You may feel some reasons to come out and live openly, or you may feel some reasons to hide and keep your head down. Either is a valid path to take in life. Coming out as anything but cisgender and heterosexual should not be needed, though it is to show that we're here, we're queer, and that we won't hide in shame, though one's safety is important too. Pride and or safety? Must one have to choose? I don't hide my gender and sexuality, but also I don't know what people see me as exactly with regards to those. I generally am seen as a woman, for all intents and purposes, it is much better than being seen as a man. Though I'm genderqueer and my gender doesn't always fit in with womanhood.
I'm kinda a lesbian, though usually say queer. I think the only time when people see that is if I am with any of my partners, all of which are transfeminine people, my wife is non-binary like me though, my girlfriends are trans women. Usually people see, at best- i hope, two women holding hands. I generally feel safe to do so where I live. But like I guess I'd be careful if it were a more conservative area. I don't consider myself to be closeted at all, though I am out on my own accord to my friends and family— and of course my lovers. With my gender? Well, I guess I kinda am stealth but not really? You cannot really "pass" as non-binary. I often get called miss or ma'am in public. Though misgendering with a sir happens sometimes, it's much more rare. Though last work I had, people used my pronouns without any prompting besides my usually feminine presentation. It's much better than people flubbing pronouns and even deadnaming me. I don't tell strangers or coworkers I'm trans, though some people do clock me. It's weird, but like if a person cannot really process non-binary genders, treating me as female would suffice.
*has sex with a woman*
Are we just straight galpals? I wonder if she likes me? Is she gay?