How lonely are you in your country?

[Rojava Free State]

Well you must speak better English than I do then. My English skills when writing are far better than when I speak. When I write I come across like Charles Dickens. When I talk I sound like Caribbean trump. That's why I am very reluctant to go south. That and their conservative views which differ from mine so much that if we drew a venn diagram of their views and mine, the circles would be on separate planets

That's strange that you are better at writing. After 4 years of learning German I can speak very fluently but I suck at writing it.

It's like how I can understand French if someone speaks it but I can't speak French for shit. so my mom will try and go trilingual on me to say something about me to my dad, who also knows french, and I'll be like "WHAT DID YOU SAAAAAAY?!"

[Red Roja]

Aside from my coworkers, the only person I have regular interaction with is my girlfriend. Aside from her, I have only a couple friends that I see every month or so. It doesn't help that my job keeps me busy and that my friends are also pretty busy. I was pretty lonely until I met my girlfriend 4 years ago and I haven't really felt alone since then thanks to her. We have been talking about marriage lately.

That takes me back to when me and my now ex girlfriend got engaged

You know I was so happy then. Life was hard but it felt like it was the struggle, like I was fighting the good fight for survival. Now I just feel like a caged bird. Things seem so much darker now, and our relationship ended in June when she left me, saying she was "tired."

I've since given up hope that I'll ever find a lasting relationship with anyone. As far as I can see it now,maybe I'll have a couple kids someday with one or may be two women, maybe I'll even find temporary success, but then one day the rug will be pulled out from under me, and my life will either physically end there or everyone will walk out on me and I'll eventually die alone. I really don't think things are gonna get much better than they are now.

In five years I may look successful, but I don't know if I'll feel that way.

Try to stay positive man. Cherish the friends you have and try your best to maintain said friendships. I know it can be difficult, but humans are social creatures that need companionship.

[Geneviev]

I can be lonely in America sometimes, seeing as English isn't my native language and it's a foreign culture. But I've been here long enough to get over the culture shock and then find friends, so it's not too bad anymore.

In Germany, on the other hand, a lot of my old friends hardly remember me and so it can be lonely when I visit. It's like being in a foreign country in my own home.

I feel the same way when I go back to Florida for a few weeks every year. Sometimes I get sad over stupid things like my old neighborhood gentrifying, like "are you kidding me, they finally put a new strip mall in the abandoned lot? That was my secret smoking spot as a teenager!" Every time I go back it feels less familiar, I lived there for my first 25 years and have been abroad for less than four.

And usually the first two days back in America I will order food in German and then I'll have a bewildered cashier staring at me and it takes me a few seconds to realize "oh, right, I'm in America."

Even with all of the time that I've been here, I still start sentences in German sometimes before correcting myself. But the worst thing is people from other parts of Germany or other German speaking countries correcting me when I say things like "Das ist mir."

It's weird looking at news from Germany, too. I don't know if that happens to you with America, but some names are unfamiliar or I don't know the context of something and that just feels strange. It should make more sense, being my home.

[Rojava Free State]

That takes me back to when me and my now ex girlfriend got engaged

You know I was so happy then. Life was hard but it felt like it was the struggle, like I was fighting the good fight for survival. Now I just feel like a caged bird. Things seem so much darker now, and our relationship ended in June when she left me, saying she was "tired."

I've since given up hope that I'll ever find a lasting relationship with anyone. As far as I can see it now,maybe I'll have a couple kids someday with one or may be two women, maybe I'll even find temporary success, but then one day the rug will be pulled out from under me, and my life will either physically end there or everyone will walk out on me and I'll eventually die alone. I really don't think things are gonna get much better than they are now.

In five years I may look successful, but I don't know if I'll feel that way.

Try to stay positive man. Cherish the friends you have and try your best to maintain said friendships. I know it can be difficult, but humans are social creatures that need companionship.

There's no way I could be a true loner. One problem is I'm super talkative and it sucks when other people aren't interested in whatever I'm talking about, so it would suck if I had no one to talk to

I cracked a joke this morning about one of our co-workers having a work ethnic so low, it was down in hell playing strip poker with Mao, Stalin and Hitler, and while it made the guy walking past me die laughing, it didn't elicit any sort of response from the girl I was telling it too. I'm gonna keep it real with you all, I don't think she likes me and I think she only acts as civil as she does because the only alternative is to make a scene, so her not bitching me out doesn't mean anything

[Red Roja]

Try to stay positive man. Cherish the friends you have and try your best to maintain said friendships. I know it can be difficult, but humans are social creatures that need companionship.

