Dating is at a Record Low: Another Dating Thread

[Socialist Heronia]

No, tradition and gender roles are everything to a society. Without those enforced, there is just chaos. Although there are different degrees of severity for breaking these norms. For example, I'd consider a boy being into fashion as being better than them crossdressing. In the first situation, there should be concern that they might be gay, while in the latter scenario- they should be punished.

I'm the forever alone sort.

Can't imagine why.

I've heard he's a hardcore white supremacist.

[LimaUniformNovemberAlpha]

Not sure if I'm missing a lot of loners, but I do see plenty of boys and girls pairing up around here.

Although I'd be following this trend, since I'm just not interested in dating or romance on a conscious and decision-making level.

Webforums, as a whole, seem to disproportionately attract an especially desperate breed of loner. Not everyone on them is one, of course; I have time to spend on webforums because I'm too terrified of how child support law works to have sex IRL. Others have time to spend on webforums because they're too terrified of betting their real-life reputations on the risk of others finding out some girl turned them down. Nevertheless, posting here instead of having sex IRL is the one thing we have in common.

[Vallermoore]

I think in Western countries it's easier for girls to pair up with males then it is for males to find girls (but I could be wrong.)

[Costa Fierro]

I think in Western countries it's easier for girls to pair up with males then it is for males to find girls (but I could be wrong.)

It is if women ask men out.

[Rojava Free State]

I really have no idea how I'm gonna break back into the dating scene. I'm more isolated now than I ever was before. It was easy in ypsi and it was easy in high school and easy in middle school (or easier anyways). I barely deal with anyone now, like who am I gonna date? This brick wall?

[New haven america]

I think in Western countries it's easier for girls to pair up with males then it is for males to find girls (but I could be wrong.)

Depends.

The US and Canada? Yep, because dating culture in North America is still reliant on the males initiating any action within the relationship. Western and Northern/Central Europe? No, they're much more egalitarian and open with their relationships.

[Nakena]

I really have no idea how I'm gonna break back into the dating scene. I'm more isolated now than I ever was before. It was easy in ypsi and it was easy in high school and easy in middle school (or easier anyways). I barely deal with anyone now, like who am I gonna date? This brick wall?

I dont even know what a "Dating scene" is supposed to be.

Some kind of sub-culture where people do date? A subbredit?

I mean i dated people too... but a freakin scene?

[New haven america]

I really have no idea how I'm gonna break back into the dating scene. I'm more isolated now than I ever was before. It was easy in ypsi and it was easy in high school and easy in middle school (or easier anyways). I barely deal with anyone now, like who am I gonna date? This brick wall?

I dont even know what a "Dating scene" is supposed to be.

Some kind of sub-culture where people do date? A subbredit?

I mean i dated people too... but a freakin scene?

A Dating Scene typically refers to the dating status or culture of a particular area or group (Or both, they're not mutually exclusive).

[Thepeopl]

It was 3 boys and 1 girl. She had invited the boys and everyone had a nice relaxing time. Completely platonic. We all helped eachother scrub with salt.

None of us is gay, but we don't mind platonic physical contact, like massages or scrubs. FYI we only scrubbed the back.

But you go shopping with your mates and give eachother massages, good for you.

I assumed you meant massages in the context of a spa, as I intended for the same point to apply. Going to the spa with someone, and/or being massauged by them, sounds very intimate. You've since mentioned this was Dutch, so maybe the Netherlands has different norms than Canada.

As for shopping, it depends on what you're shopping for. Grocery shopping is the kind of thing for which people benefit from each other's thoughs

No, the massages were in the home environment, and every body who knew how to massage, did. Again, instigated by the girl.
Most of the times just back/ schoulders/ neck.
But when time permitted, full body massage.

And yes it was platonic. But I have to admit, that was 20 years ago. Now 4 kids later, a full body massage is out of the question, (interruptions by said kids, not the willingness)
She even massaged the guys when we dated.
And believe me, after a full body massage, you really don't want sex. You just want to maintain the glow and relaxation. No way you want to become active.

