Posted: Mon Aug 05, 2019 11:07 am
Don´t see any real reason that we need to make it mandatory and I suspect the reasoning behind making it mandatory is iffy but okay I guess it is a pretty harmless suggestion.
Because sometimes even national leaders just want to hang out
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Purgatio wrote:Nova Cyberia wrote:Considering the inherent biases of our courts against men that's a bit iffy.
Paternity fraud is literally an open and shut case. The tort of deceit means you can claim compensation for any deception, whether deliberate or in reckless disregard for the truth, which results in consequential economic loss. Paternity fraud fits the bill. Just show the kid isn't yours and you raised him all these years and you'll win damages, simple.
Purgatio wrote:This wouldn't be a problem if we created a national DNA database, with a person's DNA entered into the database from a drawn blood sample from the moment of birth. Not only would issues like paternity and child support obligations be determined automatically, but it would allow us to solve many violent crimes through a simpler and streamlined process.
You say that you're not shaming anyone... and in the sentence right after, you're shaming literally all women, building in the premise that they're all automatically and entirely untrustworthy, to the point where even if a man trusts a woman, he has to be forced to have a paternity test.No one's being shamed. Men just don't really feel like being financially and legally on the hook for the rest of their lives for a baby that's not even theirs. Or are we expected to by default assume that all women are virtuous angels who would never sleep with anyone else?
And tbqh, if you slept around and end up with a baby who's not your SO's offspring then you absolutely deserve to be shamed.
You also started out referring to single women, now it's women with SO's sleeping around. At least get your misogynist stories straight.
Getting child support from who you thought was the father, getting child support from who was actually the father... the cost of raising kids on your own doesn't change.Nova Cyberia wrote:Attempted Socialism wrote:Yeah, because naturally women decide who to claim child support from based on the ability to pay. You really don't have any issues coming off as a massive misogynist, do you?
Are we supposed to just pretend that raising children doesn't require a boatload of money?
You conveniently didn't read the conversation we've had?You say that you're not shaming anyone... and in the sentence right after, you're shaming literally all women, building in the premise that they're all automatically and entirely untrustworthy, to the point where even if a man trusts a woman, he has to be forced to have a paternity test.
You also started out referring to single women, now it's women with SO's sleeping around. At least get your misogynist stories straight.
Not really. In fact, my philosophy on this is pretty simple.
Trust, but verify.
Do you have any actual arguments beyond shrieking "misogynist"?
Attempted Socialism wrote:Getting child support from who you thought was the father, getting child support from who was actually the father... the cost of raising kids on your own doesn't change.Nova Cyberia wrote:Are we supposed to just pretend that raising children doesn't require a boatload of money?
You conveniently didn't read the conversation we've had?Not really. In fact, my philosophy on this is pretty simple.
Trust, but verify.
Do you have any actual arguments beyond shrieking "misogynist"?
You're talking like women decide who to claim is the father because they think they can get some men to... what? Pay extra? Bribe them to remain silent? Originally you were talking about child support. Is US child support based on income?Nova Cyberia wrote:Attempted Socialism wrote:Getting child support from who you thought was the father, getting child support from who was actually the father... the cost of raising kids on your own doesn't change.
No... it doesn't.
I'm not talking about the cost changing. I'm talking about having less money to spend.
Making a coherent and valid argument would be a nice help, but I'm not holding my breath.Do I need to start using crayons to get you to understand the fairly simple words I'm saying?
And here you're presuming that all women are inherently untrustworthy and should automatically be suspected of infidelity or fraud (And sloppy of me to forget that option before). It's libellous based solely on gender, and inherently demean their reputation, which is discriminatory towards women. I.e. it's a transgression against the rights of women. That was your original question. Your oft-repeated misogynistic "arguments" aside (Whether you wish to phrase it as just an outcome of your philosophy or not), discrimination normally not legal.You conveniently didn't read the conversation we've had?
Yes, I did. You're whining about me apparently assuming all women are untrustworthy.
So I'll reiterate again my fairly simple philosophy of "Trust, but verify."
Nanatsu no Tsuki wrote:The only time I’d be for paternity tests is when there is a strong reason to have one: finding if a child belongs to one of the parents, to find a lost parent or when a parent is refusing to take responsibility for a child. Other than that, nope.
