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The NationStates Feminism Thread IV: Fight Like A Girl!

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Further Reading
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What is Feminism?
Feminist theory
Feminist philosophy
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History of Feminism
History of Feminism
"History of Feminism"
The Cynical Historian

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Types of Feminism
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Books
Books and texts that explore varying
perspective on both men and women's issues.
By no means a complete list, but a good place
to start.

"The Big Book of Feminism: Big Ideas Simply Explained"
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"A Vindication of the Rights of Woman" Mary Wollstonecraft
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"The Second Sex" Simone de Beauvoir
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"The Feminine Mystique" Betty Friedan
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"Sexual Politics" Kate Millett
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"Are Women Human? Astute and Witty Essays on the Role of
Women in Society" Dorothy L. Sayers
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"The Purity Myth: How America's Obsession with Virginity is Hurting Young
Women" Jessica Valenti
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"The Myth of Male Power" Warren Farrell
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"Sex, Power, and Partisanship: How Evolutionary Science Makes
Sense of Our Political Divide" Dr. Hector A. Garcia
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"The Myth of Mars and Venus: Do Men and Women Really Speak Different
Languages?" Deborah Cameron
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"Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls" Dr. Mary Phipher
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"Sacred Cows: Is Feminism Relevant To The New Millennium?" Rosalind Coward
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"The Myth of Matriarchal Prehistory" Cynthia Eller
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"Gentlemen and Amazons" Cynthia Eller (sequel to above)
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"Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger" Soraya Chemaly
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"Women v. Religion: The Case Against Faith—and for Freedom" Karen Garst
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"Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead" Sheryl Sandberg
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"Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office" Lois P. Frankel
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"Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and
Controlling Men" Lundy Bancroft
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"Abused Men: The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence" Philip W. Cook
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"Woman-to-Woman Sexual Violence: Does She Call It Rape?" Lori B. Girshick
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"The Vagina Bible: The Vulva and the Vagina—Separating
the Myth from the Medicine" Dr. Jennifer Gunter

Old threads:
The NationStates Feminist Thread
The NationStates Feminist Thread II
The NationStates Feminist Thread III
The NS Mens Rights Thread


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Hi there, everybody!

Welcome to the fourth iteration of the NationStates feminism megathread.


Here is where you will find all manner of topics relating to feminism and the issues it concerns itself with.

Discussion of men's rights is also welcome. There used to be a thread specifically for men's rights, but it was rarely used as most relevant talks took place in the feminism thread. So please, feel free to bring those conversations here too — apologies if this is not ideal for some.

This thread is always a work in progress to provide the best resources for those interested in gender rights of all sorts. Please, feel free to suggest books, websites, articles, and documentaries that you feel give insight to be linked and organized in the OP.


What is Feminism?

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Defining feminism has always been a tricky topic. While the concept of women's rights has been around since the beginning of human history (if not always reaching the heights we'd prefer today), the term "feminism" itself is relatively new, and there is some debate as to where women's rights in general and feminism proper meet.

From Wikipedia:

    "Charles Fourier, a utopian socialist and French philosopher, is credited with having coined the word "féminisme" in 1837. The words "féminisme" ("feminism") and "féministe" ("feminist") first appeared in France and the Netherlands in 1872, Great Britain in the 1890s, and the United States in 1910. The Oxford English Dictionary lists 1852 as the year of the first appearance of "feminist" and 1895 for "feminism". Depending on the historical moment, culture and country, feminists around the world have had different causes and goals. Most western feminist historians contend that all movements working to obtain women's rights should be considered feminist movements, even when they did not (or do not) apply the term to themselves. Other historians assert that the term should be limited to the modern feminist movement and its descendants. Those historians use the label "protofeminist" to describe earlier movements."
Many people are fond of the tongue-in-cheek definition that feminism is "the radical notion that women are people," but more seriously, feminism is traditionally defined as the advocacy of women's rights on the grounds of political, social, and economic equality to men. While this might seem straight forward at first, debate flares among the feminist community about exactly what it means to be "equal," how that is achieved, where gender-based oppression comes from, and who should be responsible for what in the cause. Such debate topics can include:

