Scomagia wrote:Galloism wrote:Huh what?
Your experience is quite atypical in this regard, if the research we have (which isn’t a lot, admittedly), is to be believed.
That being said, my experience tends to match the research. If I tell another man my work or financial or personal worries, they tend to listen, be sympathetic, and try to offer suggestions. My female friends though tend to just try to change the subject or throw out platitudes like “you’ll power through it” and then change the subject.
Nana being the one very notable exception that proves the rule.
Just gonna tack my own experiences onto Gallo's, here:
In the six years that I have been a house husband/homemaker/domestic god, all of the derisive comments about being a "house bitch" and the like have come from women. I've never once had a man call me a "house bitch" or any other blatantly disrespectful term.When I tell women that I don't work, that I cook and clean and do other domestic things instead, they often become dismissive and rude, implying that I'm just lazy.
Men do not do this to me. If they find my marriage dynamic wrong or strange, they might make some jabs, but never to the point of being disrespectful. Those men tend to just gloss over it and move on to another topic.The most common reaction is respect, actually, and a desire to do the same, usually because they'd like to spend more time with their kids. Weirdly, it's like the men I've met value domestic skills more than a lot of the women I've met.
... And your wife? What does she think? Funny you somehow overlooked her.
Why would you care about what other women think?
How often do you interact with other women that aren't your wife, to the point that you get into heated discussions about it with them?
Cuz... My home life isn't really something that comes up in regular discussion with strangers, or even acquaintances or friends I interact with regularly.