As a genderfluid person I can see both sides of the problems here.
Patriarchal conservatism has ruined both men and women and frankly set them against each other in many ways. I am a very... What's the word. Romantic person? I see a lot of things in terms of relationships, platonic and otherwise, as someone who has been in a lot of relationships with both men and women, as male and female.
I have a darling boyfriend and up until recently we had a girlfriend and we were in a poly relationship for a bit... We had to break up due to an unrelated reason...
We all grew up in abusive households, we all had fraught love lives, we had many things in common, we shared a lot. They are both lovely people.
He is very insecure in his masculinity but in a positive way in that he wishes he could be less masculine... Sadly, he is a hairy beautiful ball of muscles and beards so
I try my hardest to make him feel secure in both ways, since I think he never had anybody to reassure that part of him. He had very few romantic relationships, his longest one ending in his female fiance cheating on him.
She was bubbly and she laughed at all my jokes, bad as they would be. She was very physically attractive but she was also my political lover, since my boyfriend is very apolitical. We marched together, we protested together, and when we got home I would ask her questions to prod her politics that went beyond just her race and her gender. She survived an abusive husband, and IMO she abused her next boyfriend... My friends suspected she might have fathered his child illegitimately, considering how vague she was about why she broke up with him.
Loving them side by side made me realize just how similar we all were and yet how different we all had to be to become so similar, and it made comparing them easy, but also impossible. I loved them equally... He could live without her
But they were very good friends. At the end of the day, respect and love are what allowed us to dominate our problems, ending only when respect wasn't the issue.
Perhaps it was a failure on my/our part when we just couldn't accept her... Uniqueness. Our friends disagreed, especially considering her other traits, but I do feel like I failed her in part.
But quite frankly I don't know how or if I could have made her more... Not equal but to feel like she belonged with us as an equal. Would that even have helped? She was most certainly our equal until... The weird stuff.
She was more needy and more demanding than him, which was fine, everybody needs attention, and he is very busy with his work so I welcomed her attention-seeking... But eventually it got to be too much.
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... In conclusion, feminism is extremely easy but also extremely complex. IMO it isn't just women's rights, it concerns all of us and the standard of how we treat ourselves fairly, but I am unsure about how we go about including men and whether women should be excluded from the opposite, and vice versa.
I think it's good that women pursue their own interests, as women, separate and independent, but at the end of the day, can there be such a thing as total independence between the sexes? Would we WANT to be totally independent and separable? IMO, the love between all human beings, men, women, whatever, is what makes us human, what makes us good.
IMO, I adore the company of men and women alike and very much prefer if we all participated in the same stuff together. For example... Video gaming is very male-centric... Too much so. Whenever I hear a female voice it's bizarre how refreshing it is in the ocean of timbre and baritone... And all too often, they disappear because the other men notice it too, and instead of just thanking God for some diversity, they immediately covet, comment, or revolt upon it, because they don't see that girl as a person, they see her as a girlfriend or a novelty or an intruder.
Not to say I probably don't have my own prejudices against both men and women, I most certainly do, but people should just treat each other with kindness.