  • Does equality mean that men and women will usually wind up doing the same things, or does it mean that they will do different things but that those things will be equally valued?
  • What sorts of roles, activities, and expectations empower women, and which hold them back?
  • Can certain enterprises like religion, atheism, capitalism, socialism, technology, ecology, conservatism, liberalism, etc. aid in women's rights, or are they part of the problem?
  • How much should feminism combine with other forms of advocacy, such as the LGBT+ movement or racial equality?
  • Are men oppressed alongside women, or are men the oppressors of women?
  • Should feminism encompass men's issues too, or should it focus on women while men have their own branch of gender equality advocacy? Do men even need advocacy at all?
Many people throughout the history of feminism and women's rights circles have had different answers to these questions. Often the first thing that a young feminist will be surprised by when getting into discourse is how her/his/their own answers are not considered as "obvious" as they initially believed. History, sociology, psychology, economics, and philosophy all provide avenues to addressing them, and this thread serves as a center to do so.

Feminism has many subsets, a few of which are listed in the sidebar under "Types of Feminism."

Who is a feminist?

Whoever says they are.

There's a lot of grandstanding in the conversation about feminism, a lot of declarations about who is and is not "really" a feminist based largely on self-proclaimed authority. You're not a real feminist if you think this, you're not a real feminist if you don't think that, men can't be feminists just feminist allies, feminist is a title that has to be earned, etc., etc., etc.

While that debate is welcome here (within reason), the fact is that there is no Queen of Feminism or Feminist Police or Official Feminist Bible who has the power to decide those things once and for all. Despite what (self-admittedly) many feminists like to imagine, feminism has been diverse and complicated from the start, there was never this mythic time where those involved in it were all in agreement about what it meant to be a feminist and who qualified as such. Even the suffragettes had strong disagreements with each other about women's role in society and the best angle for achieving suffrage — Susan B. Anthony and Elizabeth Cady Stanton famously conflicted with Victoria Woodhull. Feminism is just a branch of philosophy like any other, it is free to be interpreted and transformed to evolving values, needs, factors, and agendas. As ever, No True Scotsman (Scotswoman?) looms in judgment of those who think that they hold the invisible guidebook for determining True Feministhood™.

Quotes to set the tone...
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    I have encountered riotous mobs and have been hung in effigy, but my motto is: Men's rights are nothing more. Women's rights are nothing less.
— Susan B. Anthony

    I do not wish them [women] to have power over men; but over themselves.
— Mary Wollstonecraft

    Misogyny or misandry is not a status or a belief; it is just a sickness.
― M.F. Moonzajer

    In reaction against the age-old slogan, "woman is the weaker vessel," or the still more offensive, "woman is a divine creature," we have, I think, allowed ourselves to drift into asserting that "a woman is as good as a man," without always pausing to think what exactly we mean by that. What, I feel, we ought to mean is something so obvious that it is apt to escape attention altogether, (...) that a woman is just as much an ordinary human being as a man, with the same individual preferences, and with just as much right to the tastes and preferences of an individual. What is repugnant to every human being is to be reckoned always as a member of a class and not as an individual person.
— Dorothy L. Sayers

    All this pitting of sex against sex, of quality against quality; all this claiming of superiority and imputing of inferiority, belong to the private-school stage of human existence where there are 'sides,' and it is necessary for one side to beat another side, and of the utmost importance to walk up to a platform and receive from the hands of the Headmaster himself a highly ornamental pot.
— Virginia Woolf

    Anything may happen when womanhood has ceased to be a protected occupation.
— Virginia Woolf

    If particular care and attention is not paid to the ladies, we are determined to foment a rebellion, and will not hold ourselves bound by any laws in which we have no voice or representation.
— Abigail Adams

