Feline Goetland wrote:Neanderthaland wrote:To lie to someone to preserve their happiness is to infantilize them. It is to reject their dignity, reason, and responsibility, because you think you know better than they do. You may think you're doing them a favor. You're actually belittling them. It shows contempt for them. I won't say there's never any reason to do this, but just know that it's a very disrespectful thing to do. And if they hate you for it when they find out, they have every right to.
To lie to yourself to preserve your happiness, is to infantilize yourself. It is to reject all claim to dignity, reason, and responsibility, and hold yourself in contempt. There is a reason why cults attempt to break you down before they indoctrinate you. To lie to yourself is to be broken.
What do you think should be done about actual children?
Generally I'm in favor of not lying to children. It's very easy to abuse children's tendency to believe whatever an adult tells them. And there's a long history of adults taking advantage of this fact to abuse children. If you have to do it, you better have a good goddamn reason.