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by Trollzyn the Infinite » Mon Dec 30, 2019 6:29 pm
by Albrenia » Mon Dec 30, 2019 6:30 pm
Jack Thomas Lang wrote:What's with ignorant and insufferable progs wanting to ban anything "traditional", even when it's normal and often beneficial?
Anyway, no, we shouldn't criminalize arranged marriages.
by Gravlen » Mon Dec 30, 2019 6:31 pm
by United Muscovite Nations » Mon Dec 30, 2019 6:31 pm
Purgatio wrote:United Muscovite Nations wrote:Again, the vast majority of arranged marriages are requested by the people getting married.
Its the sheerest formalism to assume that if a child 'asks' his or her parents to find a spouse that that automatically means there is consent, with nothing further, but this myopic argument just vindicates my view that people are unwilling to see coercion and duress unless its a blindingly obvious case of a father threatening to murder his daughter unless she marries X or Y. I mean, as long as a child 'asks' then everything's fair game, right? Let's not ask any further the degree of emotional undue influence wielded by a person in a position of authority, or the centuries of cultural expectations and familial obligations ingrained into that child's brain after years and years of his or her parents having ascendance and dominance over his or her young formative childhood years, let's ignore all of that, as long as the child, now an adult, formally 'asks' his or her parents to do something that is culturally expected of him and them, that's all we need to know to be satisfied there is consent. Nothing further.
You sound exactly like the people I argued with in the UK when pushing for reforms to domestic violence laws, the kind of people who think nothing less than a physical beating can vitiate consent. "Asking" is enough to prove consent. Sure. Okay.
by United Muscovite Nations » Mon Dec 30, 2019 6:33 pm
Trollzyn the Infinite wrote:The real question is why shouldn't we? For which there is no acceptable answer.
by Jack Thomas Lang » Mon Dec 30, 2019 6:34 pm
Albrenia wrote:How do you feel about arranged marriage against the wishes of one or more of those being married, or to those underage?
by TURTLESHROOM II » Mon Dec 30, 2019 6:35 pm
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by TURTLESHROOM II » Mon Dec 30, 2019 6:40 pm
Gravlen wrote:In addition, child marriages (below the age of 18, although I can accept marriage between people above the age of consent) should be banned as well.
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by Novus America » Mon Dec 30, 2019 6:42 pm
United Muscovite Nations wrote:Trollzyn the Infinite wrote:The real question is why shouldn't we? For which there is no acceptable answer.
Because most arranged marriages are requested by the person it's being arranged for, often because they feel they don't have any other opportunity to find a partner, and that the taboo on parental involvement in partner selection within the Western world has led to the creation of a subculture of childless single men with low social capital who end up being radicalized.
by United Muscovite Nations » Mon Dec 30, 2019 6:43 pm
Novus America wrote:United Muscovite Nations wrote:Because most arranged marriages are requested by the person it's being arranged for, often because they feel they don't have any other opportunity to find a partner, and that the taboo on parental involvement in partner selection within the Western world has led to the creation of a subculture of childless single men with low social capital who end up being radicalized.
I actually agree. Especially in the modern world, many people are having a hard time so parents helping those who need it is good.
But still we need strict laws against any coercion.
by Katganistan » Mon Dec 30, 2019 6:44 pm
Gravlen wrote:There's a difference between arranged marriages and forced marriages.
Arranged marriages are usually fine, and there's no reason to criminalize them.
Forced marriages are - and should be - outlawed.
In addition, child marriages (below the age of 18, although I can accept marriage between people above the age of consent) should be banned as well.
by James_xenoland » Mon Dec 30, 2019 6:45 pm
Purgatio wrote:Region of Dwipantara wrote:
While it is easy to ban "forced marriage" – just put in the law that marriage should happen under the consensual agreement of both parties – banning "arranged marriage" is way harder. If a parent recommend their children to marry someone, is(n't) it arranged marriage? If the parent disagree with their children's partner of choice, should it be criminalized? What's an "implicit threat" and how should it be tackled by the law? As long as each partner have the option to jump out, good enough. If the parents threatened, for example, honor killing, they should be charged with violence and murder.
