Remnants of Exilvania wrote:Hmmm, back when I was younger I had the questionable pleasure of being on the receiving end of corporal punishment. Spanking my behind, slapping me in the face, twisting and lifting me up by my ear, hitting me with the belt across the back.
It certainly had immensely good short term effects.
I am not sure yet on the long term effects. My memories of the punishment dished out by my parents tend to be ones of pride rather than resentment. In fact, my primary resentment towards my parents always came from their non-violent means of enforcing their rules. Taking the computer cable/Nintendo DS, forcing me to engage in sports, forcing me to go on walks, forcing me to wash the dishes, forcing me to eat three more meals over the course of the afternoon, constantly asking me about my weight etc.
Violence is...something I do not employ. Perhaps I like to engage in it in my games, preferring games with violence/action/war at their core but tend to rather attempt to solve things peacefully and without violence when in person. My tendency for game violence was also pretty much present within and before my spanked era and never even once stopped. Nothing was better than playing with tanks and soldiers and knights, throwing things around the room to simulate them exploding and whatnot. Physical violence against other people was limited to Kindergarten/early elementary where lunch break basically meant "All boys go out into the sandpit and turn it into a moshpit". We grew out of it fairly quickly. By the time I reached the Gymnasium physical violence was barely a thing. Then again, perhaps the lack of a sandpit and the presence of pure, old concrete ground helped there?
I make my computer and access to the Internet responsible for my poor social development. I was, afterall, still completely fine socially in the time between the end of spanking and when I got my PC.
Has it lowered my IQ or anything? I don't know. I made it into the Gymnasium in 5th grade so if there occured some loss there, it must've been negligible.
I am not sure about spanking in general. Like, I can see that it seems weirdly hypocritical, I can see how it hurts rights and there seem to be an awful lot of studies proving all kinds of bad things about it.
But at the same time I look at my parents, my grandparents and literally most of the everyday people I see and meet and think "So these people are all mentally scarred, handicapped, parent-hating and violent because they grew up in times when spanking was common?" Like...that just doesn't seem right either. Sure, my dad doesn't like grandpa but that's because Grandpa is basically an increasingly senile, working class man who completely neglected his children and not because of any spanking he administered.
So yeah, not sure, don't have an exact position. Just my own personal experiences which are of course personal and cannot really be applied to others.
You probably have a high-to-exceptional IQ without spanking