Neanderthaland wrote:I don't know how it works for other people, but every relationship I've ever been in has started with me just talking to people, about things that aren't necessarily "would you like to be my girlfriend?" It was more like, "hey, what did you think of that movie?" or something. You know, normal conversation.
Like, we're not peacocks. You don't have to approach "the female" and do a courtship display where you show off your symmetrical features and lack of parasites, and express your desire to mate.
The point is that if someone does too much conversation before springing it on them, that they'll be too deep into what's informally called someone's "friend zone" even if it doesn't literally exist. If you're only considered a friend, and the desire to escalate is only one sided, of course he going to be rejected when had he done things differently, maybe he wouldn't have been rejected at some point in the past but his window of opportunity closed permanently.