Attempted Socialism wrote:You're talking like women decide who to claim is the father because they think they can get some men to... what? Pay extra? Bribe them to remain silent? Originally you were talking about child support. Is US child support based on income?Nova Cyberia wrote:No... it doesn't.
I'm not talking about the cost changing. I'm talking about having less money to spend.
Making a coherent and valid argument would be a nice help, but I'm not holding my breath.Do I need to start using crayons to get you to understand the fairly simple words I'm saying?
And here you're presuming that all women are inherently untrustworthy and should automatically be suspected of infidelity or fraud (And sloppy of me to forget that option before). It's libellous based solely on gender, and inherently demean their reputation, which is discriminatory towards women. I.e. it's a transgression against the rights of women. That was your original question. Your oft-repeated misogynistic "arguments" aside (Whether you wish to phrase it as just an outcome of your philosophy or not), discrimination normally not legal.Yes, I did. You're whining about me apparently assuming all women are untrustworthy.
So I'll reiterate again my fairly simple philosophy of "Trust, but verify."
Attempted Socialism wrote:You mean the mandatory slut-shaming and distrust based on her gender for no viable reason at all?
Attempted Socialism wrote:You're proposing a policy change on the basis that all women are automatically suspected of infidelity, and you can't see how that's a transgression?
Attempted Socialism wrote:In my country, that insinuation would be libellous (And the discrimination based on gender makes it a rights violation).
Attempted Socialism wrote:Yeah, because naturally women decide who to claim child support from based on the ability to pay.
Ethel mermania wrote:The South Falls wrote:What about female maternity tests? thonk about that
Indeed. I have a story.
After 10 years, the wife starts to think their kid looks kinda strange so she decides to do a DNA test.
She finds out that the kid is actually from completely different parents.
Wife: Honey, I have something very serious to tell you
Husband: What’s up?
Wife: According to DNA test results, this is not our kid
Husband: Well you dont’t remember, do you?? When we were leaving the hospital, we noticed that our baby had pooped. Then you said: - Please go change the baby, I’ll wait for you here. So I went inside, got a clean one and left the dirty one there
LimaUniformNovemberAlpha wrote:Heloin wrote:Both of those sentiments are sexist.
Not really. Rape, by its original definition, requires a penis, hence the notion that women can only be potential sexual assaulters, at most. Likewise, women know the baby's hers, because they felt the baby emerge from their own womb. Men have no way of knowing this.
Thepeopl wrote:If you want a paternity test, that is a sign something is wrong in your relationship. Why would your girlfriend/ wife sleep with others if she is happy with you?
Thepeopl wrote:I am for open honest curiosity and good communication. If you do that in your relationship, you can tell each other your fantasy, your dreams and your wishes to bed other people. (If that wish existed)
Thepeopl wrote:If you want kinky stuff or just rpg, talk about it, pay attention to your SO. And your SO will feel safe to do the same and feel no urge to sleep around behind your back.
Galloism wrote:Ethel mermania wrote:
Indeed. I have a story.
After 10 years, the wife starts to think their kid looks kinda strange so she decides to do a DNA test.
She finds out that the kid is actually from completely different parents.
Wife: Honey, I have something very serious to tell you
Husband: What’s up?
Wife: According to DNA test results, this is not our kid
Husband: Well you dont’t remember, do you?? When we were leaving the hospital, we noticed that our baby had pooped. Then you said: - Please go change the baby, I’ll wait for you here. So I went inside, got a clean one and left the dirty one there
I'll admit it, I laughed.
Attempted Socialism wrote:The only argumentin I can see for why a woman would not pursue the actual father (If she even knows herself) would be power disparity; namely, a father with the power to contest parentage in court. I'd guess their financial situation is either unchanged or better. Your argument is even worse than I thought.
Researchers pawed through a host of scientific articles published around the world from 1950 through last year. The perceived "paternal discrepancy rate," as it is called, ranges from less than 1 percent to as high as 30 percent in the various studies. Most researchers believe the rate is less than 10 percent.
You mean the mandatory slut-shaming and distrust based on her gender for no viable reason at all? You're proposing a policy change on the basis that all women are automatically suspected of infidelity, and you can't see how that's a transgression? In my country, that insinuation would be libellous (And the discrimination based on gender makes it a rights violation).Okay, I gotta ask.
How is performing a mandatory paternity test a baby in any way a violation of the rights of women?