by Chestaan » Wed Aug 28, 2019 5:23 am
by Freaneet » Wed Aug 28, 2019 5:24 am
by Chestaan » Wed Aug 28, 2019 5:26 am
Freaneet wrote:This is going to be another woman bashing thread, isn't it? Mods, lock this.
by Greed and Death » Wed Aug 28, 2019 5:27 am
Chestaan wrote:Usually in relationships people will have red lines as to what their partner can and cannot do. The obvious one that comes to mind is that usually a person will find it reasonable to expect their partner to refrain from engaging in romantic/sexual acts with another person. But at what point do these restrictions cross the line from being ok to being unacceptable?
Some may argue that any restrictions in a relationship are fine, as long as they are agreed beforehand by all parties to the relationship but others will view certain restrictions as overly intrusive and possibly even abusive.
So what do you guys think are acceptable restrictions or unacceptable restrictions? Have you been in relationships where your partner placed unreasonable restrictions on you? Did you find it to be abusive? I'm very interested to hear from both men and women and particularly those who engage in same sex relationships to see if you guys have a different experience or perspective.
To get the ball rolling I have a few examples of what I consider unacceptable:
1. An ex of mind got angry at me when I brought a classmate back to my room in college to do maths work together. I was young and stupid at the time so afterwards I was terrified to even have those visiting me or friends enter my room.
2. A friend of mine had a girlfriend who considered watching porn to be the same as cheating.
3. On a social media group, a lady complained that her partner was liking photos of other girls on Facebook.
4. Several of my friends have told of cases where their partner did not allow them to see some of their friends.
5. A friend of mine, who is not an alcoholic, was told exactly how many drinks he could have by his girlfriend.
by Freaneet » Wed Aug 28, 2019 5:27 am
by Imperial Fascist States » Wed Aug 28, 2019 5:29 am
Freaneet wrote:This is going to be another woman bashing thread, isn't it? Mods, lock this.
by Alvecia » Wed Aug 28, 2019 5:29 am
by Greed and Death » Wed Aug 28, 2019 5:29 am
by Imperial Fascist States » Wed Aug 28, 2019 5:30 am
by Chestaan » Wed Aug 28, 2019 5:30 am
by Freaneet » Wed Aug 28, 2019 5:31 am
by Chestaan » Wed Aug 28, 2019 5:31 am
Alvecia wrote:Chestaan wrote:
What?! Women and men are free to post here. How is asking for experiences about relationships anti-women?
Ignore them.
I’d say it’s very dependent on the couple in question.
What’s unacceptable to one might be barely worth discussing to another.
I think just an unwillingness to communicate would be a personal line for me.
Most things can be resolved just by talking them out.
by Alvecia » Wed Aug 28, 2019 5:34 am
Chestaan wrote:Alvecia wrote:Ignore them.
I’d say it’s very dependent on the couple in question.
What’s unacceptable to one might be barely worth discussing to another.
I think just an unwillingness to communicate would be a personal line for me.
Most things can be resolved just by talking them out.
This is something I was thinking about before posting the thread, basically any restrictions on behavior is fine if both people are ok with it. I guess it mostly becomes a problem if it arrives midway through the relationship and wasn't agreed on before.
by Eglaecia » Wed Aug 28, 2019 5:38 am
Chestaan wrote:2. A friend of mine had a girlfriend who considered watching porn to be the same as cheating.
by Rojava Free State » Wed Aug 28, 2019 5:39 am
Rojava Free State wrote:Listen yall. I'm only gonna say it once but I want you to remember it. This ain't a world fit for good men. It seems like you gotta be monstrous just to make it. Gotta have a little bit of darkness within you just to survive. You gotta stoop low everyday it seems like. Stoop all the way down to the devil in these times. And then one day you look in the mirror and you realize that you ain't you anymore. You're just another monster, and thanks to your actions, someone else will eventually become as warped and twisted as you. Never forget that the best of us are just the best of a bad lot. Being at the top of a pile of feces doesn't make you anything but shit like the rest. Never forget that.
by Chestaan » Wed Aug 28, 2019 5:44 am
Rojava Free State wrote:If you get jealous anytime your partner talks to someone of the opposite gender, you've got an issue in your cranium
by Gormwood » Wed Aug 28, 2019 5:46 am
by Kaltovar » Wed Aug 28, 2019 5:46 am
by Chestaan » Wed Aug 28, 2019 5:49 am
Gormwood wrote:There was a news story a while back about a woman who ended a relationship because her manbaby of an ex-boyfriend had written a list of Taliban-grade rules she was supposed to follow.
by Eglaecia » Wed Aug 28, 2019 5:50 am
Chestaan wrote:Eglaecia wrote:It is.
Why so?Rojava Free State wrote:If you get jealous anytime your partner talks to someone of the opposite gender, you've got an issue in your cranium
I'm lucky in that I've never been involved with anyone that was that bad. If I met someone like that now I would run away, but younger me would probably put up with it.
by Kaltovar » Wed Aug 28, 2019 5:53 am
by Gormwood » Wed Aug 28, 2019 5:54 am
by Kaltovar » Wed Aug 28, 2019 5:57 am
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