    The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.
— Martin Luther King Jr

    I am a men's liberationist (or "masculist") when men's liberation is defined as equal opportunity and equal responsibility for both sexes. I am a feminist when feminism favors equal opportunities and responsibilities for both sexes. I oppose both movements when either says our sex is THE oppressed sex, therefore, "we deserve rights." That's not gender liberation but gender entitlement. Ultimately, I am in favor of neither a women's movement nor a men's movement but a gender transition movement.
— Warren Farrell

    I shall not change my course because those who assume to be better than I desire it.
— Victoria Woodhull

    Men are from Earth, women are from Earth. Deal with it.
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Women's Resources


International Women's Day is March 8th! Save the date!

Women's Rights Agencies, Groups and Organizations

Women's Health, Victim Assistance, Support

Blogs

Journals and Books

Men's Resources


International Men's Day is November 19th! Save the date!

Important note: "A Voice For Men" is an illegal link on NationStates due to their involvement in doxxing. Do not link anything from them on this thread or anywhere else.

Men's Rights Organizations, Agencies, Misc

Support and discussion (pro-man without being anti-woman):

Men's Health, Victim Assistance, Suicide Prevention

Parenting Support

Because men's rights isn't as popular as women's rights, unfortunately, many people aren't sure where to begin when researching the topic. The original Men's Rights thread provided these links:




If you're new here, before you post...
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Since this seems to be one of the first places that people new to the site like to visit (likely because of how common strong opinions about feminism are across the rest of the internet), I feel the need to go into a bit more detail about what is expected here that veteran players shouldn't need to be told. If you are new, please make sure that you have read The One Stop Rules Shop before posting on the forums.

"A feminism thread? My time to shine! Feminism is cancer! Come at me, SJWs!"

No.

If I had a nickel for every person who walked into this thread expecting to be the first person here to stand in opposition to a den of rabid "SJW" stereotypes, I'd have a fortune to rival that of the nickels obtained from people complaining about the swastika flag restrictions. It's neither clever nor unique. You are not the first person here to be critical of feminism, you will not be the last, you will almost certainly not be the most memorable.

Also, keep in mind that calling anyone "cancer" or other such colorful memetics (ex, "get back in the kitchen lol!" trolling) will get you disciplined by the Moderators (free speech doesn't exist on this website — yes, we know it's tyrannical, no, we don't care) — this isn't Reddit or the YouTube comment section. Go back to there if you want virtual high-fives for unimaginative "pwning." While on NationStates, you abide by our rules.

And try actually listening to people you disagree with, for once. You might learn something.

"Why are non-feminists allowed here? This is supposed to be a thread for promoting feminism!"

This is a thread for topics about feminism, not solely for feminists. Said topics will include those that are critical of feminism. Obviously feminists are more than welcome here, but this is not an exclusive circle for them. This is a debate thread, not a sanctuary. Keep in mind that not everyone who brands themselves as "anti-feminist" intends that label to mean an opposition to gender equality itself, but rather what they see as the poor handling of gender equality by the individuals who label themselves as the feminist movement. You are free to disagree with that position, but understand that it is a position that people take, and try to keep it in mind in order to debate in good faith.

Similarly to the above warning, just like this is not Reddit or the YouTube comments section, this is not Tumblr, BuzzFeed, or Jezebel either. On this website we are interested in debate and conversation, not in "gotcha!" zingers designed to snappily put critics of feminism in their place while the rest of us go, "You tell 'em, girl!" You're not going to be the next big "best, response, EVER!!" screenshot that gets shared around social justice media, and the whole super sassy, "proud bitch," yawning-and-waving-hand-dismissively-at-the-manbabies routine was already old by thread one — not even the other feminists are impressed by it, and absolutely no one is flustered by it.

