Dating is at a Record Low: Another Dating Thread

[Rojava Free State]

This is a major reason why I wanna keep any future partners at arm's length. I'm looking for sexual relationships, not romance. That romance crap is a lie for the most part and most relationships collapse because people are stubborn and don't try to understand. Since I'm not in the mood to ever get that hurt again, I'm waving my hand and saying nah to anything serious

Sex numbs people.

You're telling a man who has seen people die that sex numbs people. I'm already numb so I can't see how it could get worse

[Neko-koku]

Sex is simply pointless. Dating is absurd and dangerous. A cat is much better than a partner.

[Grinning Dragon]

I find myself agreeing with Nakena, G&D, and WRA. I'd also throw in the mine field of the issue of being falsely accused of rape or other things when the relationship goes south and one seeks revenge on the other, for the most part young men don't want the possibility of that being foisted upon them.

This is a major reason why I wanna keep any future partners at arm's length. I'm looking for sexual relationships, not romance. That romance crap is a lie for the most part and most relationships collapse because people are stubborn and don't try to understand. Since I'm not in the mood to ever get that hurt again, I'm waving my hand and saying nah to anything serious

Even some the younger guys I interact with at work, even indicated they really aren't interested in hookups either, they just don't want the hassle of being accused of anything, nor spend any of their money on a quick date, when they can buy a game, a firearm, music, etc,

[Farnhamia]

I blame Melkor.

Who's this "Melkor" you speak of? I only know of Margoth.

Morgoth ... https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Morgoth#The_name

[New haven america]

Who's this "Melkor" you speak of? I only know of Margoth.

Morgoth ... https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Morgoth#The_name

Twas a joke.

[Rojava Free State]

Sex is simply pointless. Dating is absurd and dangerous. A cat is much better than a partner.

Sex is fun and even if it isn't for certain folks, it's the way we spread a part of ourselves into the future via kids.

[Neko-koku]

This is a major reason why I wanna keep any future partners at arm's length. I'm looking for sexual relationships, not romance. That romance crap is a lie for the most part and most relationships collapse because people are stubborn and don't try to understand. Since I'm not in the mood to ever get that hurt again, I'm waving my hand and saying nah to anything serious

Even some the younger guys I interact with at work, even indicated they really aren't interested in hookups either, they just don't want the hassle of being accused of anything, nor spend any of their money on a quick date, when they can buy a game, a firearm, music, etc,

That's sustainable due to availability of porn and erotica. In the future there will also be sex bots.

[Farnhamia]

Morgoth ... https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Morgoth#The_name

Twas a joke.

I cannot pass up an opportunity to be pedantic.

But we digress.

[Bienenhalde]

While I wholly approve of celibacy, I am afraid that many of the people nowadays who are not dating or getting married are instead satisfying sexual urges through porn, hook-ups, or even prostitution. And while some experts might say that it is a result of economics and not simply moral decay, in any case the result is still highly concerning.

[Rojava Free State]

Even some the younger guys I interact with at work, even indicated they really aren't interested in hookups either, they just don't want the hassle of being accused of anything, nor spend any of their money on a quick date, when they can buy a game, a firearm, music, etc,

That's sustainable due to availability of porn and erotica. In the future there will also be sex bots.

Ah yes, the hungrylips9000. That'll be cool when it goes on the market

[Jean-Paul Sartre]

I don’t seek out dates because I have too little time on my hands. If a guy wants to ask, I probably would give him a chance, assuming I don’t get creep vibes, but I get how that’s difficult for people, as a socially anxious person myself.

So are you a girl because if you are, that would be kinda weird considering we all called you John Paul.

Not an issue, just kinda ironic

I am indeed female. My favorite philosopher has nothing to do with my gender.

[New haven america]

While I wholly approve of celibacy, I am afraid that many of the people nowadays who are not dating or getting married are instead satisfying sexual urges through porn, hook-ups, or even prostitution. And while some experts might say that it is a result of economics and not simply moral decay, in any case the result is still highly concerning.

No they're not, sex is also at an all time low.

[Ayytaly]

Sex numbs people.

You're telling a man who has seen people die that sex numbs people. I'm already numb so I can't see how it could get worse

It sounds like you have embraced apathy and misanthropy.

Even some the younger guys I interact with at work, even indicated they really aren't interested in hookups either, they just don't want the hassle of being accused of anything, nor spend any of their money on a quick date, when they can buy a game, a firearm, music, etc,

That's sustainable due to availability of porn and erotica. In the future there will also be sex bots.