The difficulty with this view is that people tend to take a stilted and narrow view of what counts as coercion, unless the parent explicitly and expressly threatens to murder their child unless he or she enters the marriage, a lot of people are unwilling to see anything less than that as vitiating consent, its much harder to prove how the subtle influences and impacts of a parent, speaking from a position of dominance and authority, the person who has had the power to shape your upbringing and your existence for the formative years of your life, can wield a position of undue influence over you and how that kind of emotional control can be equally coercive as a direct threat of violence. In domestic violence we're slowly moving towards a more progressive and broader understanding of how coercion occurs in abusive relationships, and our understanding of abuse and coercion in child-parent interactions needs to evolve in that same enlightened direction, criminalizing both forced and arranged marriages is part of that process.
"I can picture in my mind a world without war, a world without hate. And I can picture us attacking that world, because they'd never expect it."
Rikese wrote:From a 14 year old saying that children should vote, to a wankfest about whether or not God exists. Good job, you have all achieved new benchmarks in stupidity.
by Katganistan » Mon Dec 30, 2019 6:45 pm
The Legendary wrote:In my nation marriage is illegal so problem solved.
by United Muscovite Nations » Mon Dec 30, 2019 6:46 pm
Cekoviu wrote:Nonconsensual marriages (many arranged marriages) should be, and we should ideally do away with marriage altogether.
by James_xenoland » Mon Dec 30, 2019 6:47 pm
Cekoviu wrote:Nonconsensual marriages (many arranged marriages) should be, and we should ideally do away with marriage altogether.
"I can picture in my mind a world without war, a world without hate. And I can picture us attacking that world, because they'd never expect it."
Rikese wrote:From a 14 year old saying that children should vote, to a wankfest about whether or not God exists. Good job, you have all achieved new benchmarks in stupidity.
by Hammer Britannia » Mon Dec 30, 2019 6:49 pm
by Cekoviu » Mon Dec 30, 2019 6:55 pm
by Neanderthaland » Mon Dec 30, 2019 6:57 pm
by United Muscovite Nations » Mon Dec 30, 2019 6:57 pm
by Purgatio » Mon Dec 30, 2019 7:02 pm
James_xenoland wrote:Purgatio wrote:
The difficulty with this view is that people tend to take a stilted and narrow view of what counts as coercion, unless the parent explicitly and expressly threatens to murder their child unless he or she enters the marriage, a lot of people are unwilling to see anything less than that as vitiating consent, its much harder to prove how the subtle influences and impacts of a parent, speaking from a position of dominance and authority, the person who has had the power to shape your upbringing and your existence for the formative years of your life, can wield a position of undue influence over you and how that kind of emotional control can be equally coercive as a direct threat of violence. In domestic violence we're slowly moving towards a more progressive and broader understanding of how coercion occurs in abusive relationships, and our understanding of abuse and coercion in child-parent interactions needs to evolve in that same enlightened direction, criminalizing both forced and arranged marriages is part of that process.
"Stilted and narrow" because it has to be based on fact and standards. And there is nothing natural about treating grown adults like preschool age children, but only at very specific times and reasonings. As for the bolded part.. You mean to say certain ideological groups are pushing for such moves, not that there is any kind of factual, scientific or even theoretical consensus for such. So the usual approach of the social sciences and other special interest groups. And on the child-parent interaction nonsense.. putting aside the literal jump in logic, questions on how it would work, why it's needed, as well as the "WTF" nature of it in general.. all I could tell you is good luck. Wishful thinking is about as close as it's ever going to get to reality.
by Purgatio » Mon Dec 30, 2019 7:05 pm
United Muscovite Nations wrote:Purgatio wrote:
Its the sheerest formalism to assume that if a child 'asks' his or her parents to find a spouse that that automatically means there is consent, with nothing further, but this myopic argument just vindicates my view that people are unwilling to see coercion and duress unless its a blindingly obvious case of a father threatening to murder his daughter unless she marries X or Y. I mean, as long as a child 'asks' then everything's fair game, right? Let's not ask any further the degree of emotional undue influence wielded by a person in a position of authority, or the centuries of cultural expectations and familial obligations ingrained into that child's brain after years and years of his or her parents having ascendance and dominance over his or her young formative childhood years, let's ignore all of that, as long as the child, now an adult, formally 'asks' his or her parents to do something that is culturally expected of him and them, that's all we need to know to be satisfied there is consent. Nothing further.
You sound exactly like the people I argued with in the UK when pushing for reforms to domestic violence laws, the kind of people who think nothing less than a physical beating can vitiate consent. "Asking" is enough to prove consent. Sure. Okay.
It's not always socially expected and many people ask for an arranged marriage because of low social capital preventing them from getting a marriage by normal means. Like I said, this attitude of yours would deprive a lot of people of the opportunity for marriage.
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