You are also not held to any different standard than your opponents. "But I was saying it to a misogynist/alt-right/Nazi/bad guy! Saying bad things to them is a good thing! Come on, this is [current year] for crying out loud!" is not an acceptable excuse for breaking the rules. "Ironic" misandry such as "kill all men" is definitely not welcome. Several a social justice-oriented newbie has been banned in the past for mistakenly thinking that that sort of logic would hold here. There is no "punching up" exception on NationStates — keep your figurative hands to yourself, period.

And try actually listening to people you disagree with, for once. You might learn something.


Thanks to Swith Witherward for running the last three threads, and doing most of the work of compiling these links. Also thanks to Hirota for the original Men's Rights thread and its links, as well as anyone else who as contributed to the gathering and organization of this OP.
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Wow that OP is info overload.
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Postby Giovenith » Fri Jun 12, 2020 12:37 pm

Thank you, everyone. And if you have any suggestions for the OP, feel free.

I was thinking of using the reserved spot to highlight a changing array of specific topics. Will all that's going on, perhaps something relating to feminism for women of color?
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Yet again, unrelated from the current topic, but thanks for adding ecofeminism.
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Postby Giovenith » Fri Jun 12, 2020 12:42 pm

Anatoliyanskiy wrote:Yet again, unrelated from the current topic, but thanks for adding ecofeminism.


No problem. Any ecofeminist material you'd want to see up there?
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If NS had OP award contests, I would definitely nominate this one.
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Wow there's a lot of good info there and includes good resources for both women and men's issues.
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Postby Sundiata » Fri Jun 12, 2020 1:27 pm

But yes, this series of threads reminds me of the responsibility that men have to women in the forms of fatherhood, brotherhood, friendship, courtship, and spousal duties.
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Can I ask what y'all think of the Men's Lib movement? I'm in it, and it generally, at leas on the reddit platform, seems to be pretty pro-feminist
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Centai Mal wrote:Can I ask what y'all think of the https://www.reddit.com/r/MensLib/ movement? I'm in it, and it generally, at leas on the reddit platform, seems to be pretty pro-feminist

It's not a good thing for men to get so careless with respect to their duties as men. These men would be better served joining the Knights of Columbus.

I'm also glad to see that you're a fellow Catholic.
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Sundiata wrote:
Centai Mal wrote:Can I ask what y'all think of the https://www.reddit.com/r/MensLib/ movement? I'm in it, and it generally, at least on the reddit platform, seems to be pretty pro-feminist

It's not a good thing for men to get so careless with respect to their duties as men. These men would be better served joining the Knights of Columbus.

I'm also glad to see that you're a fellow Catholic.

Did you bother to read the page? At all? It talks about advancing equality between men and woman, not about "getting careless with respect to their duties as men"
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Centai Mal wrote:Can I ask what y'all think of the Men's Lib movement? I'm in it, and it generally, at leas on the reddit platform, seems to be pretty pro-feminist


I haven't seen that one before, though it's nice to see a Reddit men's group that isn't just bashing women for not sleeping with them. The Reddit misogynists and the Tumblr misandrists are just two sides of the same coin to me: Individuals who probably started out as having legitimate anger and grievances, but got twisted and radicalized by hyperbolic echo chambers. I think, though, there's been a notable shift in the zeitgeist towards more productive conversation and less pointless, angry complaining.
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Sundiata wrote:
Centai Mal wrote:Can I ask what y'all think of the https://www.reddit.com/r/MensLib/ movement? I'm in it, and it generally, at leas on the reddit platform, seems to be pretty pro-feminist

It's not a good thing for men to get so careless with respect to their duties as men. These men would be better served joining the Knights of Columbus.

I'm also glad to see that you're a fellow Catholic.

