Salus Maior wrote:Neutraligon wrote:Considering this was discussing people who insist that trans individuals reveal they are trans on basically the first date, your point is kinda silly. Dating may be hard for cis-individuals, it can be deadly for those who are trans.
To be fair, it's a pretty important thing to know. 1. I mean, what are you going to do, keep it secret until you're in bed? That's not going to go over well.
2. Would you rather find out that the person you've been dating hates trans-people months into seeing them? Is that fair to you? Is that fair to them?
3. Honestly, the best idea would simply to not date people you haven't gotten to know properly. Which is something I would say to anyone, sex traffickers are a thing, psychos are a thing.
1. This was addressed earlier in the thread. You address it when the relationship starts getting serious, and well before any sex happens, and only when its safe to come out.
2. Actually, I would. As long as I'm safe and they're not trying to kill me for being trans, its all fair.
3. Some trans people are so deep stealth that they don't even come out to anyone. Up until a decade or two ago, that was the therapist-recommended route, to cut off all contact with family and friends, and start a new life somewhere else.