Modern Feminism has destroyed women.

[Neko-koku]

While I wholly approve of celibacy, I am afraid that many of the people nowadays who are not dating or getting married are instead satisfying sexual urges through porn, hook-ups, or even prostitution. And while some experts might say that it is a result of economics and not simply moral decay, in any case the result is still highly concerning.

Are you a devoted Christian?

[Antityranicals]

Men have forgotten how to be men. Men don't strive to be heroes anymore. Girls want heroes, and rightfully so. It is the duty of all men to defeat the mediocrity within them, and be everything that a girl ever dreamed of. It's hard as hell, but it's what men ought to do. Today, I don't think most male humans really deserve the title of "man." In the minds of many, masculinity doesn't mean greatness and heroism, it means perversion and lust. Thus one group of men run towards this evil in the pursuit of manliness, while another group run away from real manliness in disgust of this evil. It's rather sad, and we live in a society who sorts men into one of these two groups. I challenge all men to break free of this, and to be real men.

[Bienenhalde]

While I wholly approve of celibacy, I am afraid that many of the people nowadays who are not dating or getting married are instead satisfying sexual urges through porn, hook-ups, or even prostitution. And while some experts might say that it is a result of economics and not simply moral decay, in any case the result is still highly concerning.

No they're not, sex is also at an all time low.

What about pornography though?

[Jean-Paul Sartre]

You're telling a man who has seen people die that sex numbs people. I'm already numb so I can't see how it could get worse

It sounds like you have embraced apathy and misanthropy.

That's sustainable due to availability of porn and erotica. In the future there will also be sex bots.

Modern Feminism has destroyed women.

I’m still here, fam.

[The Greater Ohio Valley]

Tbh, I wouldn’t really know what the dating scene since I’ve since removed myself from the dating scene for the past 7 and a half years or so, but not for the listed economic, cultural, work related reasons, primarily because (likely due to my mental illnesses) I have an exceedingly difficult time trusting anyone to the point of opening myself to them to allow dating to happen.

I'm now a (probably) permanent bachelor. Only focusing on my career and friends now.

No sex either.

Not for any dumb philosophy but for emotional reasons. Sure maybe it's flawed but it's my choice.

Good for you though, you do you.

I’d like to have sex and also love myself though (cuz I do enjoy deep connections with people), but due to my severe distrust of people in general it’s more of a personal mental difficulty than anything else.

[Jack Thomas Lang]

I am indeed female. My favorite philosopher has nothing to do with my gender.

I can't believe that, especially when said by a wrinkled potato with lazy eye.

[Bienenhalde]

Are you a devoted Christian?

Yeah, why do you ask?

[Rojava Free State]

You're telling a man who has seen people die that sex numbs people. I'm already numb so I can't see how it could get worse

It sounds like you have embraced apathy and misanthropy.

Embraced? I did to apathy and misanthropy what I wanna do to half the women I know. Major understament my guy

[Neko-koku]

You're telling a man who has seen people die that sex numbs people. I'm already numb so I can't see how it could get worse

It sounds like you have embraced apathy and misanthropy.

That's sustainable due to availability of porn and erotica. In the future there will also be sex bots.

Modern Feminism has destroyed women.

Uh..Modern Feminism has empowered, not destroyed women. It destroyed availability of women to men. That's not the same as "destroying women".

[Scomagia]

I haven't really noticed a lack of dating. When I was a teen, I dated. So did most of my friends and most of them still do. Maybe we're outliers. I know I am in one respect, I got married much younger than most people do now.

Breeder *points* *unleashes screech*

Eventually.

[Jean-Paul Sartre]

I am indeed female. My favorite philosopher has nothing to do with my gender.

I can't believe that, especially when said by a wrinkled potato with lazy eye.

If you’d like, I can switch to de Beauvoir, though I’m not a fan of The Second Sex as much.

[New haven america]

Men have forgotten how to be men. Men don't strive to be heroes anymore. Girls want heroes, and rightfully so. It is the duty of all men to defeat the mediocrity within them, and be everything that a girl ever dreamed of. It's hard as hell, but it's what men ought to do. Today, I don't think most male humans really deserve the title of "man." In the minds of many, masculinity doesn't mean greatness and heroism, it means perversion and lust. Thus one group of men run towards this evil in the pursuit of manliness, while another group run away from real manliness in disgust of this evil. It's rather sad, and we live in a society who sorts men into one of these two groups. I challenge all men to break free of this, and to be real men.

Why?

What do guys get out of this? And what are women supposed to do?