Yes erotic massage do exist. And if you are lucky, you'll learn the difference.

[Saiwania]

Nice to see Nanatsu was right.

She was right about what? I recall that she wrote some libel about me regarding my ancestry. Who I associate with, has nothing to do with that. If you use the internet heavily, chances are the people you come across will be diverse in real life. But its not as big of a deal, if you don't ever have to see them or are less likely to because they live where you don't.

[New haven america]

I assumed you meant massages in the context of a spa, as I intended for the same point to apply. Going to the spa with someone, and/or being massauged by them, sounds very intimate. You've since mentioned this was Dutch, so maybe the Netherlands has different norms than Canada.

As for shopping, it depends on what you're shopping for. Grocery shopping is the kind of thing for which people benefit from each other's thoughs

No, the massages were in the home environment, and every body who knew how to massage, did. Again, instigated by the girl.
Most of the times just back/ schoulders/ neck.
But when time permitted, full body massage.

And yes it was platonic. But I have to admit, that was 20 years ago. Now 4 kids later, a full body massage is out of the question, (interruptions by said kids, not the willingness)
She even massaged the guys when we dated.
And believe me, after a full body massage, you really don't want sex. You just want to maintain the glow and relaxation. No way you want to become active.

Yes erotic massage do exist. And if you are lucky, you'll learn the difference.

Hehe, yeah, no. All of what you described is stuff that's only supposed to happen between partners or paid professionals in North America.

[Nakena]

No, the massages were in the home environment, and every body who knew how to massage, did. Again, instigated by the girl.
Most of the times just back/ schoulders/ neck.
But when time permitted, full body massage.

And yes it was platonic. But I have to admit, that was 20 years ago. Now 4 kids later, a full body massage is out of the question, (interruptions by said kids, not the willingness)
She even massaged the guys when we dated.
And believe me, after a full body massage, you really don't want sex. You just want to maintain the glow and relaxation. No way you want to become active.

Yes erotic massage do exist. And if you are lucky, you'll learn the difference.

Hehe, yeah, no. All of what you described is stuff that's only supposed to happen between partners or paid professionals in North America.

Its quite the build up nonetheless.

[Thepeopl]

I really have no idea how I'm gonna break back into the dating scene. I'm more isolated now than I ever was before. It was easy in ypsi and it was easy in high school and easy in middle school (or easier anyways). I barely deal with anyone now, like who am I gonna date? This brick wall?

You don't go to shops? Subway? Park?

Start with honestly complimenting people, regardless of sex, age, race. If I see a cool shirt ( Darth Vader trimming a death star shaped Bush or April 18th!) I will comment positively on that. Smile and the world will smile back.
Start wearing fun shirts, so others who know your band/ film/ comedian/ shares your humor/ world view can make contact .
My brother in law had shirts like 10 reasons why a cucumber is better than men.

[HC Eredivisie]

No, the massages were in the home environment, and every body who knew how to massage, did. Again, instigated by the girl.
Most of the times just back/ schoulders/ neck.
But when time permitted, full body massage.

And yes it was platonic. But I have to admit, that was 20 years ago. Now 4 kids later, a full body massage is out of the question, (interruptions by said kids, not the willingness)
She even massaged the guys when we dated.
And believe me, after a full body massage, you really don't want sex. You just want to maintain the glow and relaxation. No way you want to become active.

Yes erotic massage do exist. And if you are lucky, you'll learn the difference.

Hehe, yeah, no. All of what you described is stuff that's only supposed to happen between partners or paid professionals in North America.

And in the Netherlands.

[The Blaatschapen]

Inspired by this post right here as well as this one. I bring to you another dating thread! Fun fun, joy joy.

It's no secret. Dating, relationships, and even sex are at an all time low in the developed world. Some people are putting their careers or schooling first before relationships, some areas just don't have a good work/life balance, some of it's cultural, and some economical. Any way you explain it, relationships and birthrates have been dropping in the developed world, and it doesn't seem like there's going to be a bounce-back anytime soon. The reasons however, do vary by area. In Asia it's usually because of a terrible work/life balance, in North America it's usually because of economic problems, etc...

