Ghost Land wrote:Rojava Free State wrote:Well you must have been at a good school
When it comes to my high school experience, I was in the mouth of madness
It actually sucked. My high school was ranked toward the bottom of the state rankings in terms of academic achievement, had a very high percentage of students on free and reduced lunch, and suffered from what seemed to me a high percentage of incompetent teachers (though that was one of the constants the whole way up from K-12)...but everyone always had enough money for name-brand clothes and the newest technology of the time, and there was very little in the way of social excitement at that place. If there were problems with violence or drug use, I never knew about them; that said, I never felt entirely safe there, largely because I felt administration had a personal vendetta against me. My social life was in general lacking as I wasn't interested in sports, the latest technology and music fads, or sex, and it didn't help that I had the stigma of an IEP (Individualized Education Plan; they thought I had autism from second grade up even though no doctor has, at any point in my life, even mentioned the word) or that my shallow classmates generally knew me for one thing: "Ghost Land iz sooo smuurt" and refused to get to know me better than those stereotypes (my grades were good, but not excellent, and whenever anybody said school came so easy for me, I wanted to punch their face in). Most of the stuff other kids found interesting and fun (school sport events, school dances) I did not, and few people were interested in the stuff I was (weather, music, roads, Mexico, and coins being among my biggest interests); the fact that I was a political polar opposite to 95% of the kids in my grade didn't help either.
Bringing that big rambly paragraph on topic, I never dated in middle or high school, though as mentioned, I was probably one of less than ten percent of my grade who didn't. Dating/relationship/sexual drama was for the most part what the rumour mill at our school consisted of, and I'm sure I myself contributed a bit to it; while I didn't date, I was very much girl-crazy, beginning in late seventh grade, which meant I had lots of crushes, and because of just how girl-crazy and desperate I was, often multiple at a time. I was most attracted to the
de facto popular girls, who were the ones who played sports and were generally quite pretty; I hung around them a lot and they ended up comprising most of my closest friends, even though I probably was never "hot enough" in their eyes (short, borderline overweight, and baby-faced, to the point people routinely guessed my age as 12 even when I was 15-16, where they were in general into the male football and basketball players). Even though I didn't date, I did get jealous and desperate when everyone else was in firmly established cliques and had various significant others, and I had a lacking social life and no girlfriend; while I never wanted to date in the traditional sense, I still craved companionship and something resembling assurance I wouldn't die alone with no one my age who loved me.
I currently am not in a relationship, for the record, and I'm fine with that; as I said in my original post in this thread, "dating culture" just seems like a lame, overly complicated set of rules anyway.