There's no way I could be a true loner. One problem is I'm super talkative and it sucks when other people aren't interested in whatever I'm talking about, so it would suck if I had no one to talk to

I cracked a joke this morning about one of our co-workers having a work ethnic so low, it was down in hell playing strip poker with Mao, Stalin and Hitler, and while it made the guy walking past me die laughing, it didn't elicit any sort of response from the girl I was telling it too. I'm gonna keep it real with you all, I don't think she likes me and I think she only acts as civil as she does because the only alternative is to make a scene, so her not bitching me out doesn't mean anything

Yep, I have been down that road before

[Rojava Free State]

There's no way I could be a true loner. One problem is I'm super talkative and it sucks when other people aren't interested in whatever I'm talking about, so it would suck if I had no one to talk to

I cracked a joke this morning about one of our co-workers having a work ethnic so low, it was down in hell playing strip poker with Mao, Stalin and Hitler, and while it made the guy walking past me die laughing, it didn't elicit any sort of response from the girl I was telling it too. I'm gonna keep it real with you all, I don't think she likes me and I think she only acts as civil as she does because the only alternative is to make a scene, so her not bitching me out doesn't mean anything

Yep, I have been down that road before

Feels bad man

[Major-Tom]

I go through bouts of loneliness, but it's often circumstantial. I fluctuate a lot in terms of overall mood, some days manic, other days completely down in the gutter, and during those extremes I can feel quite lonely, regardless of who I'm dating, my friend group, etc etc. Ultimately, I've tried to make peace with the fact that I'm doing pretty well overall, and that loneliness is a feeling we all experience sometimes. I've got my health, friends, and a solid social life, so I shouldn't dwell too much on things.

[Valkalan]

Feels bad man

Don't worry about it. She either doesn't like you, or doesn't appreciate your sense of humor, which I'd take as a sign that she's not that compatible with you anyway. There are millions, upon millions, upon millions of ladies out there, and there's no use in getting worked up over one.

[Luziyca]

Not all that lonely here in Canada. But when the internet goes down, dear God do I get lonely.

[Earthbound Immortal Squad]

Is there anyone else here who wants to be really open with their friends about their emotions, but doesn't know if they want to be because they're worried everyone would just think they were weird or were a pussy or something?

Shout if you have doubt

I can see your point. But I got to an understanding where if your friends won't listen to you, then they are not your friends simple as.

[Drain City]

I live in the US, more specifically Texas, DFW area.

I'm still in school, and I'm blessed to have great friends, an awesome girlfriend, and a family, all who love me very much and support me.

Regardless, because of the hostile nature of a very dense suburb between two vast, sprawling cities, its hard to not feel isolated and lonely. People aren't easy to approach, many people are armed, everyone is politically divisive to a certain extent. It's hard to feel connected with my community.

I don't know how this differs from other states, and I still feel incredibly lucky to be alive and have the people I have, but I think my environment is the biggest challenge to feeling less lonely. How about you guys? Do you feel your loneliness is contingent on your environment?

[Ayytaly]

Teach the newer generation to be friendlier to the school outcasts.

Otherwise...

[DACOROMANIA]

How lonely?
If talking of real life, then I'm the one of the most lonely on Earth, no wife, no friends and no family. I think that I'm the most lonely man on this planet.
My neighbors are "evil", my relatives are "evil" and the rest of people do not really care of other people than theirs.
Political plots everywhere, schools and hospitals still bad and the most of human society... is based on money rather than feelings. It's all about money as it was before and till now.
Many years ago orphanages were targeted for schools of thieves and prostitution by local mafias. In recent years these were changed a bit but many attempts still existing.
Have money, can live. Don't have money... it's life ending. Live or die. It's all about survival... and money.

[Cekoviu]

Very, but more due to me putting effort into my career in lieu of having friendships or romances than my geographic location.

[Nanatsu no Tsuki]

How lonely?
If talking of real life, then I'm the one of the most lonely on Earth, no wife, no friends and no family. I think that I'm the most lonely man on this planet.
My neighbors are "evil", my relatives are "evil" and the rest of people do not really care of other people than theirs.
Political plots everywhere, schools and hospitals still bad and the most of human society... is based on money rather than feelings. It's all about money as it was before and till now.
Many years ago orphanages were targeted for schools of thieves and prostitution by local mafias. In recent years these were changed a bit but many attempts still existing.
Have money, can live. Don't have money... it's life ending. Live or die. It's all about survival... and money.

