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Should married people be required to wear their wedding ring

Postby Grinning Dragon » Tue Feb 09, 2021 8:31 am

This is actually a multi part question.
To make a long story short... At the beginning of the year a new instructor was hired at one of the campuses. Apparently she took a shine to me and badgered me at times to go have a drink/dinner or whatever activity with her. After the first few rejections, she sought the help of her coworkers in which she was informed I was married. Well this didn't go over well and she has now proposed a change to the employee handbook that married personnel should wear their wedding rings/bands to avoid confusion and is trying to garner support for this change, so far no one has signed on. She said if she knew I was married she would have dropped the pursuit and avoided embarrassing herself.
Since I work with my hands and I am around electronics/electricity, I don't wear my ring for obvious reasons, in fact I haven't worn it since the day I got married.

Even if I were single I still would have said NO, as she isn't even close to being my type and in no way could I ever see myself being romantically involved with her, friends; yes, lovers; hell no.
So this begs the following questions. Is a person owed a further explanation to a response of "NO", "Naw, I'm good" and "I'm not interested"?
Why does it matter if a person is married or not, shouldn't no mean no?
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Why do some women think they are entitled to a man's attention/time and NO just isn't an acceptable answer?

IMO, no is all the justification that is needed, I don't feel the need to explain myself as to why I said no, after all NO is a complete sentence.
Her embarrassment is all on her, as I share NO part in that.
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Postby Ifreann » Tue Feb 09, 2021 8:38 am

Bit of an over-reaction to accidentally hitting on a married person.
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Postby The New California Republic » Tue Feb 09, 2021 8:41 am

It sounds like she is just butthurt tbh.
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Postby Picairn » Tue Feb 09, 2021 8:44 am

Wow you have a seriously butthurt stalker.
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Postby Zohiania » Tue Feb 09, 2021 8:50 am

Me and my wife are both service members and civilian government employees, we both do work as well that either requires or greatly encourages us to not wear our actual wedding rings so we both don't always wear our actual wedding rings when working, but we both wear rubber rings to ensure people know we are married while also performing our work with no issues. But I don't think people should be required to wear their wedding rings. Both me and my wife get hit on even with our rings on.
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Postby Borderlands of Rojava » Tue Feb 09, 2021 8:51 am

No because marriage isn't some sort of religion that requires you to wear certain things and if a ring is the only thing preserving your marriage, your marriage is already fucked.
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Postby Ethel mermania » Tue Feb 09, 2021 9:01 am

I dont have a wedding ring. When we were married I was putting my hand into live electronic equipment all the time. I didn't want a highly conductive material around my finger.

I think your co-worker is a very silly girl, and you should tell her so.

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Postby Borderlands of Rojava » Tue Feb 09, 2021 9:03 am

Ethel mermania wrote:I dont have a wedding ring. When we were married I was putting my hand into live electronic equipment all the time. I didn't want a highly conductive material around my finger.

I think your co-worker is a very silly girl, and you should tell her so.

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Postby Giovenith » Tue Feb 09, 2021 9:03 am

No. And believe me, a wedding ring isn't going to stop a determined creep or stalker.
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Postby Ethel mermania » Tue Feb 09, 2021 9:06 am

Borderlands of Rojava wrote:
Ethel mermania wrote:I dont have a wedding ring. When we were married I was putting my hand into live electronic equipment all the time. I didn't want a highly conductive material around my finger.

I think your co-worker is a very silly girl, and you should tell her so.

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Postby Scherzinger » Tue Feb 09, 2021 9:06 am

a ring requirement is a bit of an overstep of ones personal choices. this is definitely an over-reaction. That said, saying you were married in the first place may have kept this fiasco from happening to begin with. dont let the communists who will inevitably infect this chat with toxic sludge about their view on your marriage discourage you
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Postby Vassenor » Tue Feb 09, 2021 9:07 am

Maybe don't randomly hit on your coworkers.
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Postby Ethel mermania » Tue Feb 09, 2021 9:08 am

Giovenith wrote:No. And believe me, a wedding ring isn't going to stop a determined creep or stalker.


Just be because they are married doesn't mean they are enthusiastic about it
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Postby Drew Durrnil » Tue Feb 09, 2021 9:09 am

Grinning Dragon wrote:This is actually a multi part question.
To make a long story short... At the beginning of the year a new instructor was hired at one of the campuses. Apparently she took a shine to me and badgered me at times to go have a drink/dinner or whatever activity with her. After the first few rejections, she sought the help of her coworkers in which she was informed I was married. Well this didn't go over well and she has now proposed a change to the employee handbook that married personnel should wear their wedding rings/bands to avoid confusion and is trying to garner support for this change, so far no one has signed on. She said if she knew I was married she would have dropped the pursuit and avoided embarrassing herself.
Since I work with my hands and I am around electronics/electricity, I don't wear my ring for obvious reasons, in fact I haven't worn it since the day I got married.

