Cataluna wrote:I understand your sentiment here, but I think it misunderstands fundamentally that toxic masculinity addresses a systemic problem as opposed to an individual one.
I don't think you do.
"Toxic masculinity" is a catch all term. It means nothing. Officially it is defined negative aspects of masculinity. Unofficially it's "negative behaviours reinforced by men", which could be anything from being too confident to liking traditionally masculine things. What it principally represents is a fundamental lack of understanding of men and of masculinity, and attributes negative behaviours as being part of the male psychy, or socialised and rationalised by society as being attributes of men.
It's easy to see it as man-blaming, but truth be told, men are victims of it too. And while it'd be easy to say that "women's rights will make it all better", it's obviously more complex than that. Instead, working with men to reach a healthier masculinity and feminity will be beneficial to everyone. At least, that's the way I see it.
You can reach a "healthier masculinity" without tearing men down to do so.
Cataluna wrote:In what way are women the "primay enforcers" of male gender roles?
Women tend to be the primary enforcers of male gender roles because the way relationships tend to work is that the man is expected to conform to what you would call "toxic masculinity". Women expect their partners to be dominant, to take the initiative, to be the primary bread winners, etc. These are all roles and expectations in which men are expected to fulfill, and failure to do so results in rejection and ridicule. If you're familiar with the use of the term "Peter Pan syndrome", you'd know what I am talking about.