I don’t like this line of reasoning. What duties does a man have, anyway? The way I see it, society expects so much from men and keeps telling them that it’s for their own sake, but it isn’t. All it is is society keeping men from reaching their true potential. Forcing them to be what society wants them to be, with no regard for his aspirations or goals. A man has a duty to be a decent human being, just like anybody else, but he has no duty to be what everyone thinks he has to be. This sort of thing is what leads to hateful rhetoric. Men and women are unique individuals, and forcing them to be somebody they don’t want to be only breeds mistrust and harmful prejudices against them.
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Postby Frostnia » Fri Jun 12, 2020 2:14 pm

Giovenith wrote:
Centai Mal wrote:Can I ask what y'all think of the Men's Lib movement? I'm in it, and it generally, at leas on the reddit platform, seems to be pretty pro-feminist


I haven't seen that one before, though it's nice to see a Reddit men's group that isn't just bashing women for not sleeping with them. The Reddit misogynists and the Tumblr misandrists are just two sides of the same coin to me: Individuals who probably started out as having legitimate anger and grievances, but got twisted and radicalized by hyperbolic echo chambers. I think, though, there's been a notable shift in the zeitgeist towards more productive conversation and less pointless, angry complaining.


If you want more communities like that, may I suggest taking the bropill?
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Postby Centai Mal » Fri Jun 12, 2020 2:17 pm

Giovenith wrote:
Centai Mal wrote:Can I ask what y'all think of the Men's Lib movement? I'm in it, and it generally, at leas on the reddit platform, seems to be pretty pro-feminist


I haven't seen that one before, though it's nice to see a Reddit men's group that isn't just bashing women for not sleeping with them. The Reddit misogynists and the Tumblr misandrists are just two sides of the same coin to me: Individuals who probably started out as having legitimate anger and grievances, but got twisted and radicalized by hyperbolic echo chambers. I think, though, there's been a notable shift in the zeitgeist towards more productive conversation and less pointless, angry complaining.

That’s why I like the group. There’s a real focus on healthy discussions of the ways the men are disadvantaged (particularly in mental health and child care/custody) without everything turning into “but women are evil”
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Postby Giovenith » Fri Jun 12, 2020 2:18 pm

Frostnia wrote:
Giovenith wrote:
I haven't seen that one before, though it's nice to see a Reddit men's group that isn't just bashing women for not sleeping with them. The Reddit misogynists and the Tumblr misandrists are just two sides of the same coin to me: Individuals who probably started out as having legitimate anger and grievances, but got twisted and radicalized by hyperbolic echo chambers. I think, though, there's been a notable shift in the zeitgeist towards more productive conversation and less pointless, angry complaining.


If you want more communities like that, may I suggest taking the bropill?


Very cool! I think I'll throw them both up in the OP somewhere. Probably I'm not the only person in search of that stuff.
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Postby Frostnia » Fri Jun 12, 2020 2:21 pm

Giovenith wrote:
Frostnia wrote:
If you want more communities like that, may I suggest taking the bropill?


Very cool! I think I'll throw them both up in the OP somewhere. Probably I'm not the only person in search of that stuff.


What I particularly like about them is that they're not anti-masculinity; they want to make the concept better, and to try and combat toxic ideas that may have settled in men's heads, not tear down the entire concept as evil. They're proud of being men and "bros", but don't let that get in the way of healthy relationships and emotions.
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Antarctica is a pretty "cool" place.
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Postby Giovenith » Fri Jun 12, 2020 2:30 pm

Frostnia wrote:
Giovenith wrote:
Very cool! I think I'll throw them both up in the OP somewhere. Probably I'm not the only person in search of that stuff.


What I particularly like about them is that they're not anti-masculinity; they want to make the concept better, and to try and combat toxic ideas that may have settled in men's heads, not tear down the entire concept as evil. They're proud of being men and "bros", but don't let that get in the way of healthy relationships and emotions.


I appreciate that too. There's nothing wrong with being a traditional manly man bro type if that's what you're into, the point should be that there's nothing about that kind of personality that requires disrespect towards women or other types of men. Just be ourselves all together, you know?
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Postby Centai Mal » Fri Jun 12, 2020 2:31 pm

Frostnia wrote:
Giovenith wrote:
Very cool! I think I'll throw them both up in the OP somewhere. Probably I'm not the only person in search of that stuff.