Even if I were single I still would have said NO, as she isn't even close to being my type and in no way could I ever see myself being romantically involved with her, friends; yes, lovers; hell no.
So this begs the following questions. Is a person owed a further explanation to a response of "NO", "Naw, I'm good" and "I'm not interested"?
Why does it matter if a person is married or not, shouldn't no mean no?
If the roles were reversed wouldn't holy hell rain down on the guy?
Why do some women think they are entitled to a man's attention/time and NO just isn't an acceptable answer?
IMO, no is all the justification that is needed, I don't feel the need to explain myself as to why I said no, after all NO is a complete sentence.
Her embarrassment is all on her, as I share NO part in that.
When I am at work, I'm there to work, I've done the inter-office/coworker romance thing when I was younger and the majority of the time it never ends well, so I avoid it after learning it the hard way.

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Postby Confederated Canada » Tue Feb 09, 2021 9:11 am

Obviously, it shouldn't be a requirement. I wear my engagement ring on a necklace around my neck bc rings make me uncomfortable. People have still hit on me after they found out I'm engaged, so it wouldn't even stop a determined weirdo.
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Postby Ifreann » Tue Feb 09, 2021 9:14 am

Scherzinger wrote:a ring requirement is a bit of an overstep of ones personal choices. this is definitely an over-reaction. That said, saying you were married in the first place may have kept this fiasco from happening to begin with. dont let the communists who will inevitably infect this chat with toxic sludge about their view on your marriage discourage you

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Vassenor wrote:Maybe don't randomly hit on your coworkers.

But you need some source of drama for workplace gossip.
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Postby Belshekistan » Tue Feb 09, 2021 9:20 am

Scherzinger wrote:a ring requirement is a bit of an overstep of ones personal choices. this is definitely an over-reaction. That said, saying you were married in the first place may have kept this fiasco from happening to begin with. dont let the communists who will inevitably infect this chat with toxic sludge about their view on your marriage discourage you

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Postby The Huskar Social Union » Tue Feb 09, 2021 9:22 am

She seems to having one hell of an over reaction to the whole matter. Maybe she should just take no for an answer an drop it?

Also no i dont think it should be a requirement, well most married people will wear their rings for the most part any way but some wont for whatever reason but nah i dont think they should bne forced or required.

Scherzinger wrote:a ring requirement is a bit of an overstep of ones personal choices. this is definitely an over-reaction. That said, saying you were married in the first place may have kept this fiasco from happening to begin with. dont let the communists who will inevitably infect this chat with toxic sludge about their view on your marriage discourage you

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Postby Jabberwocky » Tue Feb 09, 2021 9:26 am

Whether I wear a ring is nobody's business but mine...and my wife's.
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Postby Borderlands of Rojava » Tue Feb 09, 2021 9:28 am

The Huskar Social Union wrote:She seems to having one hell of an over reaction to the whole matter. Maybe she should just take no for an answer an drop it?

Also no i dont think it should be a requirement, well most married people will wear their rings for the most part any way but some wont for whatever reason but nah i dont think they should bne forced or required.

Scherzinger wrote:a ring requirement is a bit of an overstep of ones personal choices. this is definitely an over-reaction. That said, saying you were married in the first place may have kept this fiasco from happening to begin with. dont let the communists who will inevitably infect this chat with toxic sludge about their view on your marriage discourage you

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Postby Rusozak » Tue Feb 09, 2021 9:29 am

Sounds like something married partners should be determining for themselves.
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Postby The Alma Mater » Tue Feb 09, 2021 9:30 am

So because she is incapable of asking if you are single or not, wedding rings should be compulsory ?

How does that solve her going after people in a committed relationship who are not married ?
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Postby Kandorith » Tue Feb 09, 2021 9:31 am

No, why should it be? Most of my married friends do not wear their rings; one of them even lost it after his wedding night. :rofl:

I wear a lot of rings myself but wedding rings, I do not see the use of them to be fair. The only use they have is the symbolism of tying the marriage, after that it is what it is: just another piece of jewellery, although with a lot of symbolism.

It's personal choice and I myself won't wear a wedding ring myself, but my partner is free to do so themselves.
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Postby Major-Tom » Tue Feb 09, 2021 9:31 am

Yikes man, you're kind of in a weird situation there.
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Postby The Holy Therns » Tue Feb 09, 2021 9:35 am

No, you shouldn't be required to wear a wedding ring if you're married. You shouldn't even be required to have one.
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