though it is quiet and nobody bothers you, it's almost rural tbh.
Still, small city or suburban town seems to be a best both worlds, and not a McMansion farm. My partners would need the public transportation too. I like driving but hate city parking.
I feel like i have a particular living space taste, especially as a polyamorous person who wants to live with at least my fiancée and girlfriend, maybe have other girlfriends and metamours.
This disturbs me.
Insaanistan wrote:Auzkhia wrote:I like the cities near me but like I don't wanna be too cramped or crowded. I don't like the house I am in now though it is quiet and nobody bothers you, it's almost rural tbh.
Still, small city or suburban town seems to be a best both worlds, and not a McMansion farm. My partners would need the public transportation too. I like driving but hate city parking.
I feel like i have a particular living space taste, especially as a polyamorous person who wants to live with at least my fiancée and girlfriend, maybe have other girlfriends and metamours.
This disturbs me.
Daarwyrth wrote:Insaanistan wrote:
This disturbs me.
While I am not polyamorous in the least, I don't think it's that disturbing. It's a social agreement that marriages in Western cultures are monogamous, but as with any agreement, the terms and deals can be changed. If someone is happy in a polyamorous relationship, that's their business and no one elses.
Auzkhia wrote:Daarwyrth wrote:While I am not polyamorous in the least, I don't think it's that disturbing. It's a social agreement that marriages in Western cultures are monogamous, but as with any agreement, the terms and deals can be changed. If someone is happy in a polyamorous relationship, that's their business and no one elses.
I'd would love to be married to multiple wives though I could only have that in name only and not recognized as a legally binding marriage. Socially, there's nothing stopping me from saying I have wives.
Insaanistan wrote:Auzkhia wrote:I'd would love to be married to multiple wives though I could only have that in name only and not recognized as a legally binding marriage. Socially, there's nothing stopping me from saying I have wives.
What disturbed me was less the idea you having multiple partners and more the idea of you having multiple parts who have partners other than you.
Your right to do so, sure. Just my opinion.
Insaanistan wrote:What disturbed me was less the idea you having multiple partners and more the idea of you having multiple parts who have partners other than you.
Your right to do so, sure. Just my opinion.
Ainland wrote:Zul-ar wrote:There may not be causation but I'd hesitate to say there's no correlation.
If you accept there is no causation, then I don't see the relevance in even thinking about the second part of your sentence. There could be many reasons for that.
Fortunately, in many countries, gay people are now able to get married. So young people who happen to be gay, increasingly know that their sexual orientation doesn't need to define them. They can live regular, responsible lives, in their local communities, get married, have a monogamous committed relationship etc.
Or, they can reject monogamy, they can be promiscuous, irresponsible, etc. Just like plenty of heterosexual peolle. But no longer can that be conflated with homosexuality.
Zul-ar wrote:Ainland wrote:If you accept there is no causation, then I don't see the relevance in even thinking about the second part of your sentence. There could be many reasons for that.
Fortunately, in many countries, gay people are now able to get married. So young people who happen to be gay, increasingly know that their sexual orientation doesn't need to define them. They can live regular, responsible lives, in their local communities, get married, have a monogamous committed relationship etc.
Or, they can reject monogamy, they can be promiscuous, irresponsible, etc. Just like plenty of heterosexual peolle. But no longer can that be conflated with homosexuality.
You write like polyamory/polygamy necessitates promiscuity and irresponsible behavior, marriage and monogamy are superior to other lifestyles, and promiscuity is somehow inherently a bad thing.
Ainland wrote:Zul-ar wrote:You write like polyamory/polygamy necessitates promiscuity and irresponsible behavior, marriage and monogamy are superior to other lifestyles, and promiscuity is somehow inherently a bad thing.
Well I think you're focusing more on how I'm writing than the substantive point, which is that sexual orientation should not be conflated with things like monogamy/promiscuity/responsibility/behaviours/or any "lifestyle' factors.
Zul-ar wrote:Ainland wrote:Well I think you're focusing more on how I'm writing than the substantive point, which is that sexual orientation should not be conflated with things like monogamy/promiscuity/responsibility/behaviours/or any "lifestyle' factors.
One certainly shouldn't stereotype a sexuality with certain behaviors, it's fine to acknowledge that there's a good percent of polyamorists who also identify and LGBT. It doesn't mean that LGBT are all into polyamory, it just means what it means.
It also seems like you're dodging the question. It appeared to me you were biased against the polyamorous and that was your reason for denying the correlation.
Wink Wonk We Like Stonks wrote:this raises the question though, is a heterosexual polyamorous person included in the lgbt+ community?