TET: All Under Heaven

by **Chan Island** » Sun Mar 17, 2019 3:38 am

Jetan wrote:How much messaging in how short a time is appropriate when getting to know someone?

My guess is just treat it like regular correspondence.

The most important rule is never more than 3 messages in a row.

by **Gallade** » Sun Mar 17, 2019 4:27 am

Jetan wrote:How much messaging in how short a time is appropriate when getting to know someone?

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I'd there's radio silence, there's radio silence. It's not ghosting until day 3.

by **Ethel mermania** » Sun Mar 17, 2019 4:33 am

An Alan Smithee Nation wrote:I bought a piece of Indian film music from Amazon, Jaadu Hai Nasha Hai, and when I downloaded it the file name said it was from 'Jism'. Turns out that it is from a Bollywood remake of Body Heat, and 'Jism' is the Hindi name of the film, in English it would be 'Body'. I'm guessing it isn't getting translated into English because it is way funnier calling it Jism.

A bollywood version of Body Heat? Kathleen Turner body heat?

by **An Alan Smithee Nation** » Sun Mar 17, 2019 4:39 am

Ethel mermania wrote:
An Alan Smithee Nation wrote:I bought a piece of Indian film music from Amazon, Jaadu Hai Nasha Hai, and when I downloaded it the file name said it was from 'Jism'. Turns out that it is from a Bollywood remake of Body Heat, and 'Jism' is the Hindi name of the film, in English it would be 'Body'. I'm guessing it isn't getting translated into English because it is way funnier calling it Jism.

A bollywood version of Body Heat? Kathleen Turner body heat?

Yes
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jism_(2003_film)

I wonder where they fit in the dance numbers.

by **Ethel mermania** » Sun Mar 17, 2019 4:54 am

An Alan Smithee Nation wrote:
Ethel mermania wrote:A bollywood version of Body Heat? Kathleen Turner body heat?

Yes
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jism_(2003_film)

I wonder where they fit in the dance numbers.

During the plotting of the murder and the final gun shots I suppose.

I confess, I want to see it.

by **Jetan** » Sun Mar 17, 2019 5:13 am

Gallade wrote:
Jetan wrote:How much messaging in how short a time is appropriate when getting to know someone?

Send
Recieve
Send
Receive

I'd there's radio silence, there's radio silence. It's not ghosting until day 3.

True enough. No worries about radio silence, I felt like we clicked right away. I asked her out actually, but unfortunately it turns out she's married. If I'm drunk posting later today that'll be why.

by **Ethel mermania** » Sun Mar 17, 2019 5:20 am

Jetan wrote:
Gallade wrote:Send
Recieve
Send
Receive

I'd there's radio silence, there's radio silence. It's not ghosting until day 3.

True enough. No worries about radio silence, I felt like we clicked right away. I asked her out actually, but unfortunately it turns out she's married. If I'm drunk posting later today that'll be why.

Just because she is married doesnt mean she is enthusiastic about it

by **Hurdergaryp** » Sun Mar 17, 2019 5:20 am

Ethel mermania wrote:
Jetan wrote:True enough. No worries about radio silence, I felt like we clicked right away. I asked her out actually, but unfortunately it turns out she's married. If I'm drunk posting later today that'll be why.

Just because she is married doesnt mean she is enthusiastic about it

And here I insert the obligatory "Ethel, not everyone is like you".

by **Jetan** » Sun Mar 17, 2019 5:23 am

Ethel mermania wrote:
Jetan wrote:True enough. No worries about radio silence, I felt like we clicked right away. I asked her out actually, but unfortunately it turns out she's married. If I'm drunk posting later today that'll be why.

Just because she is married doesnt mean she is enthusiastic about it

Well, firstly, her reply - while gentle - definitely gave me the impression that she was serious about her marriage, and secondly, even if that wasn't the case cheating and dating on the side are wrong and I wouldn't want to be a part of that. She expressed a desire to be friends so I'll see about that, but I'd be lying if I said I wasn't dissapointed.

by **Ethel mermania** » Sun Mar 17, 2019 5:31 am

Hurdergaryp wrote:
Ethel mermania wrote:Just because she is married doesnt mean she is enthusiastic about it

And here I insert the obligatory "Ethel, not everyone is like you".

by **Gallade** » Sun Mar 17, 2019 5:50 am

Ethel mermania wrote:
Jetan wrote:True enough. No worries about radio silence, I felt like we clicked right away. I asked her out actually, but unfortunately it turns out she's married. If I'm drunk posting later today that'll be why.

Just because she is married doesnt mean she is enthusiastic about it

Pfft, monogamy amirite.

by **Hurdergaryp** » Sun Mar 17, 2019 5:51 am

Gallade wrote:
Ethel mermania wrote:Just because she is married doesnt mean she is enthusiastic about it

Pfft, monogamy amirite.

Another one of society's more efficient control mechanisms.

by **Gallade** » Sun Mar 17, 2019 5:53 am

Hurdergaryp wrote:
Gallade wrote:Pfft, monogamy amirite.

Another one of society's more efficient control mechanisms.