What I particularly like about them is that they're not anti-masculinity; they want to make the concept better, and to try and combat toxic ideas that may have settled in men's heads, not tear down the entire concept as evil. They're proud of being men and "bros", but don't let that get in the way of healthy relationships and emotions.

I’m gonna look into that, then. I’m pretty proud of being masculine (even if I have my more feminine traits) and I like the focus on healthy masculinity
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Postby Forsher » Fri Jun 12, 2020 2:41 pm

Ah, the black hole of interesting topics better suited for individual discussion returns.

Thus far the thread consists almost entirely of people praising a post full of external links and suggestions to go offsite. Which while compromising the blackhole metaphor rather says it all.

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Start one.

I mean, I remember the 2012, 2013, 2014, 2015, 2016 and 2018 ones... I even ran 2015-16 myself.

I can't remember if someone asked to do 2017 or if I just couldn't be arsed doing it. Hell, I might have suggested someone else do it like this.

Someone asked to do 2019's but as far as I can tell never got round to it. Never to late to start it up again. I won't be doing it since as I told the 2018 OP:

I am, however, too jaded these days, too convinced that NSG has lost all sense of community and if it hasn't I post too infrequently to notice that community... without a community of Generalites, the poster awards just aren't the same.


I blame megathreads.

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I'm also glad to see that you're a fellow Catholic.

I don’t like this line of reasoning. What duties does a man have, anyway? The way I see it, society expects so much from men and keeps telling them that it’s for their own sake, but it isn’t. All it is is society keeping men from reaching their true potential. Forcing them to be what society wants them to be, with no regard for his aspirations or goals. A man has a duty to be a decent human being, just like anybody else, but he has no duty to be what everyone thinks he has to be. This sort of thing is what leads to hateful rhetoric. Men and women are unique individuals, and forcing them to be somebody they don’t want to be only breeds mistrust and harmful prejudices against them.


Damn, is this seriously the most interesting on topic post in here so far? Ugh.

The individual is socially constructed and the notion that they have aspirations or goals outside of that context is extreme arrogance. Any perceived sense of duty or being will shape entirely and wholly those aspirations and goals, in the same way that a penalty taken 7-0 up is not the same as penalty taken in stoppage time at 0-0.

What I find interesting is that there is definitely a masculine ideal that is rigidly opposed to social pressure. I'm sure there's a quote to the effect of "if they push one way, push back" but that doesn't appear to be it (or the quote is way more obscure than I think it is). This is presumably related to a sort Atlas-style burden to bear the weight of the world on one's shoulders, but whether it evolved out of a perceived duty to put food on the table and provide the bills, who knows? Similarly, how to judge the outcome of this ideal? Does it encourage embracing the heteronormie life? Deciding that whatever the world wants and throws at the being, picking up that burden and carrying it anyway is the way to go? Or would it entail a total rejection? Both are entirely logical outcomes...
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Postby Giovenith » Fri Jun 12, 2020 2:49 pm

Forsher wrote:Ah, the black hole of interesting topics better suited for individual discussion returns.

Thus far the thread consists almost entirely of people praising a post full of external links and suggestions to go offsite. Which while compromising the blackhole metaphor rather says it all.
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Damn, is this seriously the most interesting on topic post in here so far? Ugh.


I'm so sorry the thread is only four hours old, I'll try harder to time travel next time.

Centai Mal wrote:
Frostnia wrote:
What I particularly like about them is that they're not anti-masculinity; they want to make the concept better, and to try and combat toxic ideas that may have settled in men's heads, not tear down the entire concept as evil. They're proud of being men and "bros", but don't let that get in the way of healthy relationships and emotions.

I’m gonna look into that, then. I’m pretty proud of being masculine (even if I have my more feminine traits) and I like the focus on healthy masculinity


What would you say your trait make-up looks like? What do you like to do?
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