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by Trollzyn the Infinite » Sun Jun 14, 2020 6:33 am
by Nobel Hobos 2 » Sun Jun 14, 2020 6:37 am
Trollzyn the Infinite wrote:Define "corporal punishment".
There's a measurable difference between spanking a kid on his behind with a bare hand and smacking him across the face with a ruler.
by Trollzyn the Infinite » Sun Jun 14, 2020 6:39 am
Nobel Hobos 2 wrote:Trollzyn the Infinite wrote:Define "corporal punishment".
There's a measurable difference between spanking a kid on his behind with a bare hand and smacking him across the face with a ruler.
They're both punishment by pain, and unless one pain is worse than the other I question the real difference.
by Nobel Hobos 2 » Sun Jun 14, 2020 6:42 am
by Trollzyn the Infinite » Sun Jun 14, 2020 6:44 am
Nobel Hobos 2 wrote:Trollzyn the Infinite wrote:
Uh, one pain is worse than the other. Do you really think being spanked is as painful as being smacked across the face with a ruler?
The face is very sensitive. How about being suddenly slapped with the ruler, on the arm? And let's say that is carefully calibrated to hurt exactly as much as spanking on the behind.
What I'm getting at is that there are differences besides how much it hurts.
by Alessandretta » Sun Jun 14, 2020 6:46 am
Trollzyn the Infinite wrote:Nobel Hobos 2 wrote:
The face is very sensitive. How about being suddenly slapped with the ruler, on the arm? And let's say that is carefully calibrated to hurt exactly as much as spanking on the behind.
What I'm getting at is that there are differences besides how much it hurts.
"Carefully calibrated"? We're talking about parents, not sadistic torturers.
Jesus.
by Nobel Hobos 2 » Sun Jun 14, 2020 6:50 am
Trollzyn the Infinite wrote:Nobel Hobos 2 wrote:
The face is very sensitive. How about being suddenly slapped with the ruler, on the arm? And let's say that is carefully calibrated to hurt exactly as much as spanking on the behind.
What I'm getting at is that there are differences besides how much it hurts.
"Carefully calibrated"? We're talking about parents, not sadistic torturers.
Jesus.
by The Free Joy State » Sun Jun 14, 2020 6:58 am
by Sapporo Hyperspace Riftgate Laboratory » Sun Jun 14, 2020 7:23 am
The Free Joy State wrote:Corporal punishment is ineffective and counter-productive. Parents should avoid reponding physically (something like the NSPCC's guide to positive parenting might help), as hitting a child only teaches them that the response when you want your own way is to hit and humiliate.
A meta-analysis of 88 studies, looking at the use of corporal punishment by parents found the two most common associations were immediate compliance (which is only short-term) and physical abuse from the parent. The same meta-analysis study found that corporal punishment was linked with increased child aggression, more anti-social behaviour, abuse of the child's own spouse or child, reduced moral internalisation, and reduced mental health.
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by Page » Sun Jun 14, 2020 7:45 am
by Sapporo Hyperspace Riftgate Laboratory » Sun Jun 14, 2020 7:48 am
Page wrote:I was hit as a kid and had some shit thrown at me from time to time and it caused me harm. It's been over a decade since I've become an adult and I have mostly gotten over the trauma but I still have some lasting damage - I believe that being hit, often suddenly and without warning, is responsible for my bad reaction to unexpected touching, like if a guy gives me a pat on the back I recoil and feel anxiety in my chest. I might be wrong, maybe it wasn't from being hit, maybe I was born that way, but I am absolutely certain that being hit did not benefit me in any way. Having a baseball thrown at my face at age 8 for the transgression of derisively comparing my mother to the overprotective and abrasive mother of one of my childhood buddies is just one of many incidents and I'm sure there are some I've forgotten. Sometimes anger was directed at inanimate objects instead of me like my parents breaking down a door because I locked myself in my room for a half hour. Good going, now you have to spend your own money to replace a door that I would have opened as soon as I got hungry or needed to take a piss. There are more traumatic incidents I won't discuss here. That said, I have forgiven my parents for all of it which I'm able to do because I no longer live with them, but even after making the conscious decision to forgive them I still harbor some residual resentment I can't completely shake off.
Now I bet some of you will say "that's fucked up but a smack on the butt is totally different." It's not. I was never bothered by physical pain, it goes away. It's not about the pain that's inflicted, the trauma comes from being the victim of aggression from people who are supposed to care for you, and more so the feeling of helplessness. When you're hit and incapable of defending yourself, you feel helpless and humiliated, and that is the biggest reason why hitting children is wrong.
I find it odd that it's called domestic abuse when one hits a grown adult who might have the capacity to defend themselves but not when one hits a child who can't. Abuse is violence + power.
I think a lot of people prefer to rationalize and excuse being hit because it's easier than confronting the fact that you've been victimized, especially if you love and respect your family - there's uncomfortable cognitive dissonance when someone you want to love has done things to hurt you. So you decide you deserved it to quell the conflict.
I don't expect to change anyone's mind, many of you have decided you're okay with it and you're firmly entrenched in that position. But I speak out anyway to give a voice to those of us who aren't okay with it. I was hit and it fucked me up, I'm not going to pretend otherwise.
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by Geneviev » Sun Jun 14, 2020 8:11 am
by Page » Sun Jun 14, 2020 8:16 am
Geneviev wrote:Corporal punishment should only be used as a last resort. If it's limited, then it's not child abuse.
by Geneviev » Sun Jun 14, 2020 8:18 am
by Page » Sun Jun 14, 2020 8:27 am
by Remnants of Exilvania » Sun Jun 14, 2020 8:31 am
by Page » Sun Jun 14, 2020 8:31 am
by Geneviev » Sun Jun 14, 2020 8:34 am
Page wrote:Geneviev wrote:Absolutely not. It's not your place to do that.
It's not my place to hit an adult who could hit me back or walk out on me if they wanted to but it's different when it's a defenseless child who can neither protect themselves nor leave? That seems like quite a perverse moral opinion.
by Page » Sun Jun 14, 2020 8:36 am
Geneviev wrote:Page wrote:
It's not my place to hit an adult who could hit me back or walk out on me if they wanted to but it's different when it's a defenseless child who can neither protect themselves nor leave? That seems like quite a perverse moral opinion.
Because it's a defenceless child, you should only do it when you have no other choice because it's your responsibility to teach them.
by The Alma Mater » Sun Jun 14, 2020 8:38 am
by Page » Sun Jun 14, 2020 8:46 am
by Page » Sun Jun 14, 2020 8:49 am
by Geneviev » Sun Jun 14, 2020 8:50 am
Page wrote:Geneviev wrote:If the child didn't change their behavior after anything else.
What kind of behavior deserves violence? I can entertain the notion that if I had a kid who started trying to stab me or set the house on fire that I would use force to subdue them, but it's quite rare for a kid to be homicidal.
I never tried to stab my parents. I was hit for petty and irrelevant bullshit like not wanting to wear the clothes my parents wanted me to, or using profanity, or "talking back."
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