No meanness intended, isn’t there ways for you to go out and meet people who can potentially become friends, or a wife? Or do you also suffer from a crippling anxiety condition or any condition that makes socializing hard?

[United Muscovite Nations]

Very, but more due to me putting effort into my career in lieu of having friendships or romances than my geographic location.

Don't do that, you'll regret it when you're socially stunted.

[Cekoviu]

Very, but more due to me putting effort into my career in lieu of having friendships or romances than my geographic location.

Don't do that, you'll regret it when you're socially stunted.

I'm socially capable and I have friends, I just don't really hang out with them much. I'm not going to be stunted just because I'm trying to focus on a career (one of two major goals I wish to accomplish during my lifetime, the other being to land a beau).

[Krasny-Volny]

Join civic associations and clubs related to your hobbies and/or interests. Go to dances and other social events, great way to meet people outside your work circle. Find like-minded colleagues at work who share one or more of your interests and connect with them. Invite a ton of the people you work with out for drinks! Then go out as a group, make it a group event.

Most of all, you need to be on a team. I recommend team sports. Lots of adult men and women’s leagues for stuff like bowling, lacrosse, etc and some of them don’t care if you suck, it’s all about having a good time. Physical contact sports is especially good at building self-confidence and comraderie. Ladies, I recommend roller derby.

No reason for being lonely if you really don’t want to be.

[United Muscovite Nations]

Don't do that, you'll regret it when you're socially stunted.

I'm socially capable and I have friends, I just don't really hang out with them much. I'm not going to be stunted just because I'm trying to focus on a career (one of two major goals I wish to accomplish during my lifetime, the other being to land a beau).

I would suggest focusing on both at once. I'm much happier after making progress towards romance than progress towards a career.

[Cekoviu]

I'm socially capable and I have friends, I just don't really hang out with them much. I'm not going to be stunted just because I'm trying to focus on a career (one of two major goals I wish to accomplish during my lifetime, the other being to land a beau).

I would suggest focusing on both at once. I'm much happier after making progress towards romance than progress towards a career.

Romance is not a viable option at this time for a number of reasons, the largest being that I am about a 5 on my best days. Or maybe I'm rationalizing. Ffs.

[United Muscovite Nations]

I would suggest focusing on both at once. I'm much happier after making progress towards romance than progress towards a career.

Romance is not a viable option at this time for a number of reasons, the largest being that I am about a 5 on my best days. Or maybe I'm rationalizing. Ffs.

Tbqh there are plenty of men that would be happy with a 5.

[Nouveau Yathrib]

From time to time? Yes. But I don't associate it with being in a certain country or not feeling included in the community where I live. It's just a part of life.

If you'd asked me this question when I was in high school, I probably would've answered differently.

Teach the newer generation to be friendlier to the school outcasts.

Otherwise...

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[Rojava Free State]

Just found out my crush doesn't do much in her free time and doesn't have a boyfriend

yes

[Cekoviu]

Romance is not a viable option at this time for a number of reasons, the largest being that I am about a 5 on my best days. Or maybe I'm rationalizing. Ffs.

Tbqh there are plenty of men that would be happy with a 5.

I said that's my best. I'm a 3.5 usually. Also, like 99% of my peers are objectively hotter than me, I'm transgender, I'm not Mormon and am uncomfortable with dating Mormons (in Utah, remember), and I do not have really any disposable income. The only thing that I have going for me is that I'm fairly interesting and appreciate good humor.
I have tried flirting, but I have absolutely no idea if the guys with whom I've tried are interested or even picked up on it. And I'm way too nonconfrontational to actually flat-out ask someone on a date.

[Rojava Free State]

Tbqh there are plenty of men that would be happy with a 5.

I said that's my best. I'm a 3.5 usually. Also, like 99% of my peers are objectively hotter than me, I'm transgender, I'm not Mormon and am uncomfortable with dating Mormons (in Utah, remember), and I do not have really any disposable income. The only thing that I have going for me is that I'm fairly interesting and appreciate good humor.
I have tried flirting, but I have absolutely no idea if the guys with whom I've tried are interested or even picked up on it. And I'm way too nonconfrontational to actually flat-out ask someone on a date.

Being good looking isn't all its cracked up to be. I'd rate myself a good 7 or 8 on the attraction scale and while I love how I look, I can't stand a lot of other things about myself,like my forgetfulness, my easily irritable temper, my absent minded actions and my horrible anxiety