Whatever makes people happy, I'm just a bit of a greedy sod tbh.

by **Jetan** » Sun Mar 17, 2019 5:59 am

Gallade wrote:
Ethel mermania wrote:Just because she is married doesnt mean she is enthusiastic about it

Pfft, monogamy amirite.

To be honest, I have nothing against polyamory when it's mutuslly agreed on, but it's not necessarily for me. And i suspect I'm in the majority on that.

by **Ethel mermania** » Sun Mar 17, 2019 6:01 am

Jetan wrote:
Ethel mermania wrote:Just because she is married doesnt mean she is enthusiastic about it

Well, firstly, her reply - while gentle - definitely gave me the impression that she was serious about her marriage, and secondly, even if that wasn't the case cheating and dating on the side are wrong and I wouldn't want to be a part of that. She expressed a desire to be friends so I'll see about that, but I'd be lying if I said I wasn't dissapointed.

The firstly counts lots.

by **Jetan** » Sun Mar 17, 2019 6:04 am

Ethel mermania wrote:
Jetan wrote:Well, firstly, her reply - while gentle - definitely gave me the impression that she was serious about her marriage, and secondly, even if that wasn't the case cheating and dating on the side are wrong and I wouldn't want to be a part of that. She expressed a desire to be friends so I'll see about that, but I'd be lying if I said I wasn't dissapointed.

The firstly counts lots.

Yep. Just gonna booze my way through it.

by **Ethel mermania** » Sun Mar 17, 2019 6:05 am

Gallade wrote:
Ethel mermania wrote:Just because she is married doesnt mean she is enthusiastic about it

Pfft, monogamy amirite.

Everybody wants to be a cat.

by **Andsed** » Sun Mar 17, 2019 6:38 am

Jetan wrote:
Gallade wrote:Pfft, monogamy amirite.

To be honest, I have nothing against polyamory when it's mutuslly agreed on, but it's not necessarily for me. And i suspect I'm in the majority on that.

Same. I am of the philosophy of fuck who ever you wanna fuck as long as it is legal with all parties consenting and no harm is being done to anyone.

by **Hurdergaryp** » Sun Mar 17, 2019 6:40 am

Andsed wrote:
Jetan wrote:To be honest, I have nothing against polyamory when it's mutuslly agreed on, but it's not necessarily for me. And i suspect I'm in the majority on that.

Same. I am of the philosophy of fuck who ever you wanna fuck as long as it is legal with all parties consenting and no harm is being done to anyone.

A good rule, a solid rule.

by **Jetan** » Sun Mar 17, 2019 6:45 am

Andsed wrote:
Jetan wrote:To be honest, I have nothing against polyamory when it's mutuslly agreed on, but it's not necessarily for me. And i suspect I'm in the majority on that.

Same. I am of the philosophy of fuck who ever you wanna fuck as long as it is legal with all parties consenting and no harm is being done to anyone.

Exactly.

by **Dumb Ideologies** » Sun Mar 17, 2019 6:47 am

Andsed wrote:
Jetan wrote:To be honest, I have nothing against polyamory when it's mutuslly agreed on, but it's not necessarily for me. And i suspect I'm in the majority on that.

Same. I am of the philosophy of fuck who ever you wanna fuck as long as it is legal with all parties consenting and no harm is being done to anyone.

Consent is a complex thing and I suspect that if this sort of thing was more widely socially accepted a lot of emotional abusers would use it and the language of identity and social justice to pressurise their non-polyamorous partners into allowing them to cheat.

by **Jetan** » Sun Mar 17, 2019 6:56 am

Dumb Ideologies wrote:
Andsed wrote:Same. I am of the philosophy of fuck who ever you wanna fuck as long as it is legal with all parties consenting and no harm is being done to anyone.

Consent is a complex thing and I suspect that if this sort of thing was more widely socially accepted a lot of emotional abusers would use it and the language of identity and social justice to pressurise their non-polyamorous partners into allowing them to cheat.

That's also a fair point. A lot of people just plain suck.

by **Ethel mermania** » Sun Mar 17, 2019 6:58 am

Jetan wrote:
Dumb Ideologies wrote:
Consent is a complex thing and I suspect that if this sort of thing was more widely socially accepted a lot of emotional abusers would use it and the language of identity and social justice to pressurise their non-polyamorous partners into allowing them to cheat.

That's also a fair point. A lot of people just plain suck.

Most people.

by **Jetan** » Sun Mar 17, 2019 7:08 am

Ethel mermania wrote:
Jetan wrote:That's also a fair point. A lot of people just plain suck.

Most people.

I refuse to believe that. Othetwise I'd have to accept that a) I'll likely end up alone and b) it's entirely possible (propable, even) that I suck too.

by **Ethel mermania** » Sun Mar 17, 2019 7:10 am

Jetan wrote:
Ethel mermania wrote:Most people.

I refuse to believe that. Othetwise I'd have to accept that a) I'll likely end up alone and b) it's entirely possible (propable, even) that I suck too.

Fair enough, I for one, accept my inherent suckiness.

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