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I have an experiment which I would like to conduct.

Please tell us what you are looking for in a future partner.
Or if you already have a partner, what are their most attractive traits?

BUT, please leave out anything that might reveal your gender/ the gender of the partner you are looking for.

So I'll start:
I want someone who has a dark sense of humour, likes art, music, books, cooking, who is dependable, intelligent, caring and likes to experiment with "in the bedroom" activities.

I would like to date someone who is more outgoing and energetic than myself, so that they could bring out those traits in myself and I could feel more relaxed around them than I would around someone who might be closer to my temperament.

A human.

A non-human.

Poor romantic judgement and a susceptibility towards misplaced loyalty.

Thepeopl wrote:Or if you already have a partner, what are their most attractive traits?

Their good sense of humour and curiosity.

Someone who I can confide in and would be willing to at least try some of my interests. And they don't have to be intelligent but not an idiot.

I'm the forever alone type. But if I had to choose, it'd be someone I have more leverage than I guess. If I can't control the situation and I could get screwed over, I did something wrong. I wasn't ruthless and calculating enough.

GrEaT aLgErStOnIa wrote:A human.

speciest


A good relationship is one of comfort and contentment, where I feel good simply by being in the presence of the other member(s) of the relationship. It needs to be an ongoing exchange which I am motivated to invest in to the point that I give more than I objectively receive and from which I feel better as a result of the exchange (this is a quantifiable aspect of Love - NB if I'm not motivated to give more then its lust, if I'm not feeling good about it then its over).

Oh and for the record 'Romance' for me is the process which members of a relationship use to raise and maintain motivation, the trick is knowing which actions are required for each individual personality

Someone who ... hm, yeah, being 'someone' would already suffice.

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GrEaT aLgErStOnIa wrote:A human.

And if this already goes wrong:

Side 3 wrote:A non-human.

Glad to see, that I'm not the only one with fairly high standards.

Pronounced lateral orbital rim protrusion.

Someone I like spending time with, and I don't mind seeing them first thing in the morning and last thing at night.

Preferably two of them.

Handholding and my head being patted.

Fortunately, I am already in one, my first actually, and hopefully my last as I intend to be with this person for life (as they do me). I never thought this relationship was possible because of my disability, but I lucked out big time, I suppose they did too.

I require loyalty, commitment, trust, intimacy, mutual respect, affection, direct communication (no mind games), and understanding. Person has to be opposite sex and take decent care of their health, or at least trying to improve. I prefer a lot of sex (unless I cannot otherwise because of circumstance, I never would say no to my partner), but I am completely unwilling to do anal, or extreme/nasty fetishes.

Don't really have any other preferences. I mean, yes physical appearance matters to a degree I guess, but not really. Height, race, skin problems, and other similar things I don't consider important. I would rather be with someone kind and affectionate than the most conventionally beautiful person on the planet. I've seen a lot of people who I find naturally beautiful and more genuine than models I see in ads. I remember walking by a homeless person and despite their rough look, they just looked human to me and I find that very beautiful. That being said, I do find my partner extremely attractive and I have absolutely no concerns about their looks. We started off just as friends, but we connected so well, that I made a move. Couldn't afford to miss the opportunity.

Even before I met my partner, I had no interest in dating apps, never tried them, and never will. Don't like the culture on them. Anyone that rates people by numbers, I would want nothing to do with.

I think I am way outside the norm however. As I am disabled, I tend to find more relation in people who have also suffered or are in a difficult position. Factors such as employment, wealth, and other economic things don't matter to me at all. The only thing I want is genuine and exclusive love, and that is the only thing I can offer.

I am attracted to females who take pride in their family, especially having children, and who have encouraging and uplifting personalities. I need to be able to confide in them and tell them what I'm thinking without feeling awkward about it. I would like her to respect my interests so that I can lead her and teach her things along the way. Curiosity, adventurousness, and an informed opinion are keys to greater enlightenment. I want her to be my Queen for as long as we live.

Paddy O Fernature wrote:Sums it up nicely.

+1 interweb

Nothing, because I've never had and will probably never have a romantic partner or significant other.

The New California Republic wrote:

Zordennox wrote:I am attracted to females who take pride in their family, especially having children, and who have encouraging and uplifting personalities. I need to be able to confide in them and tell them what I'm thinking without feeling awkward about it. I would like her to respect my interests so that I can lead her and teach her things along the way. Curiosity, adventurousness, and an informed opinion are keys to greater enlightenment. I want her to be my Queen for as long as we live.

Thepeopl wrote:BUT, please leave out anything that might reveal your gender/ the gender of the partner you are looking for.

Tell the truth. Is 'must read OP's' on your list?

Aesthetics.

Rich she shall be, that's certain; wise,
or I'll none; virtuous, or I'll never cheapen her;
fair, or I'll never look on her; mild, or come not
near me; noble, or not I for an angel; of good
discourse, an excellent musician, and her hair shall
be of what colour it please God.

I want them to be smarter than me.

Farnhamia wrote:Rich she shall be, that's certain; wise,
or I'll none; virtuous, or I'll never cheapen her;
fair, or I'll never look on her; mild, or come not
near me; noble, or not I for an angel; of good
discourse, an excellent musician, and her hair shall
be of what colour it please God.

Wait aren’t you already married

Someone as insane as myself.