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ents from following them on social media?

I have seen, across the internet, many teenagers who say things like "if you go to my school, leave, don't follow me, forget I exist". They say it on apps like TikTok and Twitter. I personally disagree with this policy, I think it is mean. Sure, block bullies, but for example, I have seen some fellow k-pop fans claim to have this policy and I have often thought about how hurt I would be if I went to their school and loved kpop and shared my interests with them but wasn't able to follow thier kpop filled tiktoks because of their policies. They often don't give a reason they just say "don't follow me". Can anyone offer any insights. What are your thoughts.

Elezola wrote:ents from following them on social media?

I have seen, across the internet, many teenagers who say things like "if you go to my school, leave, don't follow me, forget I exist". They say it on apps like TikTok and Twitter. I personally disagree with this policy, I think it is mean. Sure, block bullies, but for example, I have seen some fellow k-pop fans claim to have this policy and I have often thought about how hurt I would be if I went to their school and loved kpop and shared my interests with them but wasn't able to follow thier kpop filled tiktoks because of their policies. They often don't give a reason they just say "don't follow me". Can anyone offer any insights. What are your thoughts.

That's an interesting consequence of the way the internet keeps people in bubbles. If someone online spends their time posting about niche interests like k-pop, then I can see why they wouldn't want fellow students or coworkers to know, so thus ask them to not follow. I know a handful of folks who have strong dividing lines between their 'warhammer world' and their 'real world', to go with one of my special hobbies.

The only difference though is that in social media that line can easily be blurred, so for people who wish to take a strong stance of separation, then they have to force it.

So for your situation, the most likely situation is that those teenagers are in schools where they are the only kpop fan, and don't want everyone to talk about their 'weird' postings in the school playground.

Kids are assholes. Some people get bullied by virtually everyone and simply dont want to deal with it. Telling people to fuck off en masse is sensible and prudent imo.

My explanation: these other kids have "friends" online who don't know all the stuff you know about them. They're worried you'll embarrass them with real world stuff. Or doxx them, deliberately or accidentally.

Maybe if they knew more about your online life, they'd trust you more. But then I guess you have to ask yourself, do you trust them around your online life?

Even in the current climate we haven't yet reached the realm of inclusivity-based compulsory friendship. Soon, perhaps!

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This always existed since social media began, it just was more subtle. They'd not accept your friend request or even outright block you without any stated reason why.

My advice? If they're too stupid to realise that online privacy, let alone anonymity, is never achieved by telling everyone who knows them IRL who they are online and then enforcing a 'don't @ me, add me or follow me' policy, they're probably not the most enriching friend you could make anyway.

This sounds a lot like someone turned down your friend request and you're angry about it.

My social media, my right to chose who gets to follow me.

The only exception is government officials with their constituents. They shouldn't be able to block them. Because that interferes with the right to free speech.

Bruh

As someone who does not have many friends, does not want many friends and DEFINITIVELY did not want my classmates as friends back when I was in school I can understand this. In fact back in the day I even made a deliberate point of NOT having any real name social networks for the explicit reason of avoiding such contacts online. This might come as a shock to you but some people actually have friends from outside their school/work and want to keep those two lives separate.

The Blaatschapen wrote:My social media, my right to chose who gets to follow me.

The only exception is government officials with their constituents. They shouldn't be able to block them. Because that interferes with the right to free speech.

How does that work? What does free speech have to do with being able to message a particular person? You can still go out into the street and say what you want for everyone to hear. So your ability to speak is not impaired. And it's not like politicians have a legal obligation to hear what you say. Let alone listen to it.

I don't give out my social media at work, and I would block anyone I didn't want to see what I did online.

The Blaatschapen wrote:My social media, my right to chose who gets to follow me.

The only exception is government officials with their constituents. They shouldn't be able to block them. Because that interferes with the right to free speech.

Bruh if you put kpop or anime stuff of yourself all over tiktok there’s no point pretending it isn’t you. If you don’t want real life people to see your stuff don’t put your name or face on it.

You see, as a current high schooler, I don’t use any other social media other than reddit, and here if this counts as a social media. I don’t give my reddit out except to a chosen few of my friends. So, they can’t bully me if they don’t know where to find me

Umayyad Hispania wrote:You see, as a current high schooler, I don’t use any other social media other than reddit, and here if this counts as a social media. I don’t give my reddit out except to a chosen few of my friends. So, they can’t bully me if they don’t know where to find me

This is the correct answer.

I follow the policy of keeping irl and the internet separate.

If you don't post your name or face online, people from your life shouldn't be able to find out who you are anyway, and thus you don't have to worry about pesky colleagues finding out your embarrassing hobbies. No need to block people.

You can block whomever you want to -- people don't have a right to talk to you if you don't want to talk to them.

Social media was a mistake.

Most social media was a mistake, at least in my opinion. Being semi-anonymous on sites such as reddit are mostly ok to me.

Asle Leopolka wrote:Social media was a mistake.

Things like this make me realize how grateful I am social media didn't exist back when I was in high school, let alone earlier. I really don't see any positive contribution from any of that shit, especially the more toxic versions that exist today.

Facebook itself was a novelty when I was a freshman in college in 2006 and even then was pretty tame and unremarkable. The coolest thing back when I was in high school was Gmail, back in the days when you needed an invite to set up an account.

Katganistan wrote:You can block whomever you want to -- people don't have a right to talk to you if you don't want to talk to them.

Right? A moderator of Max Barry's personal father knows best site talks about rights online?

Practically, of course, it depends on the site's ToS and tools. Here, of course, nobody can block anybody. They can ignore them, but they can't stop them from reading their posts and responding to them. (Within the limits of Moderation's judgement on stalking and like that.)

Vetalia wrote:

Asle Leopolka wrote:Social media was a mistake.

Things like this make me realize how grateful I am social media didn't exist back when I was in high school, let alone earlier. I really don't see any positive contribution from any of that shit, especially the more toxic versions that exist today.

Facebook itself was a novelty when I was a freshman in college in 2006 and even then was pretty tame and unremarkable. The coolest thing back when I was in high school was Gmail, back in the days when you needed an invite to set up an account.

Yea, I remember those days. Back than everyone used Yahoo mail too. Like Gmail was a new odd thing that came from a boring website that didn't even show you news.

Elezola wrote:ents from following them on social media?

I have seen, across the internet, many teenagers who say things like "if you go to my school, leave, don't follow me, forget I exist". They say it on apps like TikTok and Twitter. I personally disagree with this policy, I think it is mean. Sure, block bullies, but for example, I have seen some fellow k-pop fans claim to have this policy and I have often thought about how hurt I would be if I went to their school and loved kpop and shared my interests with them but wasn't able to follow thier kpop filled tiktoks because of their policies. They often don't give a reason they just say "don't follow me". Can anyone offer any insights. What are your thoughts.

Sounds to me like the lesson is "don't let kids use the Internet unsupervised."

If you want to be inclusive there is a price to pay.

Well, when you live in a world where a single post is liable to start a wave of backlash against you if anyone you know IRL sees it...
I don't blame them, tbh.