So, that bring us to the topic(s) of the thread: How is dating culture where you're from? What do you think is the cause of this drastic drop in relationships? Do you even want to date, and why and why not?

Personally, I'm not dating anyone ATM, nor have I ever. I'm too focused on school and finding a job, don't have enough money, and quite frankly, no one's shown interest. It doesn't bother me much though, as I have more important things to be working on right now.

Source. Also, as a side note, the name "igeneration" sucks.

I have no idea what the local dating culture is like. But tomorrow I'll have a date with a local. So I'll let you know.

Or not, I might be busy

[Thepeopl]

Inspired by this post right here as well as this one. I bring to you another dating thread! Fun fun, joy joy.

It's no secret. Dating, relationships, and even sex are at an all time low in the developed world. Some people are putting their careers or schooling first before relationships, some areas just don't have a good work/life balance, some of it's cultural, and some economical. Any way you explain it, relationships and birthrates have been dropping in the developed world, and it doesn't seem like there's going to be a bounce-back anytime soon. The reasons however, do vary by area. In Asia it's usually because of a terrible work/life balance, in North America it's usually because of economic problems, etc...

So, that bring us to the topic(s) of the thread: How is dating culture where you're from? What do you think is the cause of this drastic drop in relationships? Do you even want to date, and why and why not?

Personally, I'm not dating anyone ATM, nor have I ever. I'm too focused on school and finding a job, don't have enough money, and quite frankly, no one's shown interest. It doesn't bother me much though, as I have more important things to be working on right now.

Source. Also, as a side note, the name "igeneration" sucks.

I have no idea what the local dating culture is like. But tomorrow I'll have a date with a local. So I'll let you know.

Or not, I might be busy

Have fun!

[The Grims]

Inspired by this post right here as well as this one. I bring to you another dating thread! Fun fun, joy joy.

It's no secret. Dating, relationships, and even sex are at an all time low in the developed world. Some people are putting their careers or schooling first before relationships, some areas just don't have a good work/life balance, some of it's cultural, and some economical. Any way you explain it, relationships and birthrates have been dropping in the developed world, and it doesn't seem like there's going to be a bounce-back anytime soon. The reasons however, do vary by area. In Asia it's usually because of a terrible work/life balance, in North America it's usually because of economic problems, etc...

So, that bring us to the topic(s) of the thread: How is dating culture where you're from? What do you think is the cause of this drastic drop in relationships? Do you even want to date, and why and why not?

Personally, I'm not dating anyone ATM, nor have I ever. I'm too focused on school and finding a job, don't have enough money, and quite frankly, no one's shown interest. It doesn't bother me much though, as I have more important things to be working on right now.

Source. Also, as a side note, the name "igeneration" sucks.

I have no idea what the local dating culture is like. But tomorrow I'll have a date with a local. So I'll let you know.

Or not, I might be busy

Just do not use a lambskin condom. That would be weird.

[Thepeopl]

Hehe, yeah, no. All of what you described is stuff that's only supposed to happen between partners or paid professionals in North America.

And in the Netherlands.

Really? Have we succumbed to the prude side?
As I said, 30/ 20 years ago, this was quite normal in my family/ friends circle. We are descendant of true hippies.
Also studied in a city where physiotherapists were trained, so a lot of people wanting to massage.

Let me guess, rpg irl is also not a thing in the Netherlands anymore? That has become Cosplay?

Truly am a dinosaur.

[Rojava Free State]

I really have no idea how I'm gonna break back into the dating scene. I'm more isolated now than I ever was before. It was easy in ypsi and it was easy in high school and easy in middle school (or easier anyways). I barely deal with anyone now, like who am I gonna date? This brick wall?

I dont even know what a "Dating scene" is supposed to be.

Some kind of sub-culture where people do date? A subbredit?

I mean i dated people too... but a freakin scene?

