Uan aa Boa wrote:Coming to this thread I was thinking of chivalrous attitudes as a bit daft and antiquated, probably frustrating to be on the receiving end of, but I wouldn't have described them as sinister. Then I noticed that 3 of the posters who jumped to their defence have a definite eagle and iron cross motif going on with their flags. And I'm aware of Godwin's law and all that, but still...
My nation's flag has nothing to do with the german iron cross or eagle, nor am I a fascist or a nazi for that matter, so yeah, shut up with that argument.
What I said about Chivalry (obviously the softer and modern version as we don't live in the medieval times nor are we knights) is my personal opinion, while I added that we should really behave honorably, with kindness and compassion towards everyone (unless they are a total jackass and are the ones doing harm to others). Also, I was not defending women aren't capable of defending themselves per se, or are less capable than men in life or some areas, what I mean is the following, as some of you seem to have a hard time understanding since you guys like to make a problem out of everything:
In general women are less physically strong than men, as such men should protect them (as we should children and the elderly) when needed, and specially when the aggressor is another man. Women should be treated by law equally and be presented the same opportunities, never said otherwise.
But my behavior will be a bit different if I see a women carrying a lot of things in the street, I'll ask if she needs help a bit quicker and naturally, I'll hold the door (but then again I'll hold the door to everyone because it's just good manners), I'll help a women putting the baby stroller on the train/bus, for example. Men can usually do that kind of stuff better because they have superior upper body strength, it's biological (But of course I would help anyone in need, never said otherwise), I'll stand up on public transport if a women and/or children/elderly arrives and every seat is taken. I'll also accompany a female friend home if we're walking so that she arrives safe when it's night because women are more vulnerable to some kind of crimes as we well know, a male friend it's not that dangerous so I really won't. The same with vulnerable situations, a female alone and drunk after a nigh out, runs greater risks than a guy, I'll help both, but I'll probably see that the girl arrives safe at home, to her friends, wtv. Women are more vulnerable than men and men have a bigger responsibility to safeguard women children and the elderly because of biological reasons, some "social constructs" or wtv you want to call it are based on our own nature as human beings. You can call it patronizing but it really isn't, if people don't want my help I'll take my leave, but it doesn't hurt to to that extra mile for women. Chivalry is not about expecting anything in return, it's not about patronizing, it's not about simping, it's about respecting and protecting women.
Just wanted to add this because you all have a tendency to think that by a 2 sentenced paragraph that you know anything about people and their ideas.