What do you look for in a "romantic" relationship

[Rojava Free State]

I'm guessing you're really into Celtic men

Guess again.

Celtic women?

[Cekoviu]

- Likes or tolerates puns; I make them too frequently to have a relationship with someone who hates them

I have ended relationships because the other person didn't like my endless cheese puns. She tried to tell me they weren't Gouda.

That pun is just muensterous

lovely girl educate correct species dutiful

Oh yeah, should've added "correct species." Figured that was implied, but we are on NSG...

[Kowani]

So…somebody people will know that I currently have a partner. But the OP says to avoid using gender, so here we go: They are quick witted, and determined. They want to develop themselves into a better person, to grow. Intelligent, yet humble. They’re absolutely marvelous to talk to, and even those silences in between bursts of speech are fun. (Facial communication is more enjoyable when you have someone you like to try it with.) They don’t put up with my bullshit, and they’re honest. They’re passionate about their interests, and they have personality. There’s more, but…well, putting all this down is kinda embarrassing.

It was definetively kinda interesting so far.

I don’t know whether to be worried or not...

Yay! Thank you all for answering.

Now part two of my experiment:

Can you tell whom of the posters are males, looking for males, males looking for females, females looking for females or females looking for males?
And the few who are looking for labradors or other non humans

Many of the posters are not strangers to me. I know quite a few of their genders.

Some even have it in their sigs.

Blaat makes good points.

[Thepeopl]

Guess again.

Celtic women?

Orangutans?

[The Snazzylands]

Celtic women?

Orangutans?

Some species of squirrel are orange.

[A m e n r i a]

Han blood
Chinese citizenship
How much the other person values their Chinese culture and values
Tradition, tradition, tradition
A kind, gentle, and nurturing personality
How good the other person is in bed
How dominant the other is
Pale skin
Height. A lot of height.
A pretty face
Social status

[Former Citizens of the Nimbus System]

As someone who has yet to have a romantic partnership and has (mild) Aspergers' Syndrome with many of the social weaknesses that that might entail, these may be wildly unrealistic. Nonetheless, as of now, I seek the following in a partner:

• The mental energy to participate in long, fulfilling, exploratory conversations, the intelligence, curiosity and commitment to truth to do so meaningfully and the assertiveness and sufficient difference from myself to force me to question and improve my own ideas and points of view;
• The interpersonal skill to compensate for my own weakness in that area;
• Compassion and open-mindedness (without which I suspect I would be unbearable, as I am fairly saccharine, bordering on naïve, in that regard);
• The determination to pursue their own goals and ideals;
• Loyalty (which I will endeavour to reciprocate, obviously);
• A love of the world;
• And, yes, some level of physical attractiveness (though I suspect that that will develop to some degree on my part regardless as I become attracted to their mind).

Now I look back, that's quite the long list... It's a good thing that I primarily see relationships of all kinds as built rather than found. My hope would be that I find a partner who fulfils all of these but, so long as we got along and both worked to love, support and actualise one another, I'm suspect I would be more than happy.

[Vivolkha]

As someone who has yet to have a romantic partnership and has (mild) Aspergers' Syndrome with many of the social weaknesses that that might entail, these may be wildly unrealistic.

I feel you, because I have the exact same problem.

[Risottia]

Guess again.

Celtic women?

More like a very specific Italian woman, who happens to be my wife.

[Former Citizens of the Nimbus System]

As someone who has yet to have a romantic partnership and has (mild) Aspergers' Syndrome with many of the social weaknesses that that might entail, these may be wildly unrealistic.

I feel you, because I have the exact same problem.

I mean, you might feel differently but I've always considered it a general advantage. I'm unusually different from the majority, which means I have different strengths and weaknesses and can thus be useful! Besides, I find that analytical ability and general earnestness can somewhat make up for finding interpersonal dealings unintuitive. Just got to take what you have, augment it with what you can learn and harness the result!

More like a very specific Italian woman, who happens to be my wife.

Ha! Excellent answer!

[Rainbowsix]

I have an experiment which I would like to conduct.

Please tell us what you are looking for in a future partner.
Or if you already have a partner, what are their most attractive traits?

BUT, please leave out anything that might reveal your gender/ the gender of the partner you are looking for.

So I'll start:
I want someone who has a dark sense of humour, likes art, music, books, cooking, who is dependable, intelligent, caring and likes to experiment with "in the bedroom" activities.

basically me but take out the art and replace with loves to play video games

[The Holy Therns]

And are they looking for males/ females / inconclusive?

People.

[Ethel mermania]

Celtic women?

More like a very specific Italian woman, who happens to be my wife.

Source please?

[Dogmeat]

More like a very specific Italian woman, who happens to be my wife.

Source please?

...her parents?

[The Holy Therns]

Source please?

...her parents?

Ethel's old enough, it's time he learn about the birds and the bees.

[Rainbowsix]

uh oh

[Cekoviu]

...her parents?

Ethel's old enough, it's time he learn about the birds and the bees.

Indeed. Ethel, birds are reptiles in the class Aves which have unique adaptations compared to other reptiles, particularly warm-bloodedness and feathers; bees are hymenopterans (related to bees and ants) in the clade Anthophila, which are social insects that help significantly with pollination.

[Major-Tom]

Transparency, honesty and open communication. Appearances and personality traits that I appreciate are also fairly important, but for a relationship to be successful, the three aforementioned things are most crucial.

[The New California Republic]

Transparency, honesty and open communication.

[Heloin]

Transparency, honesty and open communication.

Sexy.

[Ethel mermania]

Ethel's old enough, it's time he learn about the birds and the bees.

Indeed. Ethel, birds are reptiles in the class Aves which have unique adaptations compared to other reptiles, particularly warm-bloodedness and feathers; bees are hymenopterans (related to bees and ants) in the clade Anthophila, which are social insects that help significantly with pollination.

Ooooo. kinky

[The Snazzylands]

Transparency, honesty and open communication.

tfw no ghost gf

[Cappuccina]

Transparency, honesty and open communication.

Dat boo-ty tho!

[Fuzzbuckets]

Most attractive traits of my partner?

He's masculine in all the best ways. Protective yet gentle. Treats me like the woman I am, but does not denounce my power and ability to govern myself. He is also loyal and honest.

[Thepeopl]

I have an experiment which I would like to conduct.

Please tell us what you are looking for in a future partner.
Or if you already have a partner, what are their most attractive traits?

BUT, please leave out anything that might reveal your gender/ the gender of the partner you are looking for.

So I'll start:
I want someone who has a dark sense of humour, likes art, music, books, cooking, who is dependable, intelligent, caring and likes to experiment with "in the bedroom" activities.

basically me but take out the art and replace with loves to play video games

Ohh, I missed that one... but also board games, sports, hiking, lounging, comfortable with silence, loving children and animals, likes single malt whiskey, able to work with hands, in for cosplay, rpg, mathmatics, scientific knowledge, gardening and genuinely likes me. But this list is really secondary.

And yes my SO really fullfills all above mentioned traits