It's not a scene. Wrong terminology

What I meant is who am I gonna date? I barely know anyone at my job and outside work, I increasingly only hang out with Josh because my friend xhuliano became a model and other people I know either moved out of state to California or we stopped talking when I moved to ypsilanti for two years

[Rojava Free State]

I really have no idea how I'm gonna break back into the dating scene. I'm more isolated now than I ever was before. It was easy in ypsi and it was easy in high school and easy in middle school (or easier anyways). I barely deal with anyone now, like who am I gonna date? This brick wall?

You don't go to shops? Subway? Park?

Start with honestly complimenting people, regardless of sex, age, race. If I see a cool shirt ( Darth Vader trimming a death star shaped Bush or April 18th!) I will comment positively on that. Smile and the world will smile back.
Start wearing fun shirts, so others who know your band/ film/ comedian/ shares your humor/ world view can make contact .
My brother in law had shirts like 10 reasons why a cucumber is better than men.

Damn have I really become this introverted? What brought me to this point?

*remembers highschool* oh yeah, that shit

[The Grims]

I dont even know what a "Dating scene" is supposed to be.

Some kind of sub-culture where people do date? A subbredit?

I mean i dated people too... but a freakin scene?

It's not a scene. Wrong terminology

What I meant is who am I gonna date? I barely know anyone at my job and outside work, I increasingly only hang out with Josh because my friend xhuliano became a model and other people I know either moved out of state to California or we stopped talking when I moved to ypsilanti for two years

No hobbies ? I met quite a lot of people through shared interests.

[Nakena]

It's not a scene. Wrong terminology

Its ok, I wondered though, because I feel maybe theres something like that and i didn know about it. Today you can never know for sure.

What I meant is who am I gonna date? I barely know anyone at my job and outside work, I increasingly only hang out with Josh because my friend xhuliano became a model and other people I know either moved out of state to California or we stopped talking when I moved to ypsilanti for two years

Yeah its similar for me tbh in my own way currently. In the end it boils down to internet or dedicated social activities etc. like dance school or whatever else is an option.

[The Grims]

Not sure if I'm missing a lot of loners, but I do see plenty of boys and girls pairing up around here.

Although I'd be following this trend, since I'm just not interested in dating or romance on a conscious and decision-making level.

Webforums, as a whole, seem to disproportionately attract an especially desperate breed of loner. Not everyone on them is one, of course; I have time to spend on webforums because I'm too terrified of how child support law works to have sex IRL. Others have time to spend on webforums because they're too terrified of betting their real-life reputations on the risk of others finding out some girl turned them down. Nevertheless, posting here instead of having sex IRL is the one thing we have in common.

Of course, on this specific webforum, people do in fact sometimes meet up irl. Some even get married

[Thepeopl]

You don't go to shops? Subway? Park?

Start with honestly complimenting people, regardless of sex, age, race. If I see a cool shirt ( Darth Vader trimming a death star shaped Bush or April 18th!) I will comment positively on that. Smile and the world will smile back.
Start wearing fun shirts, so others who know your band/ film/ comedian/ shares your humor/ world view can make contact .
My brother in law had shirts like 10 reasons why a cucumber is better than men.

Damn have I really become this introverted? What brought me to this point?

*remembers highschool* oh yeah, that shit

Start today, compliment a person. Maybe the Janitor for the great job they did, or if you 80 year old neighbour wears a vest in the same colour of her eyes. Make a compliment, one that you really mean. When it comes naturally to you, you're ready to give compliments to attractive people.

And what @the_grims said, hobby clubs can really help.

[Kowani]

Webforums, as a whole, seem to disproportionately attract an especially desperate breed of loner. Not everyone on them is one, of course; I have time to spend on webforums because I'm too terrified of how child support law works to have sex IRL. Others have time to spend on webforums because they're too terrified of betting their real-life reputations on the risk of others finding out some girl turned them down. Nevertheless, posting here instead of having sex IRL is the one thing we have in common.

Of course, on this specific webforum, people do in fact sometimes meet up irl. Some even get married

Don’t we